Do you think electronic communications are destroying relationships?

United States
October 5, 2011 11:05pm CST
I absolutely hate it when people try to carry on a long conversation over text. To me it is terribly laborious and totally impersonal. Then we have skype, video chat, instant message, and so forth. When either of my sisters try to carry on a conversation with me over text, I find it very hard to feel like we had a rewarding interaction. Do you feel that our new ways of electronic communication is disintegrating relationships to some degree?
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• United States
6 Oct 11
I don't think electronic communications are destroying relationships at all. So far for me, all the things you listed (skype, v-chat, instant message, texting) only strengthen relationships. I feel that the more time you spend using these available resources the more comfortable things become between you and that person when in-person. But still, having a conversation where you can see the persons face and reaction is still a much more relating experience then texting.
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• United States
6 Oct 11
Thanks! You have a great point! Often the electronic communications facilitate being able to communicate when otherwise two people may have not communicated. As you will see in my reply in the above conversation. I also have to agree with you that in person communication is still a much more relating experience than texting. I suppose that in my original post, I should have brought up my issues with dealing with business people, those who want all dealings only via internet. I really don't feel that is a business relationship if both parties are in the same town. What do you think?
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• United States
6 Oct 11
Hi Taco - I have to agree with you. I have been in sales for years and I have found that when people refuse to see me and just say "E-mail me something." that I am sunk. I'm sure there are a very few out there that do respond to the e-mail, but of all the time I have been selling, if one out of 20 have responded to the e-mail I'm exaggerating. I am always most effective when I am in person.
• United States
6 Oct 11
Well business relationships that are between people who don't live in the same town and mainly communicate between telephone and email are usually not strong ones. A business environment is a competing one where people are usually working for themselves and mainly try to get to know their boss better. Two business people often share an acquaintance relationship. The online communications shared between the people is usually not to better the relations between both people but to inform the other about business oriented information. So I think these communications only make speaking about that topic more comfortable which really does not help for two people trying to relate together personally. So, in a business sense, online communications often do not strengthen relationships.
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@GardenGerty (157909)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I do not text, but I love e mail as it lets me communicate quickly. I think it can only destroy our relationships if we let it.
• United States
6 Oct 11
I agree with e-mail in some aspects. I had a friend that I met over the internet who lived 2/3 across the country from me. Besides, she was deaf, so the best way to communicate was by e-mail and we carried on a 10 year friendship over e-mail and actually instant message. On the other hand, when my sisters who live in the same town and who are fully hearing and totally able to carry on a verbal conversation continually try to carry on a "text" relationship with me, after we have been sisters/friends for 40 to 0 years, depending on which sister we're talking about, I begin to feel like our relationship has disintegrated to black letters on an electronic screen.
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@GardenGerty (157909)
• United States
10 Oct 11
That would bother me as well, but my family knows I do not do text and most of them do not either. My daughter and her husband will text about family matters while he is away at work, checking on shopping, etc, but he cannot read them until he is on a break. It is helpful to them as he works a long ways away.
@Mickie30 (2626)
6 Oct 11
I don't think electronic communications are destroying relationships, but some people are addicted to using the Internet. I think that electronic communications have helped people to keep in contact and in some cases helped people meet who would never have even met at all. Electronic communications have helped to strengthen relationships and bring new people together. Without them we would be living in a much more boring world.
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• United States
6 Oct 11
That's true, Mickie - as you see in my above post, Instant Messaging has totally facilitated a 15 year friendship between me and a deaf girl who lives in Wisconsin, about 2,500 miles away from me.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
7 Oct 11
To a certain extent I agree with you. It is also costly to constantly use text messages. I do prefer to use text if it is just for brief message. I don't want to have to ring some people, such as my Mother, for something that is simple. A simple phone call to some people turns into a long conversation, which I may not want to have, nor have time for. If I really want to catch up with someone, I like to meet them face to face, for cofee,or invite them to a meal. Otherwise I eamil.
• United States
7 Oct 11
Well, your take on it might explain why a few people won't pick up the phone with me. As I recently posted in a few comments back in this discussion, eventually I have determined that certain people just simply don't want to talk with me. The result, though is that I stop contacting them altogether. It's sad, but in some cases this is the result.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
6 Oct 11
Texting, instant messaging are definitely destroying relationships. I don't mind skyping because you can see the person and its a great way to communicate especially with family that live far away. My daughters and grandkids live in New Mexico and I'm living in Puerto Rico so skyping to me is great. However all the other stuff is not helping relationships at all. Its very impersonal to me. How many couples have broken up by sending a text. I think its so tacky and shows no compassion at all. Where a face to face confrontation is so much more meaningful and shows more character in my opinion.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
6 Oct 11
Exactly, I have heard of this so many times. People mistake what others have said when the meaning was completely the opposite. Where as if you had said it to the person on the phone they would have understood it the first time correctly and there wouldn't have been any type of hard feelings.
• United States
6 Oct 11
It is tragic - and actually for both people involved. Even once the air is cleared of the mistake, and the damage undone, the residual of the pain still hangs around for a while.
