Who Do You Consider Your Closest Friends?
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
July 23, 2011 3:05pm CST
Many of us here have the need to have friends. Many of us might even feel that it is important to have friends in all realms of work, or life that we are experiencing at the time. This could be friends that are really just mere acquaintances we really would never get together with outside of work, or friends we make due to working with them getting together outside of work, or the ones we meet and stay friends with no matter what for many yrs.
Looking back I would say I have a lot of different types of friends, and many I know I can count on no matter what. Many it might not be of Financial value to be able to count on them, and that is OK. I am only wanting to consider someone as a friend in someone I can trust and count on who will be there for support when things are not going well, and many times just to be there for Prayer for me when things are not going the Best with my health as well.
I know I have friends I can say have only been my friends for less than a yr, those I have been friends with like around 3-5 yrs, those who have been friends most of my adult life, and then those who I have been friends with since childhood. Even when there might be a lot of distance in miles, many of these are people I know I can count on to share a message with, a smile with, and many times thoughts of Prayers as well. Even here there are many people I would consider a True friend if I had to count on them.
Do you cherish your friends? Do you take time to let them know you appreciate them? Having a Friend is something special and we can never really appreciate enough.
~~TINA~~
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
My closest friends are the ones I made in college. I still hangout with them but since I got hired for a full time job our time got really limited. My offs are scheduled on the weekends so I don't have time to hangout with them anymore. Hopefully, though, my offs get moved to the weekends.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Aug 11
Sometimes it is hard with the busy lifestyles and life in general to sometimes find the time to get together with Friends like when you were younger. There always seems to be more things getting in the way. And when you all find yourself working different shifts and days this can be a huge factor as well. You might just have to take time out and find time to do more things you all enjoy.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Well I am hoping in a way to be able to find more time to hang out with some of my friends who work different shifts than me somehow. Maybe try and make time on the weekend before they have to head off to work or something. Because friendships are the complex of everyone's life for sure.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
Yep, having different shifts is a tough one especially if you really wanna hangout with friends to unwind. It's really relieving hanging out with them because all my stress just goes away with all the laughs we're having.
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@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jul 11
We all need friends of some sort. To be excepted and have someone to share things with and have a history with. And, yes, someone we can trust and count on. I have had several acquaintances in my life too. Those that proved not to be good friends. I have had really good friends and really odd ones. I don't take enought time to show them I appreciate them. Like my BFF. Thank you for reminding me I need to send her a card.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
31 Jul 11
Yes, that can sometimes be a problem. We meet people in our lives, and allow them to become a friend and someone we know we can Trust in and confide in and get help from when we need them, and then often forget to Thank them when we feel they deserve it the most. There are many of my closer friends especially now with all the Health issues I am going thru that I am taking time to thank and let them know how much I appreciate them for sure.
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@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jul 11
I have my BFF on Facebook now. SHe didn't have a PC until just recently. Now we chat almost nightly. I think when we are sick or have something traumatic in our lives we quickly see who our friends really are.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Aug 11
Is that not the Truth. In reality I think most of the time that is when we find out where we want to transpire from there. With all that is going on in my life right now due to my Health I have learned a lot, and found I have some friends I never thought to be so close, and made some New friends thru all of this as well.
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@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
24 Jul 11
My best friend is my wife. I have several acquaintances but very few friends. I have spent my working career in law enforcement and didn't make a lot of friends. Seems I met mostly crooks, criminals and other law breakers and I didn't want them as friends.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Personally I have always heard that the Best way besides developing a love for the Lord in a relationship and learning to trust him for everything, your Best friend should be your spouse and should stick closer to them than any other because without them there is no reason to be married for sure.
@marguicha (216305)
• Chile
23 Jul 11
I have several very good friends. They are there for me when I need them and I do the same for them.
Real friends are not the people with whom you go to parties, but the people that will lend you their shoulder so you can cry.
I cherish my true friends and do whatever I can for them.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
29 Jul 11
That is the Truth. Real friends are the ones that will be there no matter what is going on and want to give their time and tears to make sure that you will be OK.
@marguicha (216305)
• Chile
30 Jul 11
I have felt how blessed I am with their friendship now that I´m ill. They pamper me in the most incredible ways.
