Finding a Place To Stay Is Always so Hectic and Filled with compromises
By theSids
@thesids (22180)
Bhubaneswar, India
July 14, 2011 4:46am CST
Hi friends 
,
Been a while that I have been away from mylot and those who are in touch with emoutside mylot, I havent even checked in my emails or chat accounts. I know a few are worried about me and have no place to hunt for me.
Well, things are not that good for me as they had been a few months ago. I will not complain about my last trip when I was away and from where it all started. The past few weeks, the erratic power supply at my place has got my refridgerator, mixer-grinder and even a fan dead. The land lored is just unwilling to do anything for fixing this power supply issue.
So I have shifted to my Dad's place as a temporary adjustment and am searching for a place to stay. Parents too want me to settle somewhere near there place so that I or they can visit more frequently. The good news is that today, I have found a place to stay but the bad part is (I should say are)- the place is quite distant from my wife's workplace, there are only two rooms (one bedroom and one kitchen with a small space (if you can use that as a drawing room)) and the rent is 1,500 higher than what we have been currently paying. Though the space is more which means we can fit almost everything in these two rooms but somehow I am not happy with this. However my wife and parents are quite happy with the house and have also deposited a small amount as a token of acceptance. We will be shifting on 1st Aug. And so again, there will be less of me anywhere on the Internet till August 5th or 6th (as I am sure, the Internet guys will take a week to get me the Internet there).
Oh, yes, we have not let go of the place where we are. We are paying the rentals for this month to that landlord too :(
To make this a discussion, you can help me with what I should do? or you can also share your story in case you had to make adjustments when shifting from one house to another.
Have a great day as always
Cheers,
theSids.
PS: Please dont worry in case you dont find me active until Aug. 6th. I would try my best to appear here but may be for a lesser time.
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Been a while that I have been away from mylot and those who are in touch with emoutside mylot, I havent even checked in my emails or chat accounts. I know a few are worried about me and have no place to hunt for me.
Well, things are not that good for me as they had been a few months ago. I will not complain about my last trip when I was away and from where it all started. The past few weeks, the erratic power supply at my place has got my refridgerator, mixer-grinder and even a fan dead. The land lored is just unwilling to do anything for fixing this power supply issue.
So I have shifted to my Dad's place as a temporary adjustment and am searching for a place to stay. Parents too want me to settle somewhere near there place so that I or they can visit more frequently. The good news is that today, I have found a place to stay but the bad part is (I should say are)- the place is quite distant from my wife's workplace, there are only two rooms (one bedroom and one kitchen with a small space (if you can use that as a drawing room)) and the rent is 1,500 higher than what we have been currently paying. Though the space is more which means we can fit almost everything in these two rooms but somehow I am not happy with this. However my wife and parents are quite happy with the house and have also deposited a small amount as a token of acceptance. We will be shifting on 1st Aug. And so again, there will be less of me anywhere on the Internet till August 5th or 6th (as I am sure, the Internet guys will take a week to get me the Internet there).
Oh, yes, we have not let go of the place where we are. We are paying the rentals for this month to that landlord too :(
To make this a discussion, you can help me with what I should do? or you can also share your story in case you had to make adjustments when shifting from one house to another.
Have a great day as always
Cheers,
theSids.
PS: Please dont worry in case you dont find me active until Aug. 6th. I would try my best to appear here but may be for a lesser time.5 people like this
16 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
dear sids,
Good to see you again my dear brother. :)
I guess you have to stay with the same house and have everything fixed,or might try to find a new rented house near your wife's working place.
But,if you really wish to shift to that new house that your parents found good/suits for you and your wife,then go for it my dear brother.
I know it's really hard shifting/moving to new house.
I can still remember when we moved to our new house after we sold the old one,it takes a week before i was able to settle things in it's proper place.(whew!)
Take care of your health and hope you are doing fine and feeling much better 
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Good to see you again my dear brother. :)
I guess you have to stay with the same house and have everything fixed,or might try to find a new rented house near your wife's working place.
