I don't know if I should go!

Thank you, yes I'm going to go ahead and go. I haven't seen this girl in forever and we just used to have so much fun as kids. And then we grew up and I miss the crazy days we used to have together. Maybe we can start our friendship up again.

Correct! It could be a start of a more fruitful friendship.

It's not really a housewarming party. It's a Mary Kay party. And I know that I will be expected to buy a little something from the representative for going to the party. But, I'm going to go ahead and go. I know that I need to get out and do stuff more especially as the whether is getting beautiful and not wanting to just crawl into a cold damp cave right now. Lol As for my boyfriend. He is not really a bad boyfriend. He just has some issues. And he often does stand up to his mom... if he sees it. But, she has gotten sly and started being mean to me when he leaves the room for a minute and then she claims that she doesn't know what I'm talking about when he brings it up so he has given up. He is convinced that she must just be old and senile and it's funny because he has started to treat her as if she is and she gets mad at him for it so the whole thing is backfiring on her anyhow.

Hun your posts have been screaming out for me time for a long time. I know you love you man and love spending time with him but have you not ever heard the saying, "time apart makes you and them appreciate more the time you have together!" It is true and if you two spend too much time together then the time you have will become redundant, in other words things with be too familiar. Nothing new. You will be getting too tired of being together all the time and it will cause problems in many ways. The best times people have is when they come together after spending time apart. Believe me if anyone knows this, I do! My husband work out of this country and is gone from 6 to 8 weeks then he comes home for 8 days and goes back. That is his contract for the past more than 2 years. Your man would appreciate you more if you were not around as much. You love and appreciate him no matter what but he has his hands full and does not truly realize what all you do for him and his mom. Right? Think about that before you answer...now you know I'm right. Yes, you should go do the things you need to do, don't put these things off. And yes, you should make some dates to go spend time with your old class mates. Now be prepared for his mom to say something about it. But what she says is nothing to you. Just tell your guy that you have to have more time to do things you need to do and that includes seeing your old friends just as he goes and does things he wants and needs to go and do. Leave it at that unless he keeps on with the subject and if he does be prepared with what you need to say to him. You love him dear but you need a life that does not completely revolve around him and his family. You do need me time at least once a week. So jot this time down in your calender and stick to it. Good luck dear and let me know how it goes. the party and all.

I totally agree with you. And the thought has actually crossed my mind that... maybe if I start spending time on myself that he might get rocked just enough to realize that it's not all set in stone till the ring is on the finger! Lol Maybe. Maybe not. But, either way I did tell him I want to see my old friend and tonight I even told him I was thinking about going on the Hydrocephalus walk with her for her Son's team. That's in September so there will be a little space in between.

I did it! I'm actually kind of excited to go. I didn't realize just how much I agreed with you 'me time' comment until I was talking to my boyfriend today and he mentioned that he had to take his son to go and visit his OTHER grandma tomorrow. I don't know how long they will be doing this visit but my mind flipped with relief a little. I love spending time with my man... but I have some errands that need to be run that I have been putting off so that I can spend more time with him. So, I'm going to start accepting invitations more often now, I think. And I'm going to actually take some time to take care of my own stuff.

It's not that I'm totally against the circumstances, it's just that it has been a very long time. But, now I realize that any time spent catching up is good time spent catching up and I'm excited to see her in a few weeks.

The boring part of our relationship is a down time right now I think. He is a medicated Paranoid Schizophrenic and so even though he is doing a lot better than without the medications he still goes through these moods where I just want to shake him senseless! When he isn't in one of those moods the man I love truly shines through and it will help a lot when his son starts school and we will be a little more free to be affectionate in the middle of the day. Only a week and a half away for that! Yay! As for stopping by my friend's house. She has two children with special needs and is often taking them to appointments and such. Maybe when they start going to school we may be able to see each other during the day more. But, right now it's kind of tricky. It's hard to even drop her a phone call right now. But, I figured it up and I'm pretty sure that my school stipend will be in right before the party so if it is I'll be a little naughty and buy the smallest cheapest bottle of something there is. Lol

Yes, thank you. I don't normally like to hang out with most girls these days anymore because they get all clingy to me and I have a boyfriend I don't need a girl wanting to split my 24 hours a day with them and getting mad if I don't always answer my phone. But, I think this girl will be more grown up about it and not feel the need to hang out all the time. Lol

I do think it would be good for him to miss me a little more. Right now I have class 3 days a week, but it's routine for him... I think we need to shake things up a bit. Make him realize how much he needs me. Lol As for the other thing. I didn't even think about a housewarming gift! Yikes. I guess I'll be stopping by the Dollar Tree soon! Lol