Uh.Mylotters..Why do we add people??

friends request - proper way or approach? of adding people?
Philippines
September 15, 2011 7:34am CST
What is the definition of adding friends in mylot? I never really understand it...i know that friend adders are usually and addictive hobby on some social networking sites like dead friendster, orkut, hi5, myspace and even in facebook.. But what is the purpose of doing that here? I know in my experience I add people who are well beyond 100 post or superly active ones because I wanted to see their active particpation. though it's a problem whether the person you like to add is some one you know but it's now different user, that's cool. I've done that to a veteran who kept killing and resurrecting himself last time i thought he was troll (haha) Maybe if a person asked me why? Probably my answer would be, Your wise, you're active and i might learn a lot from you because am still young, maybe because I like in to get to know you a lot more. we are socializing here am i right? Though I know you agree t with me also that we can always respond to that user with out adding him or her. you can bookmark his or her user-name or put it in notepad and put that username the address bar to see his or her latest discussion. But what if the person wants to add you simply to become part of his or her friendlist (no participation) or just to respond to the discussions and doesn't want to get to know the person.. I don't know which is RIGHT or WRONG, even Proper or Improper.. Just want to know you're views. Not even sure if it's been discussed before.. What do you think is the proper thing here? Have a Good Day.
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15 responses
• United States
15 Sep 11
I add people that sends me friends requests, im not one to send any out at all and i dont view others profiles on here. I will add some of the peole that send me requests but they must have a picture and that i see them with a high number against there name of course so i know they are using there time here wisely. I also add people for the purpose of having a discusison to respond to at times as well because then i have more resposnes at the end of the day and will get more earnings the next day and i like to earn here so adding friends helps me to do that as well. Friend requests here doesnt mean that i will talk to them but just having them on here helps me to see what discussion i have in one day to respond to.
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello lologirl2021, ah ok I respect that it seems that not every one really wants to look on the profile and instead, they have always responded to my discussion at least to some people that i know.okay, so adding more people can result into more responses to your discussion? that's a good point. Have anice day.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
15 Sep 11
uumm...... We add people to have extremely long friends lists, sweetie?
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
15 Sep 11
.. Yes you having long list in compare of me. I guess I should make my goal bigger.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
15 Sep 11
Start adding sweetie.
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello Sweetie Saphie, I simply have no damn clue. i just add people let it flow from there
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I add people on Mylot so I can get their duscussions right to my inbox daily. It is alot easier than coming to the site to look for some to respond to.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello stephcjh, wow you're right maybe i shouldn't be too choosy if am going to have a lot of options when it comes to people's discussions on my list to choose from. I have come here to share my ideas too. Thanks a lot for responding, Have a Nice day.
@ashok1 (225)
• India
15 Sep 11
its just to be more attached to him and keep track of him.if you both have common interests,it might help you.for example i have interest in making money.so if i add another guy with the same interest i can have more views about the topic and also maybe help from him.Thought you got it
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• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello Ashok1, I don't know who is here that has complete the same interest as I am. but almost every one here makes a random different discussion and only I have witness a few lotters who makes a discussion from only one interest. not sure if she is around that much but I hope she is doing well, Have a nice day.
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
To be honest, I try to add people here as my friends to get exposed to their different topics and also so that many other users can see my posted topics which they can reply on. That is why I also add those who, in my opinion, is active enough to create discussions or comments on topics. But I do add up those who request me to be his friend simply because I liked their effort to reach out and make friends or the intention of trying to have a good amount of network here in myLot.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello agent-gulaman, I guess that's another way to put it in the purpose of adding peoplee and that is to have yourself expose. but the probable reason as to why we add them because they can easily see and respond to our discussions as we respond to their s. I guess adding relentlessly is also part of Social networking. thanks and Have a nice day there my friend.
• United States
16 Sep 11
im kind of new here so i still have not figured that part out yet i mean i will accept any friend request it is always good to be friendly and you never know when you may need someone but i am here to make money not make friends the reason i accept friends requests is because if i have a question or need a quick answer or have any problems i might could message one of my friends on here and get their opinion or see if they know the answer to my question like the other day my earnings didnt update as it usually does i could have messaged one of my friends and asked if theirs has updated and if theirs has then that lets me know something is wrong with my account and i need to seek further help
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• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Cowgirl, If you're new then accepting friends request is normal but some how i have develop standards on whom i should be adding with because i know some people in my past experience that they send fr to add me and then sends a referral link. Have a Nice day.
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
16 Sep 11
I will let requesters languish to see if they really are going to be active, over half the time they aren't so I just then deny them. I am more likely to accept a person if they have several hundred (or thousand) posts to their names than a low number person. However... if I find a low number person that I have responded to even ONE interesting discussion, especially in an interest that I really like, I am apt to request them as friends. Having said that, there is a certain group of people that I won't accept no matter what number they have, because I've found that people in that group almost never post a discussion I'm interested it. They're interests are not my interests and I will deny them right away. I find most of them are going through other people's friends lists and requesting everyone. Well, I won't be your friend...
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Hello ElicBxn, I do the same thing and it's not really something that i like to have hanging around in my list unless they start increasing their mylot activity. this is something that i want to see in a mylotter. some mylotters continues to add me even though they have less activity, they are very persistent.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 11
The answer is 'I don't know'. When I get friend request I have no second thoughts in approving the request quite immediately. I don't choose friends. It has become my new hobby of sort ie collecting friends. My friends list is over pouring and I have not stopped admitting new ones. Since mylot is far reaching, I have friends from all corners of the world in my collection. They are all there like prized trophies doing nothing not even supporting my discussions but I have no intention of deleting them yet. I think being in a social site, we need to have friends to be part of our gang in the virtual world.