But,if you really wish to shift to that new house that your parents found good/suits for you and your wife,then go for it my dear brother.
I know it's really hard shifting/moving to new house.
I can still remember when we moved to our new house after we sold the old one,it takes a week before i was able to settle things in it's proper place.(whew!)
Take care of your health and hope you are doing fine and feeling much better 
@funnysis (2619)
• United States
20 Jul 11
Hi thesids,glad to see you back for a short period of time.I am sad that you have to move from a place where you had grown comfortable at and do not understand why the landlord would not fix the problem for you as good renters are hard to come by,on the other hand I am glad that you found you a new place to live and hope that you will grow to like it as well.It will take some adjusting but maybe it will be worth it.I can tell you I do not like to move and am very happy with where I am at and hope to be able to stay here for along while.I wish you luck my friend and have a great day.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
14 Jul 11
Bhai!Whenever I don't hear from you , I just assume you are busy . I had no idea you were going through all of this! Please say hello to Bahu. I think it is a good sign her parents are willing to help out! That is the good news with all of this. It is Always stressful when you move. I remember feeling anxious during moves I Was looking forward to! I hope you can make your new place a home. but then again you and Bahu alone make a home! I wish I could fly over and help pack. That's the worse part , having to pack and then un pack. A suggestion.Color Code the boxes. Like blue for bedroom, Orange for kitchen. That may help and make the last box , with your toiletries , the first box you unpack. Oh Bhai I want to wish you all the happiness in your new place. I will not start worrying until after the 5th , I promise. August 5th was my dad's birthday, a date easy to remember.There is a tradition here that when you move into a new place you bring salt a broom and you burn sage to cleanse the place of bad vibes. Here is some sage.
Whenever I don't hear from you , I just assume you are busy . I had no idea you were going through all of this! Please say hello to Bahu. I think it is a good sign her parents are willing to help out! That is the good news with all of this. It is Always stressful when you move. I remember feeling anxious during moves I Was looking forward to! I hope you can make your new place a home. but then again you and Bahu alone make a home! I wish I could fly over and help pack. That's the worse part , having to pack and then un pack. A suggestion.Color Code the boxes. Like blue for bedroom, Orange for kitchen. That may help and make the last box , with your toiletries , the first box you unpack. Oh Bhai I want to wish you all the happiness in your new place. I will not start worrying until after the 5th , I promise. August 5th was my dad's birthday, a date easy to remember.There is a tradition here that when you move into a new place you bring salt a broom and you burn sage to cleanse the place of bad vibes. Here is some sage. 
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Jul 11
Wow. I didn't think about the G-ds! They Must be handled with care!It sounds like you two are organized. I got your email. Thanks Bhai! I am so happy.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Jul 11
Hi behen
Thanks for supporting the idea and inculcating in me some hope that things are for better. I have asked your bahu to do the same and I think she would do that. She has planned to go to the house first and clean it (sweeping and washing), and then that evening she would transfer the idols of Gods there. The next day, we will shift. She thinks that is the right way and has been doing this everytime we relocated.
The packages could not be color coded but yes, I have put some text on all of them indicating what is where and also numbered them so that unpacking would be easier.
We are shifting on 31st of this month and I hope that I would be more online after or from 5th.
ps: I also need to send an email to you.
Thanks for supporting the idea and inculcating in me some hope that things are for better. I have asked your bahu to do the same and I think she would do that. She has planned to go to the house first and clean it (sweeping and washing), and then that evening she would transfer the idols of Gods there. The next day, we will shift. She thinks that is the right way and has been doing this everytime we relocated.
The packages could not be color coded but yes, I have put some text on all of them indicating what is where and also numbered them so that unpacking would be easier.
