Emotional attachment to a particular place/town/city-do you have it?

@kalav56 (11497)
India
September 13, 2011 5:43am CST
. Are you particularly attached to any one place? We spend a considerable number of years in our birthplace and all of us would have fond memories of our parents’ place. Later, many go to where life takes them , keep shifting from place to place or settle down in one place for good. Some are comfortable in the place where they are settled and start loving it more than their own native place. There are others who will always have a special feeling in their hearts for their native place . Now I have relocated and left my native place; I am quite happy and comfortable where I am but my native place always evokes a special feeling and affection within. Do you cherish some special feeling for any place?
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@dpk262006 (56768)
• Delhi, India
13 Sep 11
Hi Kala! Wonderful post! I have been to same place, same area and same city for the past many years. I have not changed the city or even my area. However, many years ago, we shifted to our current house due to division in property. My childhood was spent in a joint family among uncles and an aunt and I was the eldest child in my family so I was loved by all. I just can not forget the old memories spent together with my family members in that old house. Memories of that big house still haunt me and I just can never forget happy and sad moments, which I spent there. Sometimes, I see that house in my dreams and in my dream, I tell myself that the house no longer exist, so I should immediately leave this place and I come out of that house. I believe that childhood memories never fade away.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
Thanks Deepak! I know how saddening it would have been for you, and moreo fr your father. THen you would have been a very close family. Do you still keep in good touch with your cousins/ You would have had many isn't it?
@dpk262006 (56768)
• Delhi, India
13 Sep 11
It was really sad to separate.. However, I make it a point to keep in touch with my cousins and do not forget to wish them on their birthdays and anniversaries and whenever possible make calls to them.
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@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Hi Kalav! Just like you, I am also living now far from my hometown and I am also doing good here. I feel comfortable and happy with the place and already adjusted in the way life goes here and of course with people around me but there's still no place like home. Although I am happy and comfortable from where I live now, there's still some emptiness within me. I don't know what it was but all I know is the the happy feeling is very much different in my hometown and I feel very secured and very at ease in the place where I was born and I feel more complete in there. Maybe because my parents and my brother are still there and they are the one that gives me the great feeling. And I always love it whenever I am in my hometown coz it brings a lot of great memories from my childhood until the day I get married. So I can say that I am still very much attached with my home town and other places in there including the schools that I attended.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
I can very well idenitify with the feelings you have described. In my case I am old and now I am comfortably staying in a place far away from my native place. I am grateful that I was able to spend a great number of years in the place I love so much. Now it is the people who stay here are what thta matter and GOd has chosen what is good for me and made me relocate here. I am sure you are very young and feel this way.My father is no more and my aged mother stays in a different place.But still when I go to my house, I always tend to feel choked. After I come back, they become memories. My house, my favourite temple and my wonderful college would always hold a special position in my heart.
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@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
That's true, and I also feel that my hometown is the place where I become me, I mean my parents raised me there, I met a lot of good people in there that contributes a lot in my life and with the way I am now. You know, whenever I go visit my parent's place, I am always excited, I started to appreciate every little thing in our place and its funny that even some neighbors that I don't like before, I still feel happy to see and talk to them again. Now it makes me miss our place so much and while writing this one, memories are flowing in my mind and I feel something in my heart...I am happy looking back those days that I am living there... Right now, I love the place where I live now, I feel like an adopted child of this place after living here for 6 years...but still I love my hometown more...
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
Exactly1 That is my feeling too.I was lucky to stay in my native place for seventeen years of my married life nd was able to be with my father during his last days. Moreover, the house is a beautiful place , located in such an ideal spot that all conveniences are just at stone's throw. Nevertheless, I have no regrets shifting to this new place now because given my current situation this would be the best for me. I am more attached to my family than anything else. What is your home town? If you do not mind , please share the info.Mine is Trichy, a big town in SOuth India where I had my schooling, college, wondeful professional life etc..,
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@bamrahkirti (1818)
• India
14 Sep 11
Hi Kala I just love my birthplace where i was born,brought up and studied and spent some precious years of my life.I just miss my hometown and my heart will always belong to it. Now i am married at a place which is just 35 Km away from my hometown but till date i have not become used to this place.I just do not like staying here and want to get back but it is just not possible.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
14 Sep 11
Hullo kirti!How are you? It is such a long time since I saw you here. Which is your hometown kirti? If it is just 35 kms away, at least make soem trips there. Are your parents stil there? How are your husband and son?
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• India
15 Sep 11
Dear Kala I am very fine and my husband and son are in excellent state.My son is in pre-nursery and he is just preparing for his annual function.My hometown is Amritsar-the holy city. Have you ever been to Amritsar to pay obeisance at Golden Temple-the world famous sikh shrine?
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
15 Sep 11
No Kirti! I have not gone there. Good to hear from you. Now my little grandson is one year old[I remember having shared the news of his birth ] and he will have to get into school in two years time.Time flies indeed!
@jdyrj777 (6547)
• United States
14 Sep 11
I do not like the place im from because the climate is humid there. I can not stand the humidity. The place im from is cold and snowy. I dont like snow either. I lived in many different palces. But i really love the place im living now. The climate is dry. The winters are more mild. It snows but it doesnt stay long.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
15 Sep 11
So, in your case comfort has determined the level of emotionl attachment you cherish for your place.
@jdyrj777 (6547)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I have no emotional attachment to any PLACE. Emotional attachment is to the people. All my children and grandchildren live here. Most all the rest of my family are in my home state and the neighboring one. The areas i dont like.
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• India
23 Sep 11
Dear Kalaji I served in different colleges for more than 46 years, but i used to stay in our paternal home during the vacations, i am attaced to my home town, to my friends, relatives there, after retirement i rebuilt the houses and stay in one with my son etc, i wish i die in this home only.. Thanks for sharing Best of luck. Professor
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
20 Oct 11
you are lucky to spend your old age in your paternal home Professor and moreso because you love it.
@globaldoc (860)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
I fell in love with Malaysia. There was once I had to go to Malaysia by myself. I had no one to talk to for days, and this allowed me to see the real beauty of the country. Now it is my most loved country.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
18 Sep 11
In your case it is not the people but the beauty of the place thta has made you fall in love with Malaysia.I usedf to feel the same way for certain hill stations.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
16 Sep 11
Hi kalav, I have also emotional attachment for my native village. My father was a government servant. He got transferred from one place to other place. For this reason I and my siblings studied in many schools. So I have no school-life's bosom friend. After my father's retirement from the job we returned to our native village. There everyone was so sincere and close that I felt all are my own people. For higher study I left my village. Now I'm doing a job in a big city. I'm here for long time. But I feel it is not my own place. My village where is my root is my own place. When I remember my village I become emotional.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
18 Sep 11
THere is a special camraderie between people and also a simplicity thta is typical of a village. I can well understand why you become emotional when you think of your village.
@derek_a (10898)
14 Sep 11
Yes, this is something that a lot of people have and I know I certainly have it for my home town, where I grew up. It is always good to go back and be there from time to time. _Derek
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
15 Sep 11
True.THis is whta many people have written here too.Thanks for the participation.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
13 Sep 11
It is most likely that a person develop sentimental attachment to the surroundings in which is born and brought up. Childhood memories always linger in one;s heart. The longing for one's native place never fades.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
Rightly said. THe place we are born and brought up would always be in our minds and those who are fortunate to stay there for a considerable length of time are blessed.
@Sreekala (32600)
• India
13 Sep 11
Hi dear, As you know that I am also away from my native. The place, where we spent our childhood, is always special for us. Of course, for me too, my native place is so special. However, on visits, I felt that the old fondness is not there among people. Those are in my age group (girls) married off and living their own places and the boys, who are also married and living with their wives. Here the problem is, I am only a visitor there and I am not familiar with these new faces that may the reason feeling alienated…. The kids (those who were kids in my time) also grown up and I can’t recognize them on first sight. Now I am more comfortable in my in-laws place where I am spending my major part of vacation … I am not familiar to all faces there too but they all knew me well and communicating with me in a friendly manner…
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
Yes Sree! This does happen.In my case I had the good fortune to spend seventeen years f my married life there and though there were not too many school friends at that point of time, my house, other neighbours are very much there and I love this place dearly.Morever I was very popular and highly respected in the area where I had so many friends. THoguh I miss that a bit, now I ma happy with the current place I am in because I am with my family.
