Do We Turn Into Our Parents?
By hvedra
@hvedra (1619)
November 24, 2011 10:06am CST
Do you ever find yourself saying or doing something and thinking "OMG that's just what my mom/dad is like"?
Do you actually try to follow your parents example and be like them in some ways or do you actively try to NOT be like them?
Is it something you have think about more the older you get?
I'm not like my parents in a lot of ways. I never had kids of my own and my mom was something of a compromiser/denier when it came to problems in the family. She would ignore something and pretend everything was hunky dory for a quiet life. She was also one of those people who if someone pointed out the elephant in the room THEY were the bad one, not the person(s) who made the problem in the first place.
I'm very different, I don't see why I should have to get along with people just because they are family if they are acting badly then I don't want them in my life until they at least stop acting that way.
What about you?
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6 responses
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
28 Nov 11
Hi hvedra: I think that my parents have teached me some valuable lessons that are present with me and makes me feel proud of them. At the same time I have sometimes acted just as my parents do which can be great sometimes but sometimes is not because we are not talking about the positive things. However I am a different person and I have realized that I don't like some things about my parents so in those aspects i do the things my way.
ALVARO
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Nov 11
In a lot of ways I am like my mother. It is weird how many kids follow in their parent's footsteps. Like if they divorced the kids do too. It is so common. I am like you. I don't spend time with family that is acting badly. My granddaughter for example. Long story but she has come around now. Thank goodness.
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@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
24 Nov 11
I think in little ways we all do to a point, as we are monkey see monkey do creatures, and when we get older I think there are certain things from the past we want to keep and a lot of that is what our parents have past on.
@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
24 Nov 11
I am like my mom, in many ways. Not always the nicest ways. I think I am more of a compromiser more so than my mom. She was very rigid about a lot of things just not what I want to be. I actually like the fact that I am sometimes very direct with people, though. You may say I call a spade a spade. I have a hard time with people who make things up.
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@derek_a (10873)
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25 Nov 11
Oh Yes, I know what you mean by this. I used to dislike myself for it.. I mean.. I don't want to become my Dad! I spent so much of my adolescent years trying NOT to be like him! Anyway, as the years went by, others starting saying how much my mannerisms were like my Dad, and I got to thinking, that it wasn't such a bad idea after all.. He supported me in every way possible through my life, so there's nothing wrong in being that way... 
_Derek
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