You Are Making Me Cry...

Philippines
October 15, 2011 12:30pm CST
Ey, folks. I feel so overwhelmed right now. The latest topic I had posted here was very personal. Out of desperation and depression that I have discussed it here, wanting to share my burden and my pain, not to be understood but only to feel that I am not alone and that there is someone out there who is listening to my cries. As I was going through the responses, I couldn't help crying. Realities have unfolded right before my very eyes. The painful reality of my situation and the reality that indeed there are strangers who really do care and listen... I may not give you all the best response but Know, dear people, that I truly am grateful to all of you for bearing with me and lending me your ears so that I may be enlightened and comforted...
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19 responses
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
16 Oct 11
Hi Eureka ! It is heartening to hear that responses to your last post helped you understand the on going situation in a better way. You could know that mylot friends are always there to support and comfort you and if need be they render their advice too. Hope their responses will make you feel that there are friends around to share your joys and sorrows.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
20 Oct 11
Hello Eureka! Nice to hear that am one of the good friends here. You see mylot is such a place where you could share anything without any hesitation and others will participate/advice with zeal and enthusiasm. It is a kind of second family for many of us. When we are upset with some off line activities, mylotting helps as a stress-buster.
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Come to think of it, dear. I think of Mylot as my second family, too. Not because I get to talk here the way I wanted to and the things I wanted to talk about but because of people like you. This is the site where I feel I truly belong. Thank you for making me feel such way. Truly special.
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• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Hello, dear. Yes, I am confident to agree with you on what you said about Mylot friends, I have a couple of good ones from here and you are one of them. This is one reason why I keep coming back here. There was a time before that I hardly had the time to log in that I thought I'll never come back to this site despite of the good feeling its members gave me. But I was wrong.Even if I have nothing to say about myself or my situation or my thoughts, I just can't fully turn my back on Mylot. I keep coming back to check on my friends. Though, I couldn't visit all of you but still I'm glad to see you from time to time knowing that you are still here.
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@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
17 Oct 11
We never intended for any poster to cry or to get mad at our responses. We just want to share our own experience and if it can lighten up your heart it will be better. Many of us here know each other in real life, but most of us here are just faceless (and sometimes nameless) friends. We care about you, but we may not care deeply as your real friends and family do. Well at least that is my belief...
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, Jennyze. As always, you made me smile again with your comment. Let me tell you ,dear, that you are one witty firend here in Mylot. Oh, I love to read your comments/responses because always at the end, no matter how serious you have started you can seem to twist it and end up having that bubbly thought. That's what I love about you. Yeah, I know. You care , as well as those who responded to my discussion and stood by me all these years. That is good enough for me. I don't need you to care that deeply towards me because it is difficult to do that since just like you said we are just a bunch of faceless or even nameless people. just the warm of your responses through words is fair enough and overwhelming enough for me.
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Don't be, dear. You are just stating the plain truth. But, of course, as humans we can not really refuse to care especially when we see that a person is in dire need of help.And I'm glad that despite of being strangers, you still feel compassion towards others. That's what matters most.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
21 Oct 11
Now, you made me ... guilty I do care just like a person should care for other people, especially for someone who needs it...
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
17 Oct 11
Anonymity and the internet is a funny thing. Details and names left behind makes it easier to share feelings and pain. I've read some of your discussions, and I think I know what you're going through. It is tough. Although you might feel alone, you could always draw up sympathy and even strength from people who you might not know personally, but are going through the same thing. Hang in there!
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, dear Bounce. I know that I have shared some of my stories with you and you have responded to them well. Those words that came from you are light enough for me to make me move forward despite of what I am going through. Yes, it is maybe the anonymity that makes me feel comfortable to reach out to you, guys here. But I have no regrets that I did even if I'm not sure if how would the people here respond to my case. Whenever, i am talking to a 'friend' here, I am never alone. Though I am always starting a discussion as confused, hurt or angry but at the end, talking about what I feel here makes me feel a lot better. I do not know if I would have endured this much if I have not known Mylot. Come to think of it that the very person who is always the subject of my discussion is the person who brought me here. Now, there s something I have to be grateful despite of the issues between us...LOL Mylot or better to say, the users here are almost a family for me and you are one of those that I hold dear in my heart.