@minimoyz (277)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
yes! I love my birthplace. I'm from the Philippines and i'm really enjoying living here since birth. I have gone to other countries like Singapore,Hong Kong, Australia, but somewhat I like it here still. I don't wanna change my address for I have been living comfortably and peacefully. MAybe I'm afraid of change. This makes me think that I'm scared to try new things.
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@anil02 (8363)
• India
14 Sep 11
I have too much emotional attachment with place where I am living and where I was live. I was live only 14 years at my birth place. But I have much attachment with this place. Although it is small town. At present I am living in city. But my first priorty is my birth place and second is where at present I am living.
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@cerebellum (3870)
• United States
14 Sep 11
I was born outside of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania in the States, When I got married we lived somewhere else. I didn't realize till I was gone how much I like it here and compared everything to here. Pgh. is kind of a big city and where we lived was a smaller town. There were a lot of differences and I like city life much more. There is a lot more to do, things are closer and a small town closes so early. I was used to going out at 10 and by then everything was closed. I came back home when I got divorced and was glad to do so.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
For me yes since then if i would go to the place we live before I would take it reminiscence.
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@urbandekay (18308)
13 Sep 11
You gave me my birth Then you made me pay What is it worth Cast me away I'm lying in the bushes Dying in my arms You stand here with nothing But you've still got english charm Oh England, you're my home My heart's heart Crashing from the blow You're a place of the poor Open wound Sure you're my last rite You cut your own throat Then you let it bleed Misleading your people From what they all need Roots forgotten That's what we all say But what does it matter Now we're the USA Why is it England I feel like rubbish on your streets Why is it when I care I feel incomplete Why does our future seem Such defeat When will our consciousness Finally meet Oh, whatever happened to My green and pleasant land all the best urban
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@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
13 Sep 11
Yes, I have a special feeling for Hong Kong. I wasn't born there but I had visited that place twice. I am planning to go there again and again. I can't explain why I like Hong Kong so much...I suppose there will always be things that cannot be explained?
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
True . THere would be things thta cannot be explained. now I too love Kodaikanal, a placw here we used to go every year for a holiday. It is a lovely hill station , totally tranquil and very pleasant.But thsi is a holiday spot for me. My native place Trichy in Tamil Nadu always brings a peculiar dort of affection within as though with people. I too cannot explain this.Probably , our bonding with our parents is the cause for this.
• Singapore
13 Sep 11
Where is Kodaikanal? Pardon me for my ignorance...I have never heard of Kodaikanal. Is it in India? Thanks & hv a great wk!:)
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
I stay in India nd Tamil Nadu is south India.Kodaikanal is in India.
@balasri (26549)
• India
18 Apr 12
Hatton - The place of my life
The town Hatton in SriLanka is always in my mind and dreams. It is where I was taken to when I was a two months old baby. I grew up there spent my childhood and sent to the school Highlands. No place in this world is having an impact like Hatton in my life. It was a wonderful scenic paradise of teas estates in the central province of the country very near to Nowara eliya the little England.The people’s culture, etiquecy and everything was very English there. The people are very happy go lucky. Another two most important things I adore in those people are the respect and equality they give to the elders and the way the address the young ones respectfully. They never use 'poda' 'vaada' to young chilren. Only 'vaanga' 'ponga'.I can keep on telling about this place for days together. Thanks a lot Kala for bringing up this discussion enabling me to travel the path of sweet nostalgia.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
24 Apr 12
And it was wonderful reading about those sweet memories .That feeling of warmth which you feel deep within yourself when you think of certain green serene places and the life we had there is indescribable.Only people who have had such experiences can relate to these feelings. I used to visit Ooty when I was a school girl and had a great time with my cousins there.I still have the green lush lawns and the huge blooms in the garden vivid in my heart. THanks a lot for sharing .And is there a summer "Kotagiri" trip this year? In which class is your daughter now? How is her painting going on?Do post some pictures of the hill station .