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@rameshchow (4426)
• India
24 Jul 11
"we never expect their love on us with force", we will do our level best for them. Be transparent and we have to give sweet memories to them, then they consider us. We also keep faith in them.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Aug 11
So true... We have to develop a Trust in them, and then for us, and desire more from them. A lot of times it will not last, but for the moment it is all that we can many times hope for.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
24 Jul 11
It might sound hard, but during my entire life I am my own closest friend, who is always there for me in the midst of hell or existential emergency. I have fought and struggled for my own life. Many times, when I was crying or asked for help or comfort or someone being there for me - there was nobody there. I've learnt to be my own supporter, comforter any thing I needed. People and friends I spend time with I enjoy the moment as for that time being, then everyone have their important life matters. I, myself on the other hand have been there for other people I know or do not know of. I say; I'm doing altrustic gestures for others.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
24 Jul 11
I have a couple of true friends other than my family and they are worth their weight in gold. They are far away but we keep in touch by phone and email and even though they aren't here with me, the thought of them strengthens me in times of sadness or trouble. We can tell each other anything and will do anything for each other. If I never have another friend, I will count myself blessed for these true friends that I have now.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Aug 11
It is always nice to have True friends that you can count on no matter what you are going through. When you have friends in your life you know you can lean on in times of sadness and trouble that makes life more worthwhile.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
24 Jul 11
I do cherish my friends. Have had some of them for many, many years & they are the best. I have been very disappointed in some of them lately but guess they just had me fooled into thinking they were my friends. I find this very hard to accept & understand.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Personally I think this is just a part of life. Even with longtime standing friends there will be times that they will disappoint you and you will wonder why. All I can say is do not let it get you down too bad. Maybe things have happened to make them now feel this way, or they are just going thru a rough time themselves. No matter what it means it is time to move on while sometimes considering if you should add on or accept new friends in your life as well.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
24 Jul 11
It is so true that friends are valuable treasures and true friends are rare and special. I have a friend that I have known since around 1989 or so and she and I have been through thick and thin together; we even lived under the same roof for an entire year and we are still good mates. She moved away for a few years and we did lose touch but when she returned it felt like she had never left. I value her a great deal and she is one of the few people in my life that accepts me completely for who I am. I have another two dear friends that I have known for ten and five years and I would trust them with my life. Time and distance rarely interfere with real friendship I believe.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Aug 11
It is always nice to have people like that. Especially when you have been apart for some time and come back and find out that things are just as when you left them. Good feeling for sure.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
24 Jul 11
I have known my best friend for 4 years. She lives in another part of the country and we don't meet that often anymore, but we call eachother and exchange text messages. Sometimes we chat on the internet or exhange emails. She hasn't visited me since I moved, because she can't afford it at the moment, but I hope that we will get the chance to meet later this year. I have another close friend who also lives in another part of the country. We have known eachother since 2003, but there was a long period where we didn't talk much. Now we often talk on the phone or chat on Facebook.
I don't have any friends from my childhood, but I have a friend that I have known for 14 years. We have travelled together and done many things together when we were both single. Now I am married and he has a girlfriend, but we still keep in touch and when we met my husband and his girlfriend usually join us and we have a great time together.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Aug 11
It is interesting though the people you can still connect with many yrs. even months later even when you have not been able to talk for a while. The cool thing is having the chance to connect and keep in contact via the Internet with them still, besides the phone and text messaging is a great thing for sure.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
24 Jul 11
I am lucky enough to have of close friends. One I have known since grade school. Some since Jr & Sr. High school. A few live out of State and I don't talk to them very much, but we keep in touch with emails etc. Only one that I had met when I was working. Most of them from work I didn't keep in touch with. I try and let them know they are special to me, but I probably don't do a good enough job. I send them cards for no real occasion, telling them in person would probably be better, but I am not good at that kind of thing.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
31 Jul 11
Yes, being able to remember to show your friends how much you care is important but one thing many of us forget to do for sure. The problem can be we often think they know how we are feeling and so we tend to get too busy with life, etc. and often leave them wondering what is up for sure.
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@Tina30219 (81549)
• Onaway, Michigan
23 Jul 11
I have more than one good friend and I cherish them all. There are certain things that I tell one friend that I will not tell the others. Most of my good friends know each other but they are not close friends.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
31 Jul 11
It is so True. A True friend will be there for you and you can confide in them not worrying if they will tell everyone else. Most of the time they are friends or acquaintances with others that you know, but many may not be able to confide in you the way they can. I honestly think that that is what makes us unique as we can find those we can relate too and relate with even when no one else can.
@pringu (151)
• India
24 Jul 11
Hi krause, having friends especially the ones that are so close to you are a great advantage to have. But, in my opinion, lots of friends could just backfire you at some point of time in your life rather, it would be always nice to have a few friends who you feel could stand by you or help you in times of adversities.
Good true friends are always a great treasure since, they could be way nice and better than our own family members or relatives. M someone who doesn't make lots of friends but then, the ones i have are very true to me and like being with them at all times although, i have others too who could be regarded as friends but then, i keep some distance with them.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Aug 11
That is true. You do find out that some of the friends will be there thru the thick and thin no matter what you are going thru and would gladly give you their shirt off their back if they could, while others are there to talk with you, but to really be able to relate with them would be another story for sure.