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
The pleasure is mine, Bounce. Oh, I so lokk forward to that day, too. You know it is kinda tiring to post all these negatively charged emotional out pours here. I wanted to shift into something happy and positive. Let's cross our fingers for that, then, my dear. You, too, stay as happy and lovely as you already are.Or should I say, happier and lovelier.:-)
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Oct 11
Thanks! I still look forward to the day when you will start discussions here about how happy you are. And how you've left all these pain behind. I hope they come soon!
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
16 Oct 11
Well, i don't mind lending you my ears sweetie. But you have to understand that i get into trouble not using them myself.
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, sweetie. Well, I do believe you. In almost all of my discussions you are always there. Cheering me up and giving me always a word or two of your precious thoughts and advice. You are one of those dear people here that I am truly grateful for having. Sweetie, what would I do with my miserable life without people like you who eventhough virtually exist but so real and sincere? I wouldn't have gotten this far remaining sane without you to back me up. With that said, I owe a lot of my sanity to you and my dear Mylotter friends here.
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
It has been four months ago already since you post your last comment here ? That long! If this is only your FB comment, I'd hit 'like':-) You are right, sweetie, we almost have the same issues in life. And it is better to help each other. One way or another it is beneficial to both parties. Who knows one of us will finally stumble upon a good solution that all of us can make use of. Have a lovely day ahead, sweetie. By the way, I missed seeing this drunk fairy.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Oct 11
Always here and glad to be of service, sweetie. Anyway, whether virtual or real life, we all have most of the same problems. What better way than standing together and helping one another out.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
18 Oct 11
eurekafemme, please don't cry, we are here for you when you need us. I believe all us MyLotters do care about our friends. I know I do care. You are not alone in your depression, I know that because I am going through my own depression. I also have hard times right now. So, please don't cry, I want to see a smile on your face. Because, now, knowing that we do care, we are not only here for you but we are here to make you smile and laugh.
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, Inertia. I know that we have been 'friends' for only a while and yet your username sounds so familiar to me already. It is because you have made your presence and friendship be know to me eversince. With that I am so grateful and humbvled for having you here as a friend. No, I will not cry as much as I used to do. I will still cry but just for a moment. It won't be a bucket. LOL. Because now know that I have friends who'd want to keep me company and are willing to lend an ear. Oh, dear... I think you are the one needing a cheering up. Whatever you are going through a lot , you can share it. It is my chance to give back to what you have been giving me. You can choose to pm or start a discussion about it and I'll be there to support you. Though, I may be busy at times but I'll make sure to check on you... Cheer up, dear Inertia. We are not alone.
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• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Hi there again, Inertia. My apologies for this very late response to your comment as I have been very busy with the many situations I have in my life. Please accept my apologies. I can't be angry for so long or be sad forever. Somehow, I need to learn to forgive and possibly, to forget.I have to find a way to feel better. Please just drop a line or two my way whenever you wanted to. I'll always be happy to be of help. Always be well , my dear.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
21 Oct 11
I have to say first, thank you very much. You are a true friend. I am glad to hear you are not feeling as bad as before. I know I am going through a lot right now and I do appreciate you offer to talk. If I need to I will pm you. I want you to have a wonderful weekend my friend. Also, I will not be here tomorrow, but I will be here Sunday night.
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 11
is it ok for me to respond to this? I got the same experience. well, when I cant share my burden and not letting people around me know what I have been through. it only piled steams on me. at some points, I couldn't bear it, I wanted to share. but they weren't available. I felt so lonely. but then I found people, strangers-who now are friends- that I only knew from the net, I found it cared about me and listened to me. It makes me really really grateful that there are people, still a lot nice people. for that, I understand your feeling.^____^ good to know that you found nice people too.
