When we are at a public place do others notice us?

I like to be neat and stylish when I go out but I don't continually look at myself in the mirror and I don't care what others think. I dress to suit myself, no-one else. If I was dressed so as to draw attention to myself I would feel really uncomfortable. I notice people if they look super stylish and I notice people who are over dressed and dressed inappropriately. I certainly don't take any notice of what people are wearing on a day to day basis...personally, I find that sort of thing a bit shallow.

I'm the type of person who feels embarrass when somebody notices the changes in myself. I don't want anybody to mention it. I don't want people's attention on me, but unluckily the people around me always notice that. I don't notice other people as well unless they are my close friends.

Hiya dpk., Most times I will take notice of what they are wearing and if they have changed their hairstyle too. I do notice most of the time if people are wearing something different it´s something I can´t help doing. If I don´t feel it´s the right time to comment about what they are wearing I will tell them another time. Here I live in a country where no one really compliments others on what they wear I don´t why it is but that is the way a lot of them are. First of all I pay attention to myself most of the time and then to the rest but I do like to approve other People in a nice way like what they are wearing and all that kind of thing. It´s sad that most people are too busy to notice us yes but hey I do try and if I would have seen you and your wife I would have commented on how nice you look.xxx

I am a person very gracious with compliments. No matter how busy i am, if i find you stunning, i would stop and take a second good look at you and express my admiration. I think some people are too shy to give one a compliment, though they find you particularly looking good that day. But still, you can see the glow in their eyes just looking at you.

I think people notice us but they keep to themselves. It is like a wide competition out there on who where the dress better or why someone chose to go with this hairstyle. People are constantly judging each other base on their appearance (and not the person itself) but they do it in their brains and not blurt it out for some reasons of theirs. When laziness hit me, I don't usually care what I dress to my mother's agony. She always tells me to look nice and proper (and girly, which I abhor) in public so I won't be judged but I already thought that they already judged me by expecting that I wear some some girly stuff that irritates me. Society has its own standards on whether a person is presentable or not and the wearer (whether a celebrity or a common person) doesn't even know whether they handed in everybody's good graces or is the subject of mockery behind their backs. I guess what your pointing out is that we all wanted to be noticed by everybody and the easiest to do that is to change our appearances. However, I am more interested in the motive on why we change our appearances - if it is personal or becuase of others and trends. I cannot answer that theory but I think it is a combination of both. I would like to end that appearances can be deriving or can be manipulated to suit some person's motive or intentions. What we appear on the surface is is just a scrape of what we really are (unless you're the type who wear their heart in a sleeve). Basically, as the old saying goes,'never judge a book by its cover'.

I paid attention to somebody if the person create an appropriate actuation or they seems so different to look at.

Speak for yourself, lol. I get up . I get dressed , 99% of the time that means a t-shirt and jeans , and then I feel like I am invisible. Ever since I was a little girl I felt as though I was invisible when outside. So it would be disturbing to know people even see me! So when a co worker likes the shade of blue I'm wearing I am amazed and I say thank you! Now my friend if I saw you and you had changed from the last time I saw you , Before you even get to say Hi!. I would say you changed your hair! Is that a new shirt? I do it to many of my co workers. I notice hair cuts, colorful outfits and because they are not strangers I do say something.With strangers, I'm shyer. but I did compliment a cop about his tattoo!

Well if you're talking about the general public, that is to say, random strangers you meet in these public places, then they're not likely to notice how you dress. Unless there's something really eye-catching and extraordinary about your outfit. Your friends and colleagues, however, if they were to see you everyday, then they're more likely to notice any changes in your look such as your hairstyle. But even so, sometimes they're too busy to notice any changes. I personally, did not notice my friend had cut her hair and when I commented she looked at me strangely and went, "I actually cut my hair a week or so ago. You just noticed?"

Well, things do not always work in our favour regarding dresses. At times, we expect others to just talk about our look(s) and dress(s). At other times,we are not much concerned. It varies from time to time, and from place to place. Sometimes, it makes us feel good, bad at other times.

We do? When I was a young girl I used to play Princess and loved to dress up. In my mid thirties and up a ways I like to dress up, put make up on and go out. BUt not so anymore. Men notice pretty women and women notice interesting men. But rather than that we hurry through our day and don't notice others much.