@AngelHope2011 (199)
• United States
24 Jul 11
I had close friends when I was in elementary school. But when I moved away from where I live now, I lost touch with them. I wish I could get back in contact with them because I knew some of these people for more than three years. I haven't kept in close contact with anyone for years. I guess I'm a lone wolf.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Well, there were friends I had while growing up that when I moved away later yrs. as an adult I always wondered about, and wanted to somehow contact them again if I could. Personally for me this is the Great thing about Facebook. It helped me to reconnect with quite a few childhood friends, and people I have not heard from in ages. So for me this was the way to reconnect and very much worth it.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Jul 11
i can say that one of the closest friends i ever had is my wife. although there are some few things that could not be told or revealed to her... but in mylot, i found another set of closed friends. i cannot name them all. but the friendship, the warmth is something that cannot be compared. although we cannot communicate at each other personally and frequently, we know that whenever there comes a problem with our lives, we have someone here that will listen. and when help is needed, sometimes not even prayers will come even financial help.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
Hi Krause sometimes I can say its better that I don't have best friends/close rather than have that never stay for long during times of problems and crisis. Sometimes I could say, if you have plenty of money you have also plenty of friends around sucking like leech on whatever you have..sorry but it is true based on my experience - in my own life.
They (close friends) never shown up these days because I am already in scarcity. There were couple of them stayed but never hold on, we're expecting them not financially but morally - but nowhere to be found.
Now I already know and I will inject this always in my mind never expect too much from your best friends you might just get into frustration and discouragement. But, expect the unexpected from not your best friend. This is what had happened to me a couple of months ago. Isn't it a shame, but since they offered their help and you're really in need (financial) I accept with great admiration and appreciation..
You have a good topic hope lots of our friends here would share their thoughts in terms of friendship.. more power...and keep it up friend
Mobhomeir here..
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Mobhomeir here..
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
23 Jul 11
That's cool because I just got off the phone with a friend I haven't spoken to in years.. even though we caught up it was like no time has passed...can't wait to have coffee with her again soon! I do know that it's been said you learn who your true friends are when you go through the tough times and over the last 3 years while I have been in this crisis state with my son I have been shocked to find out who my true friends really are...you just can't trust everyone who calls themself a friend!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
29 Jul 11
Well, I have truly learned who some of my True friends are with all the Health issues that I am going thru at this time. I have even been able to make a couple more who I know I can count on. Personally I feel when you are going thru hard times knowing there are people there who care, and are Praying for you, and will help you out if needed that is what we really need.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Aug 11
Hello Tina! 
My closets and most trusted friend is my boyfriend of almost eight years. I can go to him for just about anything and always get sound, constructive advice and or set straightening. He is always there for me and ever so grateful. I have never felt this way about anyone before and am really blessed to have him in my life.
As for others, yes I thought I had several, but sadly these days I being unemployed all forgot I existed. I did not want to believe that perhaps because I can no longer help them that they cannot at least send me a message to see if anyway they can simply say hello. But I suppose during trying and difficult times in our lives it is then we do know who is and who is not a true friend of ours. I have learned the hard way and thankful to my boyfriend for allowing me to accept that it is this way sadly sometimes.
My closets and most trusted friend is my boyfriend of almost eight years. I can go to him for just about anything and always get sound, constructive advice and or set straightening. He is always there for me and ever so grateful. I have never felt this way about anyone before and am really blessed to have him in my life.
As for others, yes I thought I had several, but sadly these days I being unemployed all forgot I existed. I did not want to believe that perhaps because I can no longer help them that they cannot at least send me a message to see if anyway they can simply say hello. But I suppose during trying and difficult times in our lives it is then we do know who is and who is not a true friend of ours. I have learned the hard way and thankful to my boyfriend for allowing me to accept that it is this way sadly sometimes.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Hi!
I must say that my closest friend and best friend is my mom. When I was young, I always had issues dealing with people. When I am around people I know, I get so quiet and speechless. When I'm around people I don't know, I can talk more especially when it comes to educational discussions.
My mom would encourage me to talk and be friends with people as no man is an island. But I really feel sad as I can't do that. I have always like been a shadow to my mom... I'm always following her wherever she goes when we are together.
So she's my closest friend and my best friend. But now, I'm starting to learn how to be friendly. Honestly, my problem is when can I call someone a friend. I'm afraid I call them friend but they don't think the same. So when somebody calls me a friend, then I say he/she is my friend (if I think we've been going enough and we might be really friends).
So I'm in the process of overcoming this feeling. I think I can succeed. I just need a little more time. But yes, we need to cherish our friends in order to maintain the friendship.
As Proverbs 18:24 says, "There exist companions disposed to break one another to pieces, but there exists a friend sticking closer than a brother."
@bholebaba19 (307)
• India
7 Aug 11
Hi friend,first of all happy friendship day,I have 5to 6 friends which I feel very close to me ,because we have very good bonding with each other and when ever we want support from our friends,we don't want to say anything,they are always behind me.
