My brother's wife

@indahfth (11161)
Indonesia
November 23, 2011 3:15am CST
When I opened facebook, I was very surprised, with a status created by my brother's wife. My brother's wife, saying bad things about my parents, because, my parents, do not give money, which was asked by my brother. I became sad, angry, and finally tears. I really did not expect, my brother's wife, saying bad things.
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@Mashnn (4501)
23 Nov 11
You need to confront her and let her know you know what she said in the facebook. It is very sad that guys like hanging their dirty linen to the whole world. It more mature if she would have just told you or someone else. I don't get it.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
I do not know, what I should do. I am so tired of dealing with them, I also have to think of my mother, who was in the hospital.
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@Mashnn (4501)
23 Nov 11
You can also try to talk to your brother to hear about the whole issue and hear what he thinks about it.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
Looks like something that would be futile to talk to them. I chose silence, and focus on my mother.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 11
How could she do that to your parents in such a public place. She should respect her in-laws. Don't respond to her as it will give her more reasons to verbally abuse your parents when you respond. Just ignore and pretend that she didn't exist in your family.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
I do not want to be a more hated, by the wife of my brother and his family. Because, as I heard, they hated me, because I always advise them. I am also self- aware, I am not someone who is always right, and also still need advice.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
I do not respond, what was done by my brother's wife. Responding to my brother's wife, just makes me more sick. I'm just sad, my mother was in hospital. But, my brother's wife, did not care, but instead insult.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
indah, sometimes i think it`s the function of her husband (your brother) for talking his wife that it`s not good attitude.. your brother must say clear that his wife is not child anymore, when all her action can be forgiven by all people.. it`s rude when talking about the parents ( i always say that mother in law is our mother too) and say bad things about our parents.. yes sometimes we are unhappy with our parents, but how come we can use our parents as topic in our facebook... i can see many young player use their parents or teacher become topic in their facebook or another social site, because they feel it`s free for them
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Thats really bad of her to do that. Why are they expecting the parents to give them money? If anything they should be giving your parents money. I know ive helped my daughter out alot even after she was grown up. But now things are not so good for me. My daughter helps me now. I hate asking her because i have always done ok alone and even when i was raising my kids alone. But now times are harder for me. i dont ask unless i dont know what else to do.
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
25 Nov 11
She sounds like a very self centered person. How does your brother feel about what happen?
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
I do not know, how the feeling of my brother. Because, I did not ask this, to my brother. Hopefully, my sister can give meaning to his wife.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
My brother's wife just know, if there is any money he requested. Without looking at the situation and condition. Me and my family, was collecting money for hospital expenses of my mother, but my brother's wife did not care.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Sorry to hear that you are going through many bad things lately. Better talk with your sister in law. It is good spreading words like that through internet. She can face your parents...why let the whole world know the private and family issue...so bad.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Nov 11
hi jaiho you left out a word I do believe should be it is not good spreading words like that through internet.lol teasing a b it okay? hatley here.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
My brother's wife was cruel, and never think about other people's feelings. My mom is sick now, my brother's wife did not care, and instead think of money for unnecessary things.
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
hi, indahfth, I'm so sorry to hear that.. by now I still wonder why people make facebook as their escape and forgot how to interact each other, how to solve problem together with their family or partner.I'm not a fake, sometime I did it, push my emotion to facebook, but it's only when I have no escape and the problem can not handle anymore. my suggestion, you, your family and your brother's wife should talk each other about what problem occure.telling facebook won't solve any problem except adding extra problem and make your family shy because it's read by everyone.your problem isn't everyone problem, it should be family secret and solve by family.I believe it can be solve between your sister in law and all of your family
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
My brother and his wife, living separately with my parents. I have often, talking to my brother's wife, and invited to become a harmonious family. But, no results. And the family of my brother's wife, blaming me, and I became despised, by the family of my brother's wife. I've given up. Rather, my focus with my mother, who was ill.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
I've been lazy, to talk to my brother's wife. So far, I've often talked to my brother's wife. But there was never any results. Lucky, who knows facebook my brother's wife, just me and my brother. Because, my brother's wife, never wanted to know, my family.
