If this is cool, I'll take uncool, tyvm
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85137)
Shingle Springs, California
November 3, 2011 8:10pm CST
So Dearra came home in a bad mood today.
First there was the motivational assembly they had, in which they talked about abusive families, and some real cases. Ok I can see the point, but motivational?
Then there was an incident in PE. One of the unpopular boys got his wind knocked out of him while they were playing La Crosse, and she overheard some of the popular boys making fun of him. One of them even said that he would have kicked him while he was down if he could have.
Well, she kept it inside and didn't go off on the idiots, but we certainly heard all about it when she got home.
She was wondering what the heck these people's parents were doing to have raised a boy who had such awful values.
She nailed it!
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18 responses
@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Nov 11
Alot of kids don't grow up with values now days. I am pro-multiple generational family untis. By that I mean that when I was young I grew up with my grandparents very much in my life. I think it is good to have old fashioned values in a childs formative years. So many single families now days and parents who just aren't involved in their childs lives. No communication. No effection. Very sad.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Nov 11
THey taught me old fashioned values. I have taught my grandson manners and things I think he wouldn't get if I wasn't here.
@BarBaraPrz (51811)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
4 Nov 11
Too bad she didn't say something to the dolts. They need wising up.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Nov 11
I doubt it would have made an impression...
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
That's my girl! 14 going on 35. An old soul! The answer is that the parents Are not raising the kids at all. Both work and the kid is raising himself. He thinks being smaller means weaker and he will soon learn. Or not . He may just bully himself into a jail cell. Tell Ms. D I'm proud of her.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Nov 11
The difference, you two work but you Still parent. Many adults do not parent. And they us work as an excuse. My Bad. I should have said this in the beginning.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
5 Nov 11
Your daughter sounds like a wonderful person, and she is right, it is all about the parents.. Remember the Willy Wonka movie and how the one girl was a total brat? Who was to blame but the mom and dad!!!
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
14 Nov 11
True, Violet was also a brat, but it was the other one where they pointed it out. I think Violet's problem was greed.
@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
4 Nov 11
Like father,like son.Criminals are sometimes the product of bad homes.Dearra is really a child of fine breeding.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Nov 11
His father is quite probably an arrogant jerk...
@WildHorses (718)
• United States
11 Nov 11
Haven't you heard, Dawn? This is the new norm with this generation in how they think in this society. I suppose this means it is cool and I'd rather take the heat being uncool. Now, where is my drink with an umbrella in it?
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Nov 11
I hope you like mai tais, that's what we're making today...
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Nov 11
I wonder... In her Jr. High bullying issue, the parents didn't seem to even believe their children were doing it.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
4 Nov 11
Well, they were not teaching him how to treat people that's for sure! These kids don't get this way overnight. I don't understand it. I can't imagine any one of my kids treating someone so cruelly. One thing you can be proud of is that Dearra has compassion. And why is it that the bullies always get to be the "popular" kids? It's always been that way. I know as a kid, I always took the side of the underdog. The kid getting picked on would be the kid I had lunch with or invited home after school. It made me even more unpopular than I probably would have been anyway.
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
5 Nov 11
OMG...that is too true! Just on a local level, I can see that. Some of the cops here are people I knew in school and yes...bullies with big attitudes and swollen egos. One that went on to work in his dad's law firm is currently being brought up on charges for a fire he is suspected of starting in the 80's in which an entire family perished. His ex was in the building and he was angry at her as she was with someone else. I don't know if he did or did not do it as it is still in the courts. IT's getting brought up again now because people that were intimidated by him back then when we were all real young...no longer are.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Nov 11
yeah and the scary part is that those are the kids who end up running corporations and going into law and so on...
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
5 Nov 11
You really are raising a wonderful young woman. You should be very proud of her.
My son currently the target of one girl in his classes ridicule because he stuck up for another girl in his class. She now adds him to her daily list of kids to give a hard time. Fortunately the best she can come up with is calling him a "stupid white boy...thinking you got manners."
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
4 Nov 11
I really can't get over how mature she is. You must beam with pride every time she says anything! Wish some of my kids were more like that.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Nov 11
Well not always, but she really does have a good head on her shoulders most of the time.
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
I was like that in my teenage years.. i used to hate it when i hear people make nasty comments but won't take it out on them - or else i would have been expelled so i would go home grumpy and all and complain about it to my parents..but i guess parents and people in general aren't alike..people think differently.
Good for you Dearra is maturing and thinking right and knows what a good value should be.. i hope my kids will turn out that well as well.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Nov 11
I doubt there's much anybody could really do when it's just talk like that anyway. If they'd really done something, I would have gone with her and talked to the principal.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
4 Nov 11
You raised a smart kid in your Dearra! Good for her! I wish more kids would be raised like Dearra and the twins! Some parents just don't care what types of values they teach their kids! Good or bad! Especially bad! It is a shame! I see it all the time at work with college students! I feel sorry for the kids they have in the future!
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Nov 11
I don't know what this kid's problem is, but that was pretty awful.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Nov 11
That's more Naomi's style, but I could see Dearra giving him a tongue lashing!
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
5 Nov 11
I would have to agree with you. I just don't understand how parents can raise their children to think it's ok to tease and physically hurt people. I guess it's a good thing she kept a level head until she got home. Who knows what those idiots would of said or done. I think someone needs to talk to those boys and set them straight. Best Wishes!
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Nov 11
yeah it was probably smart not to take them on
@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
4 Nov 11
I am impressed with Dearra. She has compassion and good sense as well. Bullying seems to get so out of hand at that age.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Nov 11
yeah, I think Mr. Bully was trying to act cool in front of his friends, what a bunch of dumbos...
@estherlou (5015)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Peer pressure causes a lot of this type of behavior. They are trying to look and be cool and that usually means putting someone else down as a comparison to themselves. Bravo for your daughter! Maybe next time she will feel she can express what she feels. She's a winner.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 11
hi dawn I tell you Dearra is amazing as yes she did nail it perfectly , rotten parents raise rotten kids with rotten
values. she is so smart wow. She sounds a little old for her
age and quite discerning too.You can be proud of how you have
raised your children indeed dawn.
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