learning to take a "joke"

Sadly there are mean spirited folks out there that, for whatever reason, enjoy putting others down with their so called ‘jokes’! The best solution would be to ignore or confront them but unfortunately it is not always easy. The most important thing to remember is that their ugly nature is entirely their problem and has nothing to do with you.

I know what you mean. Alot of people like to put other people down or supposedly give them positive criticism but it turns out to be very hurtful. they usually say they were just joking too though but it is no laughing matter.

I know exactly what you are talking about. I remove myself from the presence of these type of people as much as possible and when I can't, I just have to remember that they have low self esteem and are just trying to make themselves feel better. If you look into the lives of the people who act this way, in my experience anyway, this has proven to be true time and time again.

I sometimes think that not so much hateful, but often times ignorance is the root element for this type of thing. I still don't think it is right though. I have suffered this "joking" you speak of. Being called names, but in a pretend joking manner is cruel regardless. I don't believe harsh joking is healthy. For those who do this, it's just a way to be hurtful to another person and get away with it. I don't like, deal with, or care to be around anyone who does this.

Well, I maybe not confident enough to express a joke but I'm proud to say I know how to take joke. Whether it is mean or nice, I can take with no problems and no hard feelings! :)

Well I think a joke should be kept as a joke. It shouldn't be taken seriously but should be taken lightly as possible. As for me, I always joke around people whenever they have a problem or is sad. I do find joking and goofing around as something to divert them from those problems. It really depends on the one you will pul off the joke with. If you guys are close enough or is very comfortable with each other then joking is quite a normal thing and you are sure that you are really helping the other one out of her sadness. But if you are going to pull it off someone who really don't know your personality or aren't close to begin with, I think the joke will come out as strong and not positive either.

I can take a mean joke by my family because they know how to do it in a way that I know they don't mean it for real and they know the boundaries. Strangers are a little harder to take because they don't know me well enough that they might hit on a nerve. Some people say their "jokes" in such a way that of course you're going to take them seriously then they're all "Learn to take a joke". Well learn to use the right tone in your voice so that I know you're joking. Its almost as dumb as people expecting you to pick up sarcasm over the internet.

That depends on how people say it. Sometimes they don't mean a thing and we took it seriously. But there are also times that they really mean it and say it's just a joke. Some people are too tactless and never think twice when saying something and regret after. i will surely asks what they really mean if i feel it's not good to my hearing.

Sometimes people can spit out harsh words and follow it up with a wise line like "We're just trying to make you think positive" or something. It's just for them to get away from the wrong they're done. It's always easy to shrug it off, anyway, so just ignore the nasty comments and if it really crossed the line, then you should do something about it.

I not sure if I understand whats being said. However, I think there are some things that should not be joked about like abuse, ra pe etc. However,jokes are sometimes ok depending on stuff like who it is coming from and what the joke is.