Introverts have hard life?

Poland
January 20, 2012 1:09pm CST
Hi. I came to a conclusion that there is a vivid border between extraverts and introverts. First ones are of course sociable people and they don't feel any regrets or aren't afraid of what other people will think. And even if they do, they forget it quickly. Unfortunately i'm not an extravert. I often think about every thing I have done wrong while trying to fall asleep. I sometimes even think of events from about 6 years ago. It's a really downing feeling. But how about You? What group are you? Do You forget about your failures (especially interpersonal ones) easily?
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@Bluedoll (16782)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
I'm in the middle with that. You can have both but if I lean one way it can be an introvert. Depending how you look at this though each quality does not necessarily mean a person is more prone to social ills or has a plus because of that. An introvert for example can be happy doing tasks alone when an extravert would be uncomfortable in need of support or interaction. Generally an extravert is more outgoing than an intravert but both persons can still carry a lot of extra baggage that might inhibit their social skills. This particular characteristic is a more a measure of looking out or looking in, I think, so hard life is for either one or not! - think this is true - any thoughts?
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Everyone has his/her unique characteristics as you presented two opposites personalities, I know I am in between of these two.I love to work without a group.I am confident to finish the task when I am alone.There are times that I go out with group for picnics and other outdoor activities.
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@Bluedoll (16782)
• Canada
21 Jan 12
Sometimes our personalities or characteristics are shifted to a circumstance. For example, an introverted person in need of a job but only able to find something out of their comfort job like an outgoing sales job will be able to successfully change to suit the need. Conversely an extrovert will work all alone in that office without people around. Some people have personalities that are better suited or flexible in that they can do both equally much like a person that is neither right or left handed while others can not but more focused on one side or the other.
@SinfulRose (3527)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jan 12
I am an introvert but I don't want to be in your position where you have so much regrets and never get over them. My advice, try doing something creative and something that makes your imagination work. Thinking about my "tralala-land" is way better than thinking about mistakes I've done in the past. Happy MyLotting!
• Davao, Philippines
21 Jan 12
Wow! 3D modelling is a great hobby! What program software are you using? I still have to learn 3D modelling myself despite that 3D animation is part of my course. I understand the feeling of not getting the output that you want. But what stops you from trying again? I used to feel that same feelings you have when I was still in the middle of training myself to draw anime/manga figures. I also know how discouraging it may seem. It was only thanks to encouraging myself by doing better by browsing online for drawings and through the encouragement of my friends that I became better than before. I may not get what I really want as an output,even in the present time (because I'll never be satisfied with anything I just made), but the effect is way better than how it was a few years back. "So, what's stopping you from trying better next time?", I remember always thinking like this... I hope this helps a bit. Happy MyLotting!
• Poland
21 Jan 12
Thanks for the advice! I sometimes feel the need to be creative but I don't know how to reach it. Any ideas? I tried modelling 3d which was really fun, and scuplting seems to be enjoyable to for me, however when I see the final effect I am not very happy - If You know what I mean. I think I can try making some music in FL studio but I'll have to get through a lot of tutorials.
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@Hatley (163802)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 12
hi sterybiusz I am an introvert but I do not beat myself up anymore with things from the past. I am a diabetic and stress shoots up my blood sugar level . I chose not to stress out over anything, the\past is past so live for today and be happy introvert.
• Poland
21 Jan 12
Easier said than done. I wish I had Your attitude (or maybe even diabetis? ; ) ). However choosing not to think about tends not to work, or even work the other way around. When i'm trying to sleep sometimes these images, thoughts just wander around my head and I cannot get rid of them.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
21 Jan 12
I'm like you, I'm an introvert and I don't like it very much but that's who I am. Most of my friends are extrovert and they know a lot of people and I tend to feel kinda jealous seeing them being to careless and free. But I do feel kinda lucky to have them as friends though. I do tend to over think myself and I get pretty paranoid at what others think about me. Sometimes I regret what I say or do, thinking about all the consequences and it does get me down. It's not a good feeling and I get depressed very easily but I tend to forget though. I try to forget and not let it bother me until something reminds me of it and then I'll be down temporarily again. But don't let those thoughts take you down, just keep moving on.
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• Poland
21 Jan 12
You just literally described the feelings I was talking about. Well, I don't have these every day, however they appear every now and then. How are You cheering Yourself up? They don't always get me down though - I feel frustrated sometimes instead. I reckon it has some good sides too - I usually don't make that mistakes again. However I don't know if it haven't made me an quite unsocial or just not nice person. I prefer sometimes to just stick my earplugs in and listen to music when others talk.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Jan 12
You can learn to be different, not to care anymore about what happend. I am not very extravert but I know who I am, what I want and dislike. I don't care anymore for what others say. I also don't believe an extravert person is never afraid, never thinks over what is said or done. I think both people have difficulties in life because both are not common. If you are not what others (the sheep) want you to be (an other sheep in the cattle) you have a hard life. A very hard life! It's you who have to deal with it and find a way to survive. So make yourself happy as much as you can. It's good to be you and esp. those who are different make and made the changes (and inventions) in this world.
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• Poland
20 Jan 12
You are aboslutely right - from rational point of view. But my behaviour is not only lead by rationalism. It's mostly lead by how I was raised. As I said - extraverts certainly can feel afraid of think over what she/he has done, however they don't think about it as much as introverts. Sometimes these thoughts just come to my head when I try to sleep and then I just don't want to wake up anymore... Happily i'm becoming more and more confident. I don't feel ashamed that often and sometimes I can even chit-chat with somebody, which was not to think of when I was younger!
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@Kotarei (141)
• United States
20 Jan 12
I am an introvert tho i try not to let it ruin good things that could happen for me. I say try cuz a few friends have walked out of my life because i am a bit socially awkward. It is hard when you got these people who are your friends not being very accepting. Theres that and I have to push thru it with the job hunting ive been doing.
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
21 Jan 12
Nope,i do not specifically dig in all the odd stuff i've been through,before heading to bed every night.Its been a while since i've been to bed without thinking about one thing though coz i consider that to be a failure on my part and i'm no where near to giving up until i sort that out!Great day.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 12
I personally find it hard also to forget the pass mistakes , i guess if positive then will take the mistakes as lessons to improve and not the made mistake again,however sometime it not as simple as that as history may repeat itself and same mistake bad experience will occur , and this will really wreck my personal feelings , then i will be extra introvert and anti social.
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
Introverts are people who are much more concerns with their feelings, they are also the people who love to be alone. Extroverts are people who love to mingle with others, their interest is outward. The other one is an AMBIVERT . An Ambivert is a trait wherein there is a combination of Introvert and Extrovert. Therefore, I am an [b]AMBIVERT [/b . I love to be alone and I am interested with other people.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
Hello, there.. Attitