Negative people

Yeah, I can be negative sometimes. Some people have there days, so I'll give them some time and space if it's their moody days... but some people will just go at it like persistently... if so, I'll give them a few chances until I can't take it anymore.

I have always been negative about myself but positive about others. So You would be cheerful , I would be cheerful back but when you leave I was convinced I was evil and Nothing I wanted would Ever happen. But one by one they have! and the most precious gift I have now is my self worth so I'm still a person who will see the glass half full and but now I hope it doesn't have a leak instead being convinced There is a leak!

Personally I know people who are like that, and it can be a downgrading side of life. When you really think about them many times it will get to where no one wants to talk with them anymore as well just because of this attitude. We need to remember that life will not always be a Bed of Roses for anyone, but if you can try to stay more focused Thanking God and being Prayerful and thankful more people will want to talk with you and find out things for sure.

I usually seperate myself from them. You know if you are a friend with someone and they have problems then you listen...but all the time gets very old. They never have a good thing to say...I like to say to them.....adious!

Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself how you would feel if you had that kind of life. If you loose everything, have nobody to help you out, if you get stabbed in your back time after time, if you have to live without love, trust, any future, if you are in pain every day of your life and if nobody is really interested in you and: how do you do? Is just a politer way of saying "hi"? Ask yourself how your life would look if you are depressed every day, not because of any specific reason but because this is in your dna. If you are knocking on door, asking for help but nobody is really willing to help you and social work or the doctor only does if you pay first. Life is not that easy for every person around us. It has to do with your character, attitude but also the way you are raised and the people around you, if you are able to see something positive in everything, if you can see some light. If you are asking someone out, to come over for a visit/cup of tea, don't give up if that person rejectects. It takes time, courage, trust to go over, and more time to discover you liked it. Not all people have the same social/emotional qualities as well. It is for sure that negative people drag you down easier as positive people/engery will lift up the negative. But it's stil posible. As a positive person don't feel personal attacked, let it go/flow and don't respond on everything. If it's too hard to hear the same story again stay away, do something happy/nice for yourself. Try to show that negative person you do like him/her but you can't stand or listen to the never ending complaining and that only working/being active can change something in the situation. And if the eyes of the negative/complainer are not opend by that (the chat/discussion/advice) start complaining yourself... who knows that will wake up him/her since birds of a feather...

Negative people.They're like human blavk holes wich suddenly come out of nowhere and just suck the life out of you.

I have a friend and his dad is very negative and miserable all the time. One Christmas I gave him a book called about how to become happier. It was a shame that it went in his bookcase and he didn't ever read it. When I see him I say hello to him in a pleasant way. He is a man with very few words and sometimes he says a little to me. I don't let him ruin my happy mood.

With great difficulty. My mother was one of these and her attitudes often led to rows and I would have to walk out of the room to calm down. The trouble is that thanks to her I spent most of my youth drenched in negativity and found it hard to be positive. It is hard to be positive when the world seems to be caving in around you. When everything you do fails and there is no emotional support. I spent years in a variety of programs to clear my negativity, to learn to control it, to learn to be positive. Yet even now when too many things go wrong at once I can fall back into old patterns and it is hard to break free. The good thing is that I am aware of it and 99% of the time I am ok. But I have always found it silly to lie to someone when they say "Hi, how are you doing?' and say "Fine, how are you?'. I tend to do it because it is the easiest option but it is a lie if I have had a pain filled night and I have woken up miserable I hate saying I am fine but I do it because it is the easiest option and is a social thing. I do not do it because I am feeling positive.

I am surrounded by a few such people at my place of work. There is no way that I can avoid them and have to bear with them for eight hours everyday. I have tried to cheer one or two and the rest I just ignore completely.

The best way to deal with people like that is very simple. Just don't ask. See, that way you do not have to hear all the negative remarks that they feel so comfortable saying. I just don't ask and I avoid.

This type of people are always utterly disheartened as if the sky will fall down ,once they suffer setbacks.They don't know that life is full of frustrations and life isn't all fun.Sometimes they actually worry about troubles of their own imaging.Fortunately,I haven't found somebody around me like that recently.

I often encounter such people like them, but i don't really mind what they say, I live according to my belief and I love the way I handle myself, self discipline is the best shield against these people, no matter what the situation is we should never lose our temper.

Yes i got irritated when seeing such negative type peoples they always discourage us by saying something negative. They always make their mind to do all things negative its because they have lack of confidence in life. If they purpose to talk with anyone then they had ability to change optimistic person to pessimistic. As a result i always dont hear the peoples who are talking negatively to me.

Hi GreenMoo! I think it's in our own perspective if we want to be dragged down by dealing with negative people. We are all mature enough to think and feel what's better for us. Sometimes it's really irritating to listen to all their problems but we need to understand them too and be there for them especially if they're our family member or friends.The least that we can do to help them is by listening. We don't even need a single word to advise them, just be there for them. I had a friend like that and everyday she tell me her problems, 'though I am giving her the usual advise sometimes I gets really irritated coz I'm like a broken record that keeps telling her what to do. But I did not really left her. And I never see myself those times being brought down with negativity. If I gets tired of listening to her I would interrupt her and tell happy things. And then she'll smile and laugh.

I read somewhere that it is best to eliminate these people from your life as they can drag you down, I know that when I am around happy people then I am happy too, I really do think that if you are sensitive then it is the right thing to do.

I used to be one of those negative people and saw myself as realistic, not negative. I would sometimes wonder why I had few friends and decided that I was too intelligent and different for them to like me. My outlook was twisted by self-centeredness. I improved once I had my children (the first at 33) but didn't make any real changes until my divorce when I heard a motivational speaker talk about choosing your attitude. My life changed completely! I don't like being around negative people but I always remember that I could have really used someone like I am now, back then. I steer the conversation to the good things in life and try to find a way to make them realize all the blessings they have. I at least try to make them laugh or smile--when you are so negative, a smile or laugh can upset your day in the very best way. One reason people are negative is "how are you?" has become a question people really don't want an answer to. I ask it then listen and if they don't answer I ask again. Many people are unburdened a bit when they know someone really is interested in how they are doing.

I can be negative quite often, not that I'm proud of it or anything. My mother is worse, she's negative about everything. She always feels like people are purposely trying to inconvenience her or annoy her. It kind of drives me crazy. I used to be just like her, but have gotten better over the years. Mostly I just try to ignore the negativity from others, or just listen and not say much but in my head of course I say to myself what a jerk this person is or whatever.

Admittedly, I could actually classify myself as a negative person. Although I don't bother everybody with my litany of woes, or say something about anybody, I do always see the negative side of things. It's just my pessemistic nature, that I always expect the worse. So, that if anything good come out in a situation which I've already deemed negative, then I would be pleasantly surprised.

green moo- your name cheers me and boy, do I hate such people. I have met a lady like you described, she used to come to my house and at the smallest pretext, used to literally cry her heart out making us children hate her almost. now I think she must have been so sad, but at that time, I used to resent her presence.

see to be honest, i've no idea how i deal with these people, because i think i am one lol! i always have something to complain about, isnt that terrible? but i really do :( lol!!