Is it a Bad thing when you buy too many clothes????

@bird123 (10632)
United States
December 17, 2011 11:26pm CST
At work there is an attractive lady. It is important to her to look her very best. She spends a small fortune on clothes. Seems she is wearing a new outfit most every day. Her husband must have a really good job because she spends much more than she makes. I'm a funny person. I can't stand to see people being wasteful, especially with people in this world going hungry. I told this lady several times that she doesn't need to have so many new outfits. She would be just fine doing like everyone else. Well, she ignored me and went on buying more and more outfits. There came a day when she quit because she found a better paying job elsewhere. A funny thing happened. Everybody at work became sort of Grumpy. They all missed her. Yes, I noticed too. Suddenly, we didn't have our daily fashion show of new and exciting outfits. So now, I have to ask myself. Was this lady really wasteful having bought all these outfits?? Little did we realize, she was making everyone Happy just by wearing them. What about that everyone???
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19 responses
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 11
Ah, you've been a nag... Yes, just as I like to wear simple but sexy cloth, all my friends in the office would anticipate me wearing something nice to look at yet sexy. The girls would ask me where did I buy and what is the best for them. The man would drool and whistle... Of course I am joking. I wear sexy cloth just when my mood wants it, which is ... let's say once in two days...
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
4 Jan 12
I guess men are all alike. Women have a way of making us drool. especially when they wear those sexy outfits. Be still my beating heart!!
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
31 Dec 11
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
I kind of like your drooling face here...
@substance (585)
• India
22 Jan 12
The value of somebody, however much they annoy you, is always known only after they are gone. Likewise, we never appreciate a person during their lifetime and its only when they are no more that we realize their true contribution and what they have taught us and how much they meant to us. Let us awake now and learn to appreciate people around us.
• India
22 Jan 12
Likewise, the clothes and stuffs are only material things and will be gone one day but the joy that she had given you people was beyond anything and it will still last for a long long time. Just my thoughts. I am feeling very philosophical tonight.
• India
23 Jan 12
Your post makes me think though... Its good sharing such types of real life experiences..
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
22 Jan 12
Yes, you are right. She was using a material connection to touch everyone spiritually. This gives the material things value over mere possessions. I must also agree. We do tend to take people for granted when they are around us. Perhaps it is something we all need to work on. Philosophical???? Good thoughts!!
@vandana7 (98830)
• India
19 Dec 11
I think she got them habituated to that. There are other ways to make people happy you know. You make a person feel he or she has achieved something and you have made the person feel on the top of the world. You could make the team feel that way too. I know I have done that. So clothes are one of the ways to keep people feeling that they are surrounded by something good, but that is an effect that could be achieved with music as well. Not agreeing to wasteful expenditure on clothes bird. Sorry. Especially if I know somebody is hungry and I dont really need that extra dress.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
19 Dec 11
Yes, after all is said and done, I must agree with you. An extra dress is not needed when people are going hungry. Music? Yes, maybe I can pipe in some nice relaxing music. After a while, they won't even remember the fashion show. Good thinking, Vandy.
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
I thought it was fine to have many clothes as long as we afford to buy them. I don't like to buy many clothes, I just bought that is necessarily need to me and I am stingy just in case I want to save my money. I can count how many time I bought my clothes. I nearly didn't buy clothes for four years and I didn't know how I get so much t-shirt now in my suitcase and as far as I remembered I got all those stuff free from the company where I was ever worked and from my friend of mine as well. I just to gave them away to people who need them, but I didn't know where to give them away. Thank you
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
19 Dec 11
I'm a bit like you. I don't buy clothes until I have to have them. Now if that lady had been like us, it wouldn't have been so great for everyone at work. She made everyone see beauty even at work.
• China
21 Dec 11
If I take you correctly,You said that the lady who bought so many outfits was not that she would be conspicuous to wear them but that made everyone happy and everyone became grumpy after she quit.If so, what a fun it is!The lady deep know what people thought of.She might be rated as psychologist.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
22 Dec 11
I'm not sure her buying all those clothes was her intention to help others. It just worked out that way. I think she was buying them mostly for herself. On the other hand, I don't know this for sure. She might be smarter than I give her credit for. Interesting indeed.
• China
22 Dec 11
That is to say,It was that "hit the mark by a fluke".But then,"fine clothes make the man."
@msh2207 (51)
21 Jan 12
hi bird123 i dont think that buying many clothes is a bad........infact i also dont like to repeat t-shirts/shirts....i have more than hundred t-shirts and approximately 75shirts so it gives cool look if you repeating your shirts or tshirts after long time.......
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
22 Jan 12
Wow, that's a lot of shirts. I would never own that many. I guess you must be careful not to buy the same shirt twice forgetting you already have that saying on one.
@GemmaR (8517)
18 Dec 11
I think that the most important thing that people should remember is that you have to live within your means. If she can afford to buy lovely clothes then that is alright, however if she is struggling to pay her mortgage because she is buying so many clothes then that is another matter entirely. I don't think that there is anything wrong with wanting to look good, and clothes are one of the main things that people can use in order to achieve this. As long as she's balancing everything in her life then I would say that it was alright for her to spend as much money as she wants to on clothes.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
I really do not know how she worked her finances. She never ever complained about money. That, in itself, is rare among people. On the other hand, she found a higher paying job, no doubt to fund buying all those outfits.
• Mexico
18 Dec 11
Hi bird: Well, if everybody is missing her she might be a nice person even if she cared too much about what she was wearing. Even with that nice attitude I still think that is not necessary to waste so much money on clothes, specially as you say when people are suffering from poverty in the world and need clothes more than we do. I think there must be a middle point, is good to take care of our persona appereance but it's not necessary to wear something new everyday to do that. ALVARO
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Yes, starsailover, there is a middle point that is the best road. She did have a wonderful personality. She didn't need all those clothes. It was very important to her and she would not hear differently. She brought joy to everyone's life nonetheless.