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• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
it's almost complicated thing.I understand if you don't want to talk with her again, but it won't solve anything but make everything come to worse.you need to talk to her and your brother to find way out because it've been big family problem. do your brother and wife separately with your family or collect in one house?? If they life in house, they are better life separately since many unharmony family ( mother in law - daughter in law ) because they live in one house.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
23 Nov 11
Oh....I don't understand why such people behave like this????If she have any problem with her mother in low,She can share her problems with you as a god sister.... The husband should not support his wife to stand as oppose to the parents....He should think that they are the people who protected him from his child hood....I think there will have some financial problem between your mom and her....When he asked money,May the parents will not have money with them to give....That women can earn money if they need money....I don't like that character....Means blaming other people for their own false....There will have any false form their part.... We should be perfect first.....Then We can blame others....But I don't like that behaviour... Don't worry...... God bless you friend...
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
Someday, surely things will turn around. Only a matter of time.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
In the mind of my brother's wife, no one else, besides money. Money filled his mind, so that my brother's wife, never thought of other people's feelings.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
24 Nov 11
It's very bad..... She will realize the value or the pain of some one in future.....
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
23 Nov 11
Hi indahfth, This is one of the problems with facebook, people post things that should be kept private. While we cannot control how another feels, we do expect family members to be discreet in the things they say, especially in the social media such as facebook. Blessings.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
Yes. You are right. I am also very surprised. Why would they do such a thing.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
My sister-in-law facebook - This is an insult, intended for my mother, by my sister-in-law.
Facebook should be, could be used for something useful, not to insult.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
Posel, i had ever become the victim of facebook.. some people who dislike me, make their facebook for insulting me.. sometimes i am uncomfortable with a people who talk behind me and use their facebook as "weapon" and attack me..
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
26 Nov 11
Do you that people will actually believe what your sister-in-law wrote? Are there certain untrue states for which you feel the need to give a rebuttal? It is sad that she does not feel that she is a part of your family and, therefore want to protect the family's reputation.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
3 Dec 11
How does she explain her child?
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
Facebook friend, my sister-in-law, no one knows, who is referred by my sister-in-law. Because, friends facebook, my sister-in-law, no one knows, if my sister-in-law married. My sister-in-law, still hiding her marriage, from his friends.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
absolutely that your brother's wife is not capable in trust here you can see her true colors whatever you do would just give her a negative impact just ignore her and the things that she said
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
I did ignore, what my brother's wife. I also will ignore, the wife of my brother, if I meet. I was very hurt, because my brother's wife, saying bad things, when my mother was ill.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
she deserves it
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
oh my god... i dont know how to say it.. i think your brother should take this problem as his main problem.. he should teach his wife for respecting your mother.. your mother is her mother too
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
It seems, would be futile to talk to my brother's wife. My patience has run out. I do not care, the wife of my brother again. Just let my brother's wife, who was mad, I do not want to go crazy. Responding to my brother's wife, just makes me mad.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
so talk about something which did not make you crazy or mad.. the life is so beautiful.. just ignore the things which make you will be more mad...
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
Yes. Now, I would not care, my sister-in-law again. There are still many, who should I care.
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
It was very sad. Was she not ashamed to bring family problems to the outside world? I recommend that you be not too concerned about her speech and more importantly, you should take care of the mother than you are dealing with him. It's good you're not too concerned with what she said. It is most important, keep harmony with your husband and do not easily get provoked by her. Okay.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
My brother's wife, did not have any shame. I did not care. I just feel sad, my parents treated like that. I am also very angry. Now, I can control my anger. But, I will never, talked to my brother's wife again.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
My brother's wife, did not have any shame. I did not care. I just feel sad, my parents treated like that. I am also very angry. Now, I can control my anger. But, I will never, talked to my brother's wife again.
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• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
It would be nice to communicate with her again.
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@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
23 Nov 11
Hello indahfth, Its sad to see people in the world who are so greedy for money and just forget about anything if they don't get it. You must warn her and your brother not to be so greedy i hope if she don't understand it your brother surely will understand it as afterall they are his parents also.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
My brother's wife is very wasteful, and also very selfish. He said a bad thing, when my mother pains. He was very cruel.
