I'll wait till you reach 100 posts and accept your friend request

The majority of new users are NOT spammers and they send friend requests when they see interesting posts. I have no problem accpeting them and answering their questions in PMs. I feel that it is easier to accept them and make them feel at home. We can later delete them if we made the wrong decision but we might be missing out if we wait unil they reach 1OO posts. If we all did that then many might leave as they would not feel welcome here

What you say is not always true . I have experienced in one or two cases where a new user turned to be a spammer . Whether a new member has zero or hundred post it doesn't bother me . I welcome all as my friend . Newbies may need help in understanding mylot and I am ready to help them . When I was new so many veteran members became my friends and helped me whenever I needed them . I also do that and never weigh them in regards to their post count .

I do the same thing. I don't wait for a certain number of posts though. I will just wait awhile after they request me. If they requested me a month ago and their numbers are still under 50 or even 100 and haven't moved hardly at all since they requested me then I will deny it. I haven't had trouble with spammers so far. I guess because I make them wait so long before I accept them.

If ever I send a friend request, it's because I like the topic he or she started. I like to befriend people who talk sensibly,and with wit and humor. I like people who help you with some life's problems and I appreciate very much when they offer a helping hand through their pieces of advice. I'm sure there are more mylotters who are like these people than mylotters who just spam around.

I didn't care about spammers here on mylot. As long as I still am able to partake in participation session, I would not longer felt bothered about them. It's your full right to not accept them as friend but what I think by refusing them to be your friend is a mistake. I was not doubted that we're used to be spammers when we checked in first here on mylot, weren't we ?

I think it must be accepted all, reaching up to 500 posts are not a guarantee of new members intention... the reason why i don't believe in Fraternity Initiations.... paddling to hit plenty of times the new recruit while saying: "yes my chapter yes my chapter" are not a guarantee of its loyalty.... accepting new newbies and later time comes, they reach up to more than 1,500 posts then "a hand salute" i have trust now, ever since before....

Hi I won't say that most of the new mylotters are spammers because they send friends request when they have very few posts under their belts. However, if anyone has less than 100 posts, I feel hesitant to accept his or her request immediately. I may keep it pending for few days to observe if she or he is really serious on mylot and his number of posts has actually increased. If I see an improvement and his or her interests are similar to my interests, I add him/her.

I always accept the friend requests that I get from new members. I don't want to reject every new member, because some new members send out spam, I might lose out on a great friendship if I reject people "just" because they are new. I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt and accept them on my friendlist. Sometimes I get friend requests from people who are more interested in referrals than friendship, but I still to accept everyone at first. If they start spamming me I can always delete them later on.

Awww jacruz! You are so strict and choosey with your friend requests hahahaah! In my case though, i will accept any friend request if they happened to have replied to any of my discussions. In this regard, i would at least know that we share the same interests.

I don't like wasting my time for people who I'm not certain with. Then again, there have been many times where I am lazy about accepting friend requests to begin with. Then again, I can't bring myself to reject them either. Half of the time, they just go there, right in limbo, not doing anything, not really doing any choice. Granted there comes a time where I go through people and cherry pick them, seeing if they are someone who looks to be in for the long hall. At one time, there were a lot of times where I was very nice, and accepting of pretty much everyone who sent a friend request. These days, I am a bit more selective. No offense to people but there are times where if people are not going to be worth it. Of course the point is moot as I forget to check the friend requests but it is the intention of the matter that really counts with me. At least as far as I'm concerned.

100 post many of the new mylotter won't even reach till there if they find no friends here who can guide them when they are new i do accept every one but some times i wait for few days and many time the member become inactive so i have just kept them and accept them when they would again become active not every new member here have spam my inbox usually the one who start how to get referrals kinda of people who are new here spam for a time but if we try to explain them that they should not be spamming many listen and many don't and if they don't we can easily delete them

I am cautious about accepting new friend requests on mylot as well as other sites. I will not accept a friend request until posts are close to 100. I also watch to see that the mylotter continues to post -- that he/she does not have 80 or 90 posts for weeks. I also read the discussions that the mylotter has begun and the responses to other discussions. I have also had some problems with scammers / spammers and not just on mylot.

I'll accept anyone as they also accept me here when I was new and wandering in this site. I'm still a newbie three months ago and so lucky that most of mylotters that I add accept me, even if I didn't reach 100 post. About the spammers that's not a problem with me all I care is the notification from mylot saying that my comment was deleted because of deletion of discussion and that scares me most, Ive observed that some of my points have been forfeit too. (Just my observation)

that is fair enough bro... you right,many newbee like to send spam but not me... i will make 100 post and more so i could be everyone's friend..thank you bro

I am so truly thankful, I was not greeted this way..by senior myLotters when I joined many years ago, as I wouldn't be here, where I am ..today! I am truly grateful for those that took a chance on me...and accepted me at face value....and so I feel I must "pay this favour forward!" In real life, I try NOT to paint all in the same category with the same brush, and allow each to be themselves and share their merit! I appreciate this is your way of doing things...but I truly hope, there is more of the generous of spirit...or this kind of forum would go nowhere! Take care!