• United States
6 Oct 11
You mention couples breaking up - you know I have texted people meaning very nice things, but they have read it and misunderstood my meaning. Then trying to repair the damage after it's done is really hard. Whereas if we weren't texting and either talking on the phone or in person, it wouldn't have happened.
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@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
6 Oct 11
Communication gadgets are made for the betterment of the humanity and not to make anything worst. If worst thing happen to people using it, I think it's their attitute towards it must be blamed for. If a certain gadget make a relationship break, it's not totally on the gadget but on how both parties put had use it.
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• United States
6 Oct 11
That's true as well, Edna. The comments above were about how it has destroyed relationships. But as toward long distance relationships it has definitely improved them. I have a girlfriend that lives in Wisconsin and I live in California. She is also deaf. We have carried on a lively Instant Message friendship for about 15 years. We can instant message as fast as people can talk as we are both very fluent in typing.
@shaggin (71678)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I have always hated talking on the phone. I would much rather text someone then call them. I dont think electronic communications destroy any of my relationships. It helps me keep in contact with people more often then if I were to call them. They can text me any time about anything but if they were to do that say 10 calls a day I'd be annoyed where as 10 texts a day wouldnt bother me. My boyfriend and I text each other all day long.
• United States
6 Oct 11
I sure don't mind the short texts, but when I have something that takes time to explain or discuss, although I have an Iphone I cannot text fast enough and it takes FOREVER to carry on the discussion. I find that if we can get the communication between us in a couple of short sentences it's fine. But when a discussion of any length has to take place, I'd much rather talk on the phone or in person.
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I don't think it's as much as the electronic devices that cause the problems but more the. Places that they are going on these electronic devices like facebook for example. It makes it easier to cheat and when people are tempted some times it is hard for them to back down.
• United States
6 Oct 11
That's definitely true - There is a whole new element with all the information that is now immediately accessible to us. It is a phenomenal age, this age of electronics!
• Mexico
10 Oct 11
Hi Kizzy Cat Fish: I understand how you feel. Actually there's a paradox about our modern world. Now that we have more ways to communicate each other we feel more alone and I think that's because now we prefer to interact using our laptops which have amazing ways of entertainment but that will never replace real face to face interaction. I think some people need to make a balance of their priorities just because we are no machines. We need to work for our relationships. ALVARO
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
6 Oct 11
For many people yes. Maybe because they are talking to much to each other, not leaving that moment so that question can be asked: how was your day so when they are distant they are texting all the time and when they are close they are bored.
• United States
6 Oct 11
When you mention that, I envision many times that I have been sitting in a restaurant and will see other patrons at a next table. Even four or five of them at a time!!! And As I see them, EVERY ONE of them is texting or playing a game on their sell phone. Why did they even bother to get together anyway! Yup, that's really something.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I agree with you but the kids growig up with this seem to love it..they don't know any better and think it is efficient and simple...
• United States
6 Oct 11
You're right about the kids. I wonder if they will change as they mature - only time will tell.
• India
6 Oct 11
you have got an important questions and to me definitely yes. we need to think on it and people often tend to chat online and finish the work, rather than meeting in person.
• United States
6 Oct 11
Yes, I agree wholeheartedly. And after reading the other few responses, I have to add this, that is only if one is in the same proximity, i.e. same town or county per se. I become really unhappy and frustrated when my sisters try to carry on long conversations via text when they can easily call me and we can accomplish the same conversation is a lot less time and in a lot more personal manner by speaking to each other. FURTHER, we live in the same town together, what's wrong with getting together for lunch every now and then? Texting is thumbs-down for me when people can talk on the phone without any added expense. WHY?
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• Pakistan
6 Oct 11
yes absolutely,the relationships are really suffering from our ELECTRONIC COMMUNICATION
• United States
6 Oct 11
Yes and it has hurt my business as well. When approaching clients to set an appointment they now use "Send me an e-mail." as a way to get rid of me. It is now their easiest excuse to ignore salesmen.
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
I don't think electronic communication has disintegrated my relationships with other people. These things were made to make our lives easy. We can't always expect someone to call us because we can't just expect them to have load all the time. But I do agree that calling someone would be more convenient because you no longer need to wait long for their reply or for them to answer. I do believe that when a message is very urgent, that person will really call you so the message is relayed immediately.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
8 Oct 11
I hate it when people want to do that to me too. I hate talking on the phone though and do not want to be tied up in person for a long time either. I would rather instant message or email someone if they did not live with me because I work online alot.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
8 Oct 11
On the contrary, electronic communication has actually improved my relationships with people. I am barely the type to say my feelings out loud and personally but when I am secured behind the computer monitor or my cellphone's LCD, I tend to be more able to express myself. Because of this, when I meet the people personally, I am much better at talking to them and I am much more confident. Texting can be tedious, I agree but sadly, it is the easiest and cheapest means to communicate.
• South Africa
8 Oct 11
yess i agree thaat technology is destroying our relationships we start creating distance between us. it is because we have the option to see and talk with each other from a distinct distance. and we prefer this because this creates ease for us to have connection with more than one at same time as there is a quote"mobile connects you with the persons far away from us but wre forget who is sitting next to us bercause of it "