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@ranilo70 (177)
30 Nov 11
try to talk to her and ask her why is she talking like that. . . let her remember that once you are married already you can stand on your own feet and that you should not ask something from your parents for parents only guides us not that they are going to give us once we are married already.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
I leave it to my brother. I provide an opportunity for my brother, to advise his wife.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Oh my issue should be within your family only. I can't believe how she can tell all her friends or maybe your common family friends about these things. In fact your parents should not support or give money to any of you who are already having your own family. They both should work for their own family they started!
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
My sirter-in-law is very wasteful, and just think about money. My mother was in the hospital, my sister-in-law also did not care.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
My sirter-in-law is very wasteful, and just think about money. My mother was in the hospital, my sister-in-law also did not care.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
i am sorry to hear about your brother's wife telling bad things about your parents and all for money! i mean your brother should be capable fo giving his family's needs and it is not your parents responsibility. i think you should talk to your brother about this especially that she has even posted a status in facebook - which i think is a very sensitive matter - it is personal because it pertains to your parents, and your family as a whole.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
My brother, already provide for his wife according to my brother's ability. But, my sister-in-law, too many requests, so my brother can not afford, to grant the request of his wife.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
30 Nov 11
Hi,first, i am sorry for what you said, and you know, i think one of the toughest relationships is the relationship between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law. I think your brother's wife doesn't say it openly, so you feel surprised when you see what she says in facebook. I think maybe it is not a bad thing, because it let you know what is on her heart. if you have not read these, you won't know what is on her heart. i think you should talk with your parents, to make sure how much of her words are completely fake, and how much of her words is just misunderstanding between she and your parents. Well, why your brother ask money from your parents, is it because he has something urgent to do,while your parents have the ability to help, but refuse to help them? Or your brother just want to take money from your parents and will never return? does your brother know what his wife says on facebook? does he agree with her? if your brother will be with this woman in the rest of his life, i think it is better to treat this problem carefully, you know, lots of things are induced by misunderstanding.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
From the beginning, my sister-in-law, always making trouble. Since the wedding, my sister-in-law always makes trouble. My sister-in-law, like spree Spree, and spend money, for something that should not need to be purchased. I did not tell this problem, to my parents, because my mother was sick, I do not want my mother getting sick, think about this.
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 11
These people who say bad things about other people in cyber space is really stupid. Don't they know that what they put online will be there forever? And everyone is able to see what they've written. I'm sorry about your situation. I can understand how you must feel. Your sister-in-law was probably just venting her anger because as you say your parents refused to lend money to your brother. But that is really irresponsible of her to broadcast her personal problems for all the world to see. She's so shameless.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
stupid, is the right word. My sister-in-law, never respect others, and always obtrude. so my sister-in-law became angry, because his wish did not materialize, and eventually shed on facebook. And I also became involved stupid.
@MaggieY (12)
• China
26 Nov 11
I'm so sorry to hear that.Firstly,hope your mother recover soon.Secondly,i suggest that you can call your all family members to have a meeting to talk about the behavior of your brother's wife on facebook.I think maybe it is available.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
For a while, I leave it to my brother, to advise his wife. I am very tired of my sister-in-law.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 11
This is more about the personality and the morality. In a Chinese family, we never want to disclose family matters to other parties unless we need some helps. It is shameful to the family inclusive herself to disclose such matter in the facebook. Shall we respect to someone who talks something bad about her own family? Of course no. As a sister-in-law as you, you should arrange a chat with her nicely. Everyone in the family has the responsibility to support the financial problem.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
Yes. It's very embarrassing. But lucky, my other family, no one knows, facebook my sister-in-law. So, this does not become something of an embarrassment. I do not know, what I should do. But, for now, I leave this matter to my brother, to advise his wife.
@parjono (39)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
Law who is not respectful. Parents should be respected, not to say bad. If I have, in-laws like that, I would not immediately ask for bad words mean. Maybe, I would not care, in-laws like that. What I care about my son alone.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
My sister-in-law, did not have the courtesy, and respect, to those who are older.