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
Hello, Kyrararen. You are very much welcome to respond to any discussion that you feel like to. And for being the first one to respond here, let me thank you for that and welcome to Mylot. I found this site because I was looking for something I can kill my time with. I was one hell of a bored person and at the same time suffering a lot from emotional turmoil. Yes, here I found the ones who make me feel I matter and that I exist. This is my personal mantra about friends and strangers. Treat strangers kindly and as you would treat a friend. Besides, our friends used to be strangers to us, too. I found real (though virtual) friends who shares my joys and bear with me during my lows. I am blessed to have them. :-)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 11
Eurekafemme, thank you, thank you for the warm welcome.I like talking and responding to discussion. I like to know people and sometimes, I like to share piece of me. I like what you wrote about treating strangers. threat them kindly as treating a friend. I like that. may I be your friend?
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Hi there Kyrararen. I have sent you a friend's request to let you know that you are very much welcome in my circle of friends. Would love to see you around more. Sharing a piece of you makes a lot of people see things in a different perspective. It is the reason why friendship is created. We have to see ourselves in the lives of other people to have a better view of our situation. I guess, friends are mirrors of who and what we are and who we want to be.
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
16 Oct 11
There are really very good people online. I've also gone through the experience as you. Whenever I needed emotional support my online friends were always there. Their care, love and support moved me very much and have brought tears in my eyes many times!! And in mylot, it's not that people just post something to make money. There are so many of us who respond here with their heart.
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
21 Oct 11
Thank you eureka:) I agree that facebook is not so good as mylot. I can hardly spend ten minutes there!! But I'm wondering where you vanished after posting this discussion. You are back after 5 days!!
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
Hello, dear. Firstly,I'm sorry for getting back at you this late. I have been through a lot and I wanted to sort my thoughts first. I have been here and posted new discussions just to vent out. I'm not really into commenting yet but I do feel that I really need to respond in this particular discussion because this is supposed for you, guys, who are so willingly lend an ear when one needed an ear or even a hand to lighten up their burdens. It took me almost a month before I can check this out again! So sorry. Thank you, Buddha. Have a wonderful day always. :-)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, Buddha. Very true. Sometimes online friends are a lot warmer and sincere when it comes to lending their ears to a needy friend. Maybe, because it is so easy to do that when we are not really personally attach to such person. We can think better of his/her situation and we can give a better piece of advise than we do know them personally. This is the reason why I keep coming back here. Always rekindling my love affair to mylot and its users. The friendship I found here is just so overwhelming that I can no longer think of any other site (not even facebook) who can top what I have found here. thank you for being dropping a line and sure enough, I know you are one of those who pour your heart out when you are responding to a discussion. I can already feel your warm friendliness. :-)
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
16 Oct 11
eurekafemme, “A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart.” - Anon.
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, Skysuccess. If ever I have a friend here in Mylot that I would consider who always amazes me for the responses and comments it gives, you are that person. You always speak your mind with sincerity and sometimes, it is kinda hurtful but because you often touch the crux of the matter. You are one of my favorite Mylot friends. that said, I owe you a lot (as well as other Mylotters who stood by me all these years) for keeping me standing despite of the shaky ground I had set my feet. such quote is very true. Thank you for sharing it with us, me. especially.
• India
21 Oct 11
It has happened to me earlier, mylot is a wonderful place, here i feel as if it is my own home and the members are my own family members, they have helped me in many respects always. Thanks for sharing Best of luck. Professor
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Hello, Professor!!! I so love seeing you again. It has been ages since the last time I interacted with you. I'm really happy to see you here. I always think of Mylot as my sanctuary. I go here to find peace, enlightenment or even someone to be with. I mean someone to talk to. This is an extension of my family. And you are one of those who I consider one of the wise guys.
@garson (884)
• United States
29 Oct 11
I'm not trying to hurt your feelings in any way and I know that I am late on this one. In my opinion, anything of personal nature should be kept to oneself. There is no need to post something like that in an open forum like mylot. Still, there is nothing wrong with that. I can understand that you want to let things out of your mind. Talk to someone you feel comfortable, whether it's a friend, a family member, or a relative. If you don't have one, try to send a private message to someone that you are comfortable around here. I personally have not done it, so I don't have any idea. Piece to you, have a good day.