We are shifting on 31st of this month and I hope that I would be more online after or from 5th.
ps: I also need to send an email to you.1 person likes this
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
14 Jul 11
Hi Sidhu,
I am not sure whether I should be counted
It is the curse for us, as we are staying in a rented room but I wonder why the land lord is not ready to restore the supply of electricity. Here the people are so fast as they want the rent and they are happy with those who are paying the rent perfectly. Anyway I am happy that you got another place and I think other people are happy, then why you are worried. What about your wife, is she ready to adjust? When in need we can live in small place even with a large family, I mean the circumstances demand so…
Ok dear, I am also busy but when I seen your topic could not spare the same without my reply. See you later and all the best 
I am not sure whether I should be counted
It is the curse for us, as we are staying in a rented room but I wonder why the land lord is not ready to restore the supply of electricity. Here the people are so fast as they want the rent and they are happy with those who are paying the rent perfectly. Anyway I am happy that you got another place and I think other people are happy, then why you are worried. What about your wife, is she ready to adjust? When in need we can live in small place even with a large family, I mean the circumstances demand so…
Ok dear, I am also busy but when I seen your topic could not spare the same without my reply. See you later and all the best
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Jul 11
Hi didi
Still a week before we shift. Our current landlord belives that he can always get more money and this is one reason he doesnt want to change anything. Yesterday, he has managed to get a family (I am sure they will leave soon too) who would be paying 6k (One thosand more than us in the same conditions).
For my wife, she is more eager to relocate as she believes that she can get her sleep better in that new place as here it is mostly disturbed due to power cuts.
Still a week before we shift. Our current landlord belives that he can always get more money and this is one reason he doesnt want to change anything. Yesterday, he has managed to get a family (I am sure they will leave soon too) who would be paying 6k (One thosand more than us in the same conditions).
For my wife, she is more eager to relocate as she believes that she can get her sleep better in that new place as here it is mostly disturbed due to power cuts.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
14 Jul 11
Hi SID..
Hope you will be adjust at new place happily soon. Sorry that i will not able to give any idea now as I am facing the similar problem in regular intervals.
I mean we leave in town. But due to mine work and other things I leave in rented flat in city. Sometimes with family sometimes alone. And i found similar problems as i have to change the home in 6 or 12 months due to some problems. And its really headache to found newer one. But some how I manage it and settle down the things. So i am sure you will settle the problem soon enough... BEST OF LUCK
Hope you will be adjust at new place happily soon. Sorry that i will not able to give any idea now as I am facing the similar problem in regular intervals.
I mean we leave in town. But due to mine work and other things I leave in rented flat in city. Sometimes with family sometimes alone. And i found similar problems as i have to change the home in 6 or 12 months due to some problems. And its really headache to found newer one. But some how I manage it and settle down the things. So i am sure you will settle the problem soon enough... BEST OF LUCK @thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Jul 11
Hi AKP
You are quite right that at this moment, giving advice is not easy. But yes, for me, I do not have much of a choice. It seems all in the family are happy with the new location and so I have to find happiness there as many would be unhappy if I dont get into that one.
This new place has just two rooms (we have to use one as a kitchen). This is what concerns me because we have been accustomes to staying in a three room flat for about a year or more. And worst is that these rooms have no racks on the windows. We had asked the new landlord to put in some pipes in the second room that we could use as kitchen. What worries me is the fact that my wife will have to struggle more to cook and I believe me cooking would be a problem due to my arthritis. I hope that I start earning better and regular once we arrive there so that we can buy some more articles to set up a small kitchen in that room.
You are quite right that at this moment, giving advice is not easy. But yes, for me, I do not have much of a choice. It seems all in the family are happy with the new location and so I have to find happiness there as many would be unhappy if I dont get into that one.
This new place has just two rooms (we have to use one as a kitchen). This is what concerns me because we have been accustomes to staying in a three room flat for about a year or more. And worst is that these rooms have no racks on the windows. We had asked the new landlord to put in some pipes in the second room that we could use as kitchen. What worries me is the fact that my wife will have to struggle more to cook and I believe me cooking would be a problem due to my arthritis. I hope that I start earning better and regular once we arrive there so that we can buy some more articles to set up a small kitchen in that room.