@balasri (26549)
• India
25 Apr 12
Sri in Germany - Srinidhi has a nice time in Germany recently
Thanks a lot Kala.Srinidhi has apppeared for the 10th Board exams and enjoying her holidays since Monday.Yes I do plan to go to Kotagiri and decided to spend the complete Agni Natchathiram period there.How are your husband son and grand child(ren)? Sri was selected by her school with ten other students to go to Germany on a students exchange program. I have uploaded her photos with her partner Diana with whom she dtayed there.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
26 Apr 12
That is wonderful.Convey my blessings and hearty congrats to her.TIme flies indeed.My grandson is most entertaining now in the greatest period of childhood with a flow of new words everyday in his enchanting mazhalai.He is one and a half years old and my family is fine. Have a nice holiday!
• United States
14 Sep 11
There are many places from my youth that I remain connected to in one way or another. I usually have memories there, or a friendship began there, or as they change over the years I look back and remember how things were. I was born in St. Louis but was adopted within ten weeks and taken immediately to Ohio. Even though I've visited St. Louis, I don't feel any attachment there except for a thought of wonder involving what my life could have been like. Here, however, the home I spent my early childhood in is one I feel attached to. A friend's horse farm is another place, because I grew up on the back of one horse or another, and that's where much of my time was spent before my dad built us a barn in the backyard and bought some horses for ourselves. My grandma's neighborhood is another...I spent a lot of time there, and knew many people. Sadly, many of the people I knew have taken some questionable turns, so the nostalgia there is bittersweet. The place that invokes the most feeling would have to be the home I spent my life in from the ages of 8 to 20, when I married. It was the home with the barn, a home I raised many animals in, the home where I tried to take my own life, the home my parents divorced within, the home I fell in love while living in, the home where I first kissed the man who is now my husband, and the home that, over the years, completely fell apart. It started out as a beautiful place, and my memories there begin beautiful as well. As people seemed to break apart both in mind and body and thus breaking apart my family and what I felt and knew of them, well, that's when the memories get a bit sadder. My attachment here revolves around wishing things had gone differently than they had...looking back, for example, and trying to see where it all started falling apart. This was a great discussion question...it made me think, and it took me back to days I can never revisit. Thanks for that.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
21 Oct 11
Then I am happy that now you have a husband who loves you ; if there is no emotional attachment to your mother and brother it becomes easier to get on with your own life ; they themselves have driven ou away from them emotionally. Thanks for sharing . I sincerely wish you all happiness in future in your own family.
@kiran8 (15328)
• Mangalore, India
13 Sep 11
Hi kala, memories are something else, we always treasure them especially our childhood memories, and I agree with you.In my case too I have always loved our ancestral house in mangalore and still feel very attached to it. But I have moved on in life and later it is this house which has become very close to me since we have spent many years here and children have grown up here.However, if a stage comes where I have to leave this place and go elsewhere I am sure that I will be able to do so....But memories will be there and it becomes part of our life !
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
14 Sep 11
Our house where our children grow up would hold priority over everything else Kiran. In my case, both were almost the same because I was fortunate to spend seventeen years of my married life [after my son was born] in my own birthplace.THough I lived in different houses initially, later I was staying in the upper portion of my father's house [for 11 years]where my son grew up and I had a wonderful professional life of my own. THis house will always hold special memories for me.
@kiran8 (15328)
• Mangalore, India
14 Sep 11
That's really nice kala, I feel that having a happy childhood is important for every individual and it is the duty of every parent to do that their children.It makes them secure for life ...
• India
13 Sep 11
Hi Kala, Yes, I do have an emotional attachment to my in-laws place. I’ve never lived in any city other than Kolkata and even after marriage, when I moved in to my in-law’s place, I never kind of missed my father’s house. Maybe because it was my mother’s house and not mine! Whatever, the first room which I could call really ‘mine’ was the one at my in-laws place where I moved in after marriage. Each and every inch of that room is my decoration, my hubby spent his hard-earned money on its upgradation and that room was truly our very own. However, due to paucity of space, we shifted about three years back to another place. Though this is still my home again, I miss that single room
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
13 Sep 11
You have lived for a few years isn't it Sudipta! Like people, places also have that "used to" feeling of security.Thanks for the participation.You don't come in frequently here at all these days.[for that matter I am also infrequent but I jsut respond to a a few discussions every now and then]
• India
14 Sep 11
Yes, I’m infrequent here though I’m always on the lookout for select friends whose discussions I don’t want to miss for anything.