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Oh, hello there, Garson.If you are late, I am even more late. So sorry to have kept your response waiting unanswered for so long. :-( You are right, though. There are certain things that shouldn't be brought up in the open and would rather be properly discussed privately. Sigh... But in my situation, I'd not have come this far , sane and well if I have chosen to do that. It is a very long story, dear. I'm just lucky however, that those who responded to my posts about personal issues do not take my posts against me and are not biased of whatsoever. They have given me what I was looking for during those times when I needed a sensible word of advise. I may not follow them all and at the end of the day, it is still my decision that counts but they have helped me weigh things down in order for me to make a reasonable decision. Sometimes, it is ok to admit you're not really OK and be open with what you feel, sincerely asking for help. Maybe, one day, you'll also experience this too. (I hope that your situation will be different from mine, though. ) Have a great day always, Garson. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts. :-)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
I'm sorry to hear that. But hey, this is the right place for you to vent those feelings out. You really did not need any advises right now and it is good to know that people here in my lot are very much wiling to hear your side of story. You can post anything you want if that would help you feel good, right? And in fact, besides unloading those negativity from you, you're also bound into earning more money. Sounds great right? So stop adding to your burdens, just pray to God and He'll help you no matter what. God bless!
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
@genesisgroldan Hello there. Such a very honest piece of though from you. You are right, though. I first came here because I was curious, thanks to my husband who discovered this site first. Then, I realized that I can make friends here and vent out my pains and frustrations. I was overwhelmed by the number of responses and how fast I was gaining friends here. I can feel their sincerity whenever they post their comments to my posts (FYI: most of my posts are emotionally charging). This is the reason why I got hooked to this site. I just keep on posting everything I feel and think and I love it when there are respondents. I made good friends here, too. Then, I saw the top part and I realized I was earning. What a great bonus to already great friends I have found here. . Not to mention, not os emotionally charged me. LOL
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
@kyrararen Yup, you have heard him right. So keep on posting and making more friends here. since you are just new here, you will get to learn the ins and outs here and once you get the hang of it, you'll enjoy it here more. People do not judge you like the way non virtual people we interact with do... This site is what I call my sanctuary.
• Indonesia
15 Oct 11
That I also agree. this is the right place. I found people here are caring and willing to hear. and like Genesisgroldan said, beside unloading negativity from our thought and our heart, we can earn some bucks for our holiday. :)
• India
16 Oct 11
Depression are part of life and we need to come out as soon as possible... be real and follow your heart what i says..
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, Writersolutions. You must be a writer that's why you chose that username, ei. We are only humans who have weaknesses and experiencing depression. Just like you said it is part of our life. I am always real to what I feel and what I say.It is difficult not to. That's what I learn from my more than three decades of existence. It is better to be me than to pretend to be someone that I am not. This way, when friends accepted me , I know I have been accepted, loved, respected as me. Thank you for dropping a line here.*hugs*
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
22 Nov 11
Good that you found relief. I also had one such discussion where I received some negative and some positive feedback. But as you say, atleast people bothered to listen.
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
[b]Hello, Boyuancy. :-) [/b] I can see that you are still a newbie here. Let me welcome you here, then. Yup, this site has been my sanctuary and here I found refuge and relief to whatever burden or issues I often have. There is no doubt that people here will give you their honest opinions and this is what I like most about this site. The members do not only voice out what you wanted to hear but also they do not afraid to voice out what they think is the best for your situation even if you are seemingly to disagree about it. You get both the positive and negative comments. But don't worry ,dear. This is why this site is called for discussion. From contradicting views ,we do learn, right? :-) As long as no one is harassing you, then, I guess, you can just shrug their negative comments off, that ids, if you really think that they do not make sense. Have a great day here and always.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
15 Nov 11
HI EUREKAFEMME, I see your post was a month ago and I wasn't even a mamber of mylot...So just browseing through I came across your post...It is so wonderful to see someone so appreciative of what mylot is about...It is truly an avenue to reach out to others when feeling in any certain way...be it good news to share or a quiry where we are reaching out for help..I have found since my short time here that mylotters are very very passionate and they seem real..of course there are gonna be some bad apples in every barrel but I have not come across any of them yet......hope you are doing much better now with your issue.. take care....