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello Zandi, Wow okay so you have continously add new people for no reason? well, my reason was i don't want to loose track of mylotters that are good people to me in the past. not only friends but those who are no longer active mylotters. though i have tried adding the other veterans but it doesn't seem wanted me to be part of their list. I used to have a gang of my own here. Now, everything seems to be different but i am getting use to it. have a nice day.
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
15 Sep 11
I add friends in regards to if they are people that are always reading and responding to the discussions I start, so I can return that to them and see where they stand, and how active they are. I also add people that intrigue me in what they say, the knowledge that they have, and the outlook they have on certain things. Not sure if there is any other reason on why I add them. But if someone sends a friend request I always accept, you never really know.
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
16 Sep 11
Yeah it is always touchy on who is active or not. I seem to have control on who is active and those ones i follow on there discussions. It is nice when it is emailed to me that a friend has started a new discussion because i just got from my email inbox to there discussion and read it.
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello ljames, I guess you got a point. Recently I've been avoiding people with less than one hundred post and yet when they turned out to be fine i just add them with out hesitation. the reason was that i don't want to loose track of my friends in mylot, even if most of them are no longer that active. have a nnice day.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 11
hi letran I think I just started accepting friends and only twice have I asked to be a friend but whew I have over 1000and thats overhwhelming as i cannot respond to all. I felt bad to turn dow those who had only 4 friends then all of a sudden mny list is so topheavy I cannot get to all. My older mylot friends I have had for 5 years and they have become my true mylot friends I accepted them because we were actively participating in each others posts and we felt like we had things in coom.I have learned from them all specially my Filipino friends and my Indian friends,also from manr other countries, you broaden my perspective on things and also made me more open minded.So I kept my original list because we became real friends."far away places, with strange sounding names, that I read in a book on my shelf" from an old song, through my friends I learn about places I could never afford t o go and found out we are all human beings and we share a lot of the same fedelings from the US to Zimbabwe.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 11
typos dow should be down coom should be common , feelings not fedelings sorry I forgot to edit.
• Mexico
19 Sep 11
Hi Letran Kinght: I usually add people from the site because they are the ones that always participate on my own discussions so they create a good atmosphere on the site, give me good advises etc, and I would love to keep in contact with them. When people want to add me as their friend I usually accept their invitations because it makes me so happy to know that someone has found me and thinks that I am a good member and they want to follow my discussions. ALVARO
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Starsailover, You have always been a good member and it's nice to know that you are active again after such a while. i have kept you and other veterans on my list just for reminiscing and probably wait until you guys are active again. there are still mylotters that has come back in the open that i haven't seen before. Have a nice day.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 11
Usually if I have my friend's request here in mylot I just add them right away without thinking about that mylot user's profile. Since of course this is not really like a private account the way I treat it on facebook that I am only adding people that I want or if we have mutual friends thinking that how we have met each other. But when I want to add people usually it depends on how that person posted or if we have same interest and at times if I just need something. In a way that I want to send a message with that person because in the first place you can't send that mylot user a message if you are not friends on each other.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello Metatronik, Okay so add them right away with out further checking on them, stuff doing like that. I have met some of them off-line already but that was only once. You are right, you can't send mylot message if you're not friends with that person. but that's probably why am not adding some of them because i know they might just send spam messages. which i have been avoiding. have a nice day.
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
hi LK, I add them because they sent a request kidding aside What is the use of joining social networking if you don't have friends who can see your activity, right? But I don't add all of them you know I put my real pictures and information here and in other site so if I don't trust them they can't be on my list have a nice day ahead
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Catch, Not to me i guess depends on whom I wanted to add but regarding those who are less active i think mylotters should add those who participate and not participate little bit. well, same here if they can't be trusted then i have no choice but not to let them in here. Have a Nice day.
@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
15 Sep 11
Good discussion. I send requests to people who seem very active and that I saw made a good response to either my discussion or one I was responding to. I check the profile and check activity and interests to see if we have enough in common to enjoy some of the same type of discussions. If so, I send the friend requests and hope if someone checks my profile they will accept me. I don't accept anyone until I've seen their profile and their activity and are pretty sure they will stay active and participate. If I have met them in a discussion I'm likely to approve them before they get a star than someone I haven't met in a discussion. I am thankful for those of you who took a chance on me when I was under 100. For me the purpose of friendship here is similar to what others have stated. I love interacting regularly with people who have different cultures and life experiences than mine so we can exchange ideas and find out things we would never think to look up. Some of the words we use and the objects that are part of our everyday lives are unique to our culture and foreign to many others. Hearing from real people who live in another county about what's happening there gives us an entirely different perspective than the news reporters and magazine writers. My friends here are participants in their cultures -- not just observers. It is facsinating to hear what they have to share. The other reason I like to have friends with some common interests is that when they start discussions I get notified and am able to go join those discussions instead of having to do so much searching to find discussions to join. I don't join every discussion of every friend. Sometimes I would not have anything to contribute -- especiially to discussions about movies, celebrities,and gaming. But I always check the discussions of my friends before I go looking for other one. My myLot friends have also been very good to me in joining my discussions.
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Hello Bagarad, Well, it goes long way back as to why people are not adding different users who are not beyond 100 post. some users just add you just to spam you with their online earning thing. we all have different cultures and attitudes that we tend to clash when ever we shares our opinions. am glad you have remained active here. Have a Nice day to you friend.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Aug 12
you have told the reason from your own angle. we add people to expand our cirlce of friends to whom list of discussions made by us will go so that we may get more responses from others--then we can make more replies -- if we make more replies we earn more--