@GardenGerty (157581)
• United States
15 Jul 11
I just hope that all goes smoothly as you shift homes and that you can manage the bad along with the good part of visiting family more often.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
18 Jul 11
hi brother...hope u r feeling better now...
its sad to hear that u have to undergo so many problem with the health not favoring you...hope u will be able to cope up with the new place...i have never faced this problem as we have our own house and we keep making changes in it as per our needs...recently we got two rooms added at the top as children are growing up and they need peace and privacy when they are studying...i know it becomes very difficult to adjust with small place....but then when u have to rent a place u can't find all the things at one place..right?...wish that u find it good soon after living there for some time...
its sad to hear that u have to undergo so many problem with the health not favoring you...hope u will be able to cope up with the new place...i have never faced this problem as we have our own house and we keep making changes in it as per our needs...recently we got two rooms added at the top as children are growing up and they need peace and privacy when they are studying...i know it becomes very difficult to adjust with small place....but then when u have to rent a place u can't find all the things at one place..right?...wish that u find it good soon after living there for some time...
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Jul 11
HI Sids,
I am so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through such a tough time. I've been in some tough spots with living arrangements in the past so I can kind of relate to the stress you are dealing with. It sounds like you really don't like your new home much at all. Since your wife does and money has already been put down on it, I don't think there is much you can do. I'm hoping you'll come to like it once you are all in there. I'm sorry that I don't have any good advice to offer up but just know that I'm wishing you the best. This will all work out.
I am so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through such a tough time. I've been in some tough spots with living arrangements in the past so I can kind of relate to the stress you are dealing with. It sounds like you really don't like your new home much at all. Since your wife does and money has already been put down on it, I don't think there is much you can do. I'm hoping you'll come to like it once you are all in there. I'm sorry that I don't have any good advice to offer up but just know that I'm wishing you the best. This will all work out. @JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Hi thesids! I have been worried about you and am so glad to hear you are ok.
I have had to move in my past and the best advice that I can give is go where you will be happy. The landlord and the powersupply problem is terrible. I hate it when people think they are going to manage property and then never want to fix anything ot take care of their renters.
The new house sounds ideal but it has to fit your liking too. How does your wife feel about the move so far from work? Is she ok with it?
I know your parents will be very happy to have you closer.
I do hope everything works out well for you and I am anxious for you to be back with us here in August.
Take care
@anil02 (24688)
• India
16 Jul 11
Hello Sidh, Happy to see you here after long intervel. In fact house is a problem. After paying enough rent we cannot have a house of our interest. I was live for more than 15 years in rented house. Every house have some problem. Now I have my own house. It is good you will live nearby your parents. Why you don't live with your parents.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Hi thesids
I have missed you dearly, my friend. I have constantly wondered if you and your wife were okay. Yes dear I do know what adjustments are like. Having been bounced from home to home as a child was not fun and so unstable for me. So I use to own my own home and did so for 20 years. Due to the loss of my job I no longer own my beautiful home and thankfully moved in with my boyfriend. My house was three floors and with so much stuff that I donated away. Upon moving in with my boyfriend I found myself crammed in a small tiny apartment. Where I no longer have all my things organized and separately. Though I have grown to love this as my home, I have never been one hundred percent happy living here.
My boyfriend does make up for the losses of course but something about missing my own place to stretch is hard to deal with for which I have been dealing with now for 7 years and do you know I still have several boxes unpacked and many filled suit cases. Simply because there is no room, like I had before, and well I have to make due. 
thesids, sweetie, here is to making a bad situation into a blessing, dear friend. Hoping you and your wife a soon and happy adjustment. My prayers my friend and I too will be lessening my time here during my last week in July. I am going to Arkansas where we will discuss the possibility of my moving there at the end of the year. I will be away for 3 weeks. Miss you my dear friend.
