Can you forgive then forget? Why?
By bessyjanmayi
@bessyjanmayi (278)
Philippines
September 20, 2011 9:47am CST
The word forgiveness is just an easy word but very hard to do. Sometimes you may think that you can never forgive that person especially if he/she shames you or did a very cruel thing to you. It is even hard to forget. But we ought to forgive them no matter how big their sin is. If we can't forgive someone,we can never have peace within us. It is so hard to hold a grudge within you. That person who committed mistakes against you never care if you will keep on hating him/her.
God commanded us to forgive people without limit because he first forgave us from all our unrighteousness. I know it's gonna be so hard at first but we need to forgive and forget. If somebody say sorry, accept her forgiveness and forget what he did to you.
An unforgiving heart could lead a lot of diseases. First, you can't sleep because you keep on thinking how to revenge. It gives you a lot of stress. You can't eat well, it leads to ulcers, heart problems and many more. We ought to forgive because, the key to happiness is OTHERS.
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12 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Sep 11
No I can't forgive and just forget.
Also I strongly believe that if you easily forget what happend you will NOT learn anything from it. You will be making the same mistake each time again.
Ever noticed that so many people durin their whole life have the same kind of problems?
Life is a big lesson and after each experience you should grow not stay at the same level or even go down under.
It's also not up to me to forgive. the one who did wrong has to change and forgive himself since he is the one who has to live with himself not me.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Sep 11
God did not comment anything.. and if you mean the bible: there is also written in it: an eye for an eye a tooth for a tooth. There is also a part that says that if you are not accepted (or kicked out) in real life you won't be accepted in heaven either.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
20 Sep 11
I'm usually pretty good at forgiving someone. I don't always forget though. Sometimes you need to remember because you don't want to get burned a second time. I'll forgive once but if you do it to me again then that is just too much.
@0CoOlGuY0 (103)
• Portugal
20 Sep 11
Forgive??Sure I can do that whenever the situation allows me to do so but forget is impossible!!No matter how much you try, if someone close to you does something pretty bad , it will remain in our memories and comeback when they do something they shouldn't again!!Btw I only aply this to people CLOSE to me.If anyone does anything that we can talk about forgiveness then i show them one of my five fingers and just ignore them!
@celticeagle (159538)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Sep 11
I can forgive but I rarely forget. Atleast not away. I am a vengeful person and I seek revenge especially on people who hurt my kids. God is good at forgiveness. I am not. I am not able to change this type of behavior. When it has been less intense I do try to put it away and can at some points. I agree it does cause stress and lack of sleep and can make a person sick.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I usually have a hard time forgiving someone who has done me wrong. Although I would eventually forgive that person in time it is most likely that I won't or can't forget the wrong that person did to me. I only have a few people who until now I haven't forgiven or maybe choose to forget since it is already pointless to reconcile with them. Even though I haven't forgiven those people I already have no hatred for them.
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Forgetting is harder than forgiving, but still both are hard to do. Forgiving may be real but forgetting, it may be not. Forgiving is like giving a gift of love to someone who hurt you, and of course by this it meant pure. We must not held any grudge to the and so we forget. God has taught us to forgive and forget. So if we forgive someone, we must act as if that sin had never occurred. We remember the sin, but we live as if we did not remember it.
@vickylao (46)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Yes the word forgiveness is just an easy word but it's easier said than done. Actually time can heal all the wound in our heart and it's really hard to forgive especially if the wound is too fresh but give more time to heal you can forgive but you can't forget. It doesn't mean that you forgive then you forget. It's not a grudges but there are circumstances that you forgive however you didn't forget. I don't think others is the key to happiness because there are many aspect that can make us happy.But for me forgiveness is a complicated word and it depends upon the situation.
@rose1717 (190)
• United States
20 Sep 11
I can forgive, but I never can forget. It is sad because I can sometimes carry around the hurt with me. I don't like that feeling at all but cannot help it. The worst someone had done is the hardest to forgive. Over time I've been able to forgive, but when that person kept stepping back into my life, then do it all over again, I finally decided that I couldn't keep forgiving. I had to walk away and that person has to go there own way because it was too painful to keep them close.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
20 Sep 11
I really admire someone that can forgive a person who did a very bad thing to her, like a case that happened on my country years ago. The young son of a men was kidnapped and killed, the dad forgave the killers after some years, I honestly could never do that.
I can forgive someone for small things, but I never forget. I know that this is not good to my health, but I really cannot change.
@cowgirl03051979 (918)
• United States
20 Sep 11
i can forgive but i am smart enough not to forget if someone blew me over once whats to stop them from doing it again and they will lose my trust i will forgive them because that is what i am sopposed to do but if i have to be around them i will be cautious and alert and i would warn someone if i saw them blowing someone else over i disagree about the key to happiness maybe its just because i am a loner, a desperado i dont like being around other people i think the key to happiness is love with your significiant other
@rhea_amor (9)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
It is so hard to forgive though especially if he committed a great sin to me. But I would trry, I can't forget it easily but time heals it.
@maki1314520 (113)
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20 Sep 11
I forgive people but sometimes, I never forget cause it's just hard to forget something that hurts us in the past. Thought I believe Past is past.
People made mistakes, even I make mistakes. So I don't have the right to not forgive anyone. I lost my friends because of mistakes which we all did, not because of me alone or her alone.