Hi deepak, LOL I found it amusing to actually think of it - But that is human nature, too engrossed in themselves to notice others.However, it is different with ladies, they notice but will not acknowledge it unless the person is a friend or close to you.At my school, we all notice the new sarees and jewelery etc that other teachers wear and sometimes depending on the mood would like to start a discussion too on it lol...seriously Deepak, why should we bother about others, we should dress and look presentable for ourselves. When we look at ourselves in the mirror we should feel that we are looking good! all the best

I think that some people might be too absorbed in themselves to notice others, but I think that many people do notice others. I believe that how much a person gets noticed, though, does not depend as much upon how they are dressed, although that may be one of the factors, but more on their personality and attitude. Someone that keeps his or her head down and tries not to attract attention is not going to get noticed as much as someone that walks with his or her head held high and projects an air of confidence.

This thought has occurred to me umpteen number of times and you are so right. If at all we take the trouble to dress up it should be for our own satisfaction and not for anyone else as they will not notice. In the good old days it was a different matter when the so called designer wear was so rare and noticeable. I would wait eagerly to see my friends' reaction if I had something nice to show off.I remember my husband had bought me a crocodile leather bag and it was the talk in the office! Those were the days!

I would think that most of them would notice me, at least that is my imagination so I would try to dress well and walk straight... In fact, they most definitely did not notice us unless we act strangely or dress weirdly... the same as we never noticed anything unless it was extraordinary...

This subject is a double edged sword. As Dr.Phil says (and I can't remember the exact quote), you wouldn't worry so much about what people thought of you if you knew how little they think about you. However, we dress up not just for others but for ourselves, to make ourselves feel good. If you expect people to comment on your new hairstyle ("Wow you look great"), does that mean you didn't look great before the new haircut? Now not everyone will think that way but people making the comments feel they have to be careful not to offend so they say nothing at all. On the other hand, we are very quick to look at other people and judge them. We KNOW what WE do, so we have to assume that others are doing and thinking the same things about us. As much as we may not want to admit it, we will look at a complete stranger and think "Look at what they are wearing! Ugh!", or "Wow isn't that guy/girl a knock-out?" We shouldn't care what other people think. That's the bottom line and the truth. But in reality, most people are looking at others and judging them on their outside appearance, which is something we all complain about because it's what's inside that matters. It's a very hypocritical society. You can't win for trying. IMHO

Hi Deepak, Yes deepak, you are noticed by at least one person on every day. It is not necessary to share their views all the time especially with unknown people… I am good on observing and judging. I do observe people when I am in bust stop because I don’t have any other job that time but to wait till my bus come. But it does not mean that I remember all those dress worn by strangers… if there is an attractive dress it will be in our mind…

hello dpk, Nice topic here. I am too busy when I am doing offline work that I am not aware that my officemate is wearing a new dress or done new hair style (hehehe) No- just kidding,I appreciate people around me and notice the changes and how they looks. Have a good day

Hello dpk! I do take a great deal of time and effort in how I look, dress and feel about my dressing up. I do enjoy it very much and have for several years. But I only do so for myself. In fact I am very modest when it comes to people noticing, although I do thank them but I try not to emphasize it word wise. Reason I feel I do this is that when I do put forth a great deal of effort to get all dolled up, I do so specifically for me and not for what others think. I do get a great deal of compliments but there are times that I can honestly say I do not which is okay. But funny and so cute is that I have a unique way of naturalizing my make-up and because of my past part-time fashion career, I own a great deal of clothing. So it is so cute and funny that I may not get spoken compliments, but then I notice the women in my environment mirroring my look. This is so cute, and I will not point out that they are doing like me as I would think that would embarrass them. So instead I chuckle inside and say, they must really like my style. Which for me is a great compliment. I took notice to this in jobs, and during entertainment events. I like it.

I'm pretty shy so i actually prefer people not staring at me xD!!! On the other hand i actually notice when someone is looking of wearing something different ^^

my friends used to call me an antisocial cause i don't go out that much--i grew up people looking at me differently for reasons that i walk funny and im a bit on the geeky side so i chose to hide. it was then i realized that people actually have the same concerns that i do,people don't actually notice us that much cause they're much too concerned themselves about what others might say or think--or if they're noticed