I have missed you dearly, my friend. I have constantly wondered if you and your wife were okay. Yes dear I do know what adjustments are like. Having been bounced from home to home as a child was not fun and so unstable for me. So I use to own my own home and did so for 20 years. Due to the loss of my job I no longer own my beautiful home and thankfully moved in with my boyfriend. My house was three floors and with so much stuff that I donated away. Upon moving in with my boyfriend I found myself crammed in a small tiny apartment. Where I no longer have all my things organized and separately. Though I have grown to love this as my home, I have never been one hundred percent happy living here.
My boyfriend does make up for the losses of course but something about missing my own place to stretch is hard to deal with for which I have been dealing with now for 7 years and do you know I still have several boxes unpacked and many filled suit cases. Simply because there is no room, like I had before, and well I have to make due.
thesids, sweetie, here is to making a bad situation into a blessing, dear friend. Hoping you and your wife a soon and happy adjustment. My prayers my friend and I too will be lessening my time here during my last week in July. I am going to Arkansas where we will discuss the possibility of my moving there at the end of the year. I will be away for 3 weeks. Miss you my dear friend. 
@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
15 Jul 11
Hello Thesids,
I see you've been busy lately that you haven't commented your responses. I hope everything is OK with you and your family (considering that there are still two weeks until the day you have to move to the new place).
I think it would be better if you liked the new place, too. But, knowing how much you love your wife, if she's happy with it, you should share the same enthusiasm for that place.
I think the best place for living is the place you own. You don't have any landlord to knock on your door, asking for money or who knows what. You can do whatever change you like because the place is yours and nobody is allowed to interfere.
If you ask me where I'd like to live, now that I just returned from a mountain trip, I'd answer: in a cabin on top of the mountain. Like this one:
@changjiangzhibin89 (16537)
• China
15 Jul 11
I can well imagine how terrible it is that there is frequently power failure in the hot weather.Didn't the land lored have household electric appliances? Moving house time and again may be quite a bother to everyone.Many things are made from scratch.Hope you are in good health!
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 11
Hello TheSids,
After a long time i have been seeing you but i can understand the reasons why you were not here.
This was due to HIGH voltage/fluctuating voltage power supply at your place.I would suggest you to fit stabilizer for main supply next time where you are going to shift as it happens sometimes if we get abrupt power supply. If it cost more than to use stabilizers for appliances like refrigerator,T.V and other costlier appliances.
I remember my TV was also burnt due to HV in the past. I do have stabilizer for main supply but at that time it was switched OFF because normally we have some stabilized supply in day time.
As far as your shifting to new house i will suggest you to stay at old one & get you wiring changed & stabilizer fit in your house because of your wife as it becomes difficult for working women to go far from home for work.Secondly you told it is costlier than the old one in terms of rent. If space is the constraint then you should move to the new place.
This was due to HIGH voltage/fluctuating voltage power supply at your place.I would suggest you to fit stabilizer for main supply next time where you are going to shift as it happens sometimes if we get abrupt power supply. If it cost more than to use stabilizers for appliances like refrigerator,T.V and other costlier appliances.
I remember my TV was also burnt due to HV in the past. I do have stabilizer for main supply but at that time it was switched OFF because normally we have some stabilized supply in day time.
As far as your shifting to new house i will suggest you to stay at old one & get you wiring changed & stabilizer fit in your house because of your wife as it becomes difficult for working women to go far from home for work.Secondly you told it is costlier than the old one in terms of rent. If space is the constraint then you should move to the new place.
@AngelMary621 (20)
• United States
14 Jul 11
Agreed. Switching homes can be quite stressful. You mentioned that your parents and your wife are happier with the new house, but are you? Ultimately I know that being married it is always a compromise but if you are purely dissatisfied that would not make for a happy home. I can reltate to renting and having terrible landlords. This is an enormous downside to renting. I recently purchased my own home to avoid going through those types of horror stories. However, now every issue that I encounter I must pay out of my own pocket!
My suggestion would to not settle for the new place if you are unhappy with it, especially since the rent is way more expensive. I would stay with your parents just a little while longer until you and your wife find a place that you both will really enjoy!
Best of Luck!
