It must be lovely to have people to take care of you
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
July 30, 2011 7:41am CST
It's funny how people change throughout the years. A person I didn't socialize with, but was nice in high school is on my friends list. She's changed a lot, I don't really socialize with her, but she's always talking about how her parents take care of her. That is great, I am glad for her, she also has a job and has the freedom to spend her money on whatever she wants.
That must be nice. People grow up differently, are allowed to do different things. I was taught to take care of myself, if I wanted it it'd better be a good reason to have it, or I'm buying it myself. My first cellphone my dad actually got for me, but when I was living with my grandparents, they wouldn't get me one. They said, you have to buy it yourself and take care of it yourself if you want one.
It's taught me the value of money, other life lessons has also taught me the value of money.
My grandmother will give money out more freely then my grandfather, so through the years it was always asking my grandmother, but the things I've learned from my grandfather still rang true. The value of money, only buy what's necessary. Consider your purchases.
I am about to start a new job, I'm excited, and I will want to spend my money but I have certain responsibilities before I can have that luxury. First I need to save up for things I need, such as storage containers, etc, I'll need to save up money for an apartment, a car, etc.
If I need anything it will be doing a lot of purchases from thrift stores, or through cash back sites online. I've already planned out how I'm going to do things. I guess I don't understand those who spend their money so freely, I did in the past, and it got me in nothing but trouble, I had no one to fall back on to give me the money to bail me out, some people do, that's great, but they won't always have them.
What do you think?
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@13tyates (1606)
• United States
30 Jul 11
This is one of those things that personally gets my blood boiling. Why should a person rely on parents or grandparents once they get past a certain age. Now I am NOT saying like you have attempted and it did not work. I am saying those that stay with them, get fed every day by a golden platter, and do not attempt at a job. For me that person will never make it... when those parents pass away they will be in trouble. So I always say jump out there and give it a try and see how it goes... 
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Jul 11
I agree, the person I am talking about, well she has a job, and I don't know her whole story but just by he statuses she's too spoilt. She lives at home, maybe she has a legit reason, but she's my age she needs to get out there and try. I am lucky I grew up with grandparents and parents that didn't give me everything, I'd hate to be spoiled rotten. Sure I was spoiled, still am, but not nearly as much as those who feel it's their right to stay at home. I saw a discussion that someone posted about someone who did that, to the point the father has to pay for his own grandchild's birth! It's insane!
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Jul 11
Yes! The son thinks it's his right to pay for everything, his wife and him live with his father. It's horrible! What kind of people do that without HELPING there parents out atleast? Live at home by all means but do something to take care of them, pay some of the bills, by food, do something!
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I am worried that more kids now will expect things to be handed to them. I won't be doing that with my kids, and luckily my niece and nephew are given an allowance and are being taught the value of their money. Once they have enough they can go get their own toy, so they're learning patience as well. Of course more could be done, and I am sure it will be.
My nephew is 11 and he doesn't have a cellphone like so many kids his age do.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
31 Jul 11
I think that is the way it is with alot of young people today. They let their parents take care of them even after they grow up and moive out of the home. My 19 year old daughter expects it that way too. We do not hand nothing out to her anymore though. She uses us and it is time for her to grow up and stand on her own two feet. She got married to some fool anyway and is pregnant.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
31 Jul 11
I am only 24, but I was taught from a very young age that I needed to be careful with money. I had my rebellion where I wasn't as careful as I should have been but I learnt my lesson. I didn't have anyone to bail me out, my grandparents surely wouldn't and I didn't ask because I knew they wouldn't. I just hope that this doesn't last, I know when I have kids they're going to be taught the same values I was when it comes to money.
@celticeagle (190152)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jul 11
Well, I will try it again. It seems that I have to re-sign in several times a day and I get my response done and go to post and it throughs meo over to the sign in page. Ugh!
So, anyway.....It sounds like your grampa taught you right! When I was growing up and my mom had remarried she had a budget of $60 a month for four of us. We ate well and mom fixed great dinners. We just didn't waste anything.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
31 Jul 11
I have troubles with mylot too sometimes, like it will take forever to load the tag screen, or I'll have to resubmit my response. $60.00 wouldn't get very far now, but I know a lot of people are going back to scrounging and doing what they can to stretch that dollar.
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@celticeagle (190152)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jul 11
It is very frustrating when I am almost done for the day and have to go back and redo something. I used to not have to sign in but about every two weeks and now twice a day--? I think $15 a week wouldn't go too far these days. It is like about $5 now days.
@mindym (978)
• United States
1 Aug 11
She does not know the value of her own money, but definitely knows the value of someone else's money. She obviously does not have any responsiblities, but we can't just blame her. Her parents have a lot to do with this. They should stop paying for everything, so she knows what it will be like in the real world. I would like to move home to save some money, but I would pay some rent and contribute to the bills. I won't be moving home, but it sure would be nice. I am really lucky to have a great family who will help me out if I need it, but I don't depend on them to pay my bills. I find many great things at thrift stores and on clearance. It is nice to splurge sometimes, but I know that my bills come first. She needs a life lesson from someone other than her parents.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
2 Aug 11
She does seem to buy things for herself. Like I said I don't know the whole story, but her statuses always irk me. I learned from a young age it's buy it yourself or you don't get it, UNLESS it's necessary. Even when it came to food growing up, you'd ask my grandfather "can I have this? I'll eat it." Now though I can eat whatever I want, it's my money afterall.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
Yes, it is good but not totally. You also need to learn to stand on your own two feet. When, like a baby or a pet dog, people do things for you all the time, you never learn to grow up and you would end up dependent on others. It is also a virtue to be self-reliant.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
30 Jul 11
Forgive me if you thin that I am interfering ion your life but you have not mentioned what your husband thinks of this extra money coming in.It may help more if you both had a common goal to walk towards with regard to money. Money can make or break a relationship as this is what most persons argue about. It is good to hvae a joint agreement my friend.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Jul 11
Oh he agrees with me on everything that I'm going to be doing,So there is no problem there.
I always have a list in my hand before I spend for anything.What is in that list are different prices of one thing that I will be purchasing.Hehehe I love to do a price canvass...window shopping most of the time.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Jul 11
Having a list of things and their prices and being able to window shop and comparison shop is a good thing, it helps keep you're wallet fuller!
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
3 Aug 11
We were not 'rich' while I was growing up. And I had friends that were priviledged that always left me wanting. So, over the years, I've learned to value money. I've always had the attitude of wanting to save first, before I spend. I might suffer through the everyday living expenses, but I always take comfort in the fact that I have something saved for a rainy day.
That being said (written), I would also like to have somebody else take care of me. And all our expenses.
@iamsummer (192)
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31 Jul 11
i can judge that you must be a strong,brave and optimistic girl.never comparing with other,you should believe you can create sunshine future rely on yourself.However don't make too strain stress in yourself,when you are free,strolling with your friends and chatting with them.Why don't find a boyfriend to sustain that with you together.last ,good luck to you friend.
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