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Hello there, Bjc66bjc. Welcome to Mylot and welcome here to my discussion. Why, I like you already. . I'd like the way you speak up your mind. Seems like a witty person you are to me. :-) As for your response here, you have come to the right place when you just needed real persons to listen to you. Though the primary reason why we all joined here at first is about earnings but eventually people, good ones, do not waste their time by just ranting insensible words just to get a couple of cents out of it. They really meant what they say and some of them would even go to the extent of sharing their own personal experience only to make yours lighter and be resolved. This is the reason why I always feel this appreciation for Mylot members who became my real friends even if we only interact virtually. :-) Yup, just watch out for the trolls. There are still few that are left but you won't be hitting on them too soon. And if you finally do, just treat them well and they will be the one to voluntarily leave you alone. And that is in peace. :-) I hope you will have a great time here like most of us do. Enjoy Mylotting and have a great day always.
@GardenGerty (156256)
• United States
16 Oct 11
Mylot is a wonderful place to get support, and in turn to give it when we can. I am glad that people are listening to you and that you can see it in their responses.
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Hell, GardenGerty. :-) You are very well right about this site. Most of the advice I have gathered are from here. It is liberating to see your life in the perspective of others because they do not know you exactly and there can never be a bias piece of advice but sincere thoughts. Yes, I can see them and feel their every words.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jan 12
hi eurekafemme althouh I am four months late I had to respons aa I seem to have missed your other discussion. I too h a ve found mylot friends to be just so wonderful. When I had bared ny own personal 'problems they were all here for me. Just because we had never met did not make them any the less dear to me. So I know exactly what you mean and how overwhelmed you could get. had forgotten there were people who actually cared about one other and here almost all mylotters really do care. right now I am fighting' the flu and bronchitis and my friends here have all been here for me.Strangers at first, but you get to know each other a lot just through our keyboards. hope you are doing okay now eureka hugs from hatley.
@GemmaR (8517)
15 Oct 11
I think that this website is an amazing place for you to talk to people whenever you feel the need to do so. You will find that there is always somebody who knows what you're going through, and this is a great comfort for you when you need a shoulder to cry on. I have been through some very tough times lately, and I know that there will always be somebody on here for me to talk to. It makes me feel a lot better to know that, because it just shows that you're never on your own no matter what's happening in your life.
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
This is a site where you can interact with people of different values and experience. They do not bother if you are here for the money or what. They just do their part to share. Though they get to earn from what they are doing but I believe it is fair that they will be appreciated for sharing their thoughts and lives with us. They get to earn but that doesn't mean they are not sincere with their post/responses and comments. I have been here for quite awhile and I can honestly say that I have encountered lotters who are truly sincere in helping me out.I can feel the sincerity to help in their responses. I'm glad you have found this site, GemmaR. Don't worry, whatever you are going through right now, for sure you are never alone. there's always someone who is willing to lend an ear, count me in. Though we can only communicate virtually but that's all we need, someone to communicate to.It makes us we exist and we matter.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
This is the reason why mylot is the best site for me. We can always inter-act with friends and other mylotters real time. We can vent our feelings and found solace from comments. I called mylot my "shock absorber" my listener and a good companion when I am alone and lonely. have a great day and keep smiling
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hello, dear Jaiho. I agree! This is the best site to vent out and be the person that we truly are without having to face humiliation and misjudgement. Ah, you are one of those friends here in Mylot that I hold dear in my heart. Not because we almost have the same experience, relationship speaking but because you have helped me in a lot of ways through sharing your own experience and pain, to get through mine. thank you so much for being a good friend. *hugs*
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
15 Oct 11
Yes, sometimes we do feel alone with our problems until we reach out to others and find that all of us go through bad times and it is very comforting when you can share your burdens and receive the support you are looking for. Mylot is a great place for since there are so many others here who are compassionate and understanding and i'm happy you received the support you were looking for
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
When we are in our lowest point in our life, all we need is a dear friend who would want to listen to us. Hold our hands, perhaps, telling us that we are not alone in our struggles. Here in mylot, I have found those kind of people. Though I only get to interact with them virtually but I can very well feel their sincerity to be of help and to listen. I am truly and deeply touched by such kindness and sincerity. :-)