Why do you want to be my friend?

It does bug me a little I guess, particularly when people want to add me without them having any activity at all in discussions. I think newbies just try to get loads of friends on their list as they think it will help them to earn here. I have added people in the past without interacting with them first. But I only do this if I know that we have something in common. For example, like you and I both living in Australia and even the same state. I have added plenty of Aussies just because they were Aussies. Same goes for people that are into vegan or vegetarian living like me. I have read their posts and think, OK, this person shares similar views to me. I will add them.

it bugs me as well. some of these are trolls. some just wanted you to add them to grow their friends' list as to what reason i do not know. some are just ignorant? or naive? or plain dumb.

Most of the friend requests that I get are from people that I have interacted with in my discussions or their discussions, but ever once in a while I get a friend from a member that I have never talked to. That doesn't bug me. Maybe the member who sent me the friend request has visited my profile and seen that we have some interests in common or maybe he/she just likes to read my discussions. Sometimes the person is simply a friend collector or someone who is looking for referrals. I am generally open for friendships with people that I haven't interacted with (yet?) but if I become friens with someone who starts spamming me I delete them.

That's right! We live in different parts of the Earth, with a big time zone difference. Maybe when you finish your day mine is just beginning? And even if you add me as a friend, you can't know who I am. I will never understand who stands behind your avatar which seems strange to me:)) But if you are curious to know other people, the only way is to make a try. Or maybe the social sites are useless? Have a good day / or night/...

Hi Mostly i accept all the friend requests here on mylot unless I found something weird(like i had seen one account who having lots of friend and hadn't posted a single post).. Yes there are some users who send pms for spamming purpose but I used to ignore such messages. About in your case, May be he/she likes your discussion and want to get in touch with your discussions. I know there is no meaning if he/she don't response in them.. But its okay unless they send some spamming messages to you.

I always accept a friend request of mylotters. Though, i would always check on the profile first to know something about her/ him. But lately , i am hesitant of accepting those who haven't even started a discussion nor answered to a discussion, as in zero. So, sometimes out of feeling weird about it, i deny it. Sorry, but i guess i just find it weird if you are that way.

Lol, I'm rarely at a loss for words. I'm not always actively posting, but am always here reading what people have to say. I choose the discussions that I join in carefully. I'm glad our paths crossed.

I'm very choosey about who I accept as a friend, I have nearly 2 dozen friends request at the moment that are pending approval. I rarely will accept members that have less than 100 posts, because of spamming. I don't have a problem anymore if they haven't responded to my discussions, I figure something else caught there attention. Great story, when I first joined mylot I requested a lot of people some because of their discussions, others because of their usernames, and others because of the avatar. One of the people I requested lived on the other side of the country, she accepted my friend request and sent a message asking why. It was because of her avatar, it moved and changed pictures it was totally cool, username was interesting also. We emailed back and forth moved to IMing, then to talking on the phone. We have been friends since the beginning of 06 think. We hadn't interacted prior to my friend request, had she declined I would have missed out on a great friend. Just my 2 cents worth.

It is worse when someone sends you a request, you accept and then without batting an eyelid the one who sent the request deletes you. What harm is there if the name stays put there. One does not have to participate but why hurt anyone. I have 101 pending requests. I occasionally go through them and accept when I feel like it.

I accepted friends' requests immediately without looking at their profile. But most of them are those whom I have interacted. But I went over my friends' list there is one there who has a 0 in her name and there are a few with little points only.

Hi, When one is fool as well as mad, aesthetic to nothingness. An anonymous invisible friendship at infinity or latent in shadow never reachable or touchable. Why thy afraid You can accept. [mohkanari]