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
well for me as long as you have enough money to buy clothes and its a need for your job and you are being a wise shopper, then nothing to be annoyed about with someone who buys too many clothes. the only reason its bad if you just spent without control and being wise to what you shop.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
She hand picked everything. She had a great taste in fashion. She had everyone talking. Still, I think she went a bit overboard. She did bring beauty in people's lives.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
maybe for her, it will give satisfaction and boost her confidence wearing clothes differently everyday. and also, maybe she wants everyone attention by doing that. personally, i'd like to do that but not to seek attention. it feels good and comfortable to wear the things that you like the most. if i just have a lot of money to buy the clothes, i will surely do that. no grievances. no hesitation. as long as, it makes me happy..
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
You are right about one thing. It does take alot of money buying all those outfits. She might have been like you. I don't know for sure that she was after attention. I know she enjoyed those outfits.
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 11
Hello bird123, I don't feel nothing bad in it if she can spend money on clothes then its OK she can.I don't spend much on clothes and buy only when i feel that i really need to buy clothes.We do have uniform at workplace so there is no sort of competition among us for clothes.People do that they try to look good by wearing latest trendy clothes and its OK till they are capable to do that.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
I guess uniforms at work stops the competition. On the other hand, we could never of had the joy of that daily fashion show if everyone wore uniforms. Of course, I see the need for both ways. Still, I think people worked harder because she was around.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
I have encountered someone like that but not literally everyday, she has a new outfit, but I guess she has a huge collection of clothing. I when I earn big with my work tend to buy one clothes from another and I think its an addiction. However when I lose my job and have less money to spend I already made a collection and investment. I guess it is really bad to have too many clothes but if you are willing to share them when you no longer need them can be helpful. Its a waste of money buying too much clothes.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Yes, I think you are right. When people make more money, many buy more clothes. I agree that buying too many clothes is a waste for most. In this case, I think she helped alot of people just by being her.
@Mashnn (4501)
18 Dec 11
I think it is ok to wear different outfits every day if you can, clothes are usually very cheap to buy if you just don't go for the branded one. Thanks to countries like China for the fashionable cheap clothes.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Yes, one can be conservative, shop around and get some sales. On the other hand, I think she was shopping at the high cost department stores. You could tell her outfits were expensive. I know there are people with talent to make their own outfits, however I think she was buying them all. She always looked nice.
@ardieboi (195)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
Having things in excess isn't at all bad. Being blessed with more than enough things is not a sin. Here is when a persons character is shown, if you have extra shirts or whatever, try giving some of it especially what you don't need anymore to the needy.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Giving to the needy is important. Clothes can go a long way. Sometimes a nice outfit can give someone the confidence to move forward in life. I don't know what she does with all her old outfits. As nice as she is, I'm sure she is doing good with them somehow. I'm going to think that until I discover different. I'll point the way if I discover differently.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
18 Dec 11
I guess if it makes her happy, but I can see your point, I must admit I get a lot of wear out of my clothes as like my own sort of fashion so I mix and match a lot and tend to keep things for quite some time.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Yes, it made her happy. She always got alot of attention especially from the men. She is a very nice person and really didn't need all those outfits to get attention. I guess she didn't realize that.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
Now everyone is missing her or her clothes (hehehe) Maybe she is buying new clothes and looks her best because people around her is giving her all the compliments. So, she keeps wearing new clothes everyday to be praised..
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
She got plenty of compliments everyday. I think you are right. She wanted the praise. The place is just a plain old work place without her. It's funny how she was the life of the party and no one realized it til she left.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
Wow Bird123!!! Please please please.. introduce that lady to me as i would be entering the apparel business soonest! hahahahah!
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Yes, this economy could use many more like her. I wonder if she donated her old outfits to charity. If not, there is an attic full somewhere. Maybe it's garage sale time. Maybe when I see her, I'll suggest we have one together. Yes,graceekwenx, you have me thinking too.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
18 Dec 11
I don't think that if this lady is not buying new clothes (or second hands) the hunger in the world will be gone. Unless you make her give away the money she would be spend on clothes to other people. I don't think it's up to you to decide if she should buy 10 clothes a day or 1 each year. Also not who is paying for it (i can tell you also things seldom are the way you see them). We all do things to make ourselves feel better. No matter if it's clothes, shoes, food, drinks, going out, holidays, celebrations or being on the internet for hours.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
You are right. Life is an education. We sometimes are blind to the truth. I pictured it as a total waste then learned she made everyone's life brighter. I realize that using the money to feed the hungry would not stop all hunger in the world. Feeding the hungry probably would have been my choice . On the other hand, giving joy to others through our actions is important too. That lady did all that. I wouldn't want to change her from being her. The world would never be the same for those around her.
@br3ndy (468)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 11
Well actually i'm the type who doesn't want to spend too much money for buying clothes too because i think it could be a waste of money. But, for some people, buying new clothes is a must do activities because they really care about their daily appearance. For me, there is nothing wrong with that as long they have enough earning to buy all that. For your story about your friends at work miss her, i think because with her new outfits she make people feels refreshed by her new look everyday. You can compare between a person using same clothes everyday with a person using different clothes everyday, you must be like to see the person using different clothes than the person using the same clothes everyday.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Maybe she was spending so much money on clothes that she had to find a better paying job. Her beauty and her fashion show did take people's mind off their troubles. I think people even worked harder because she was around. She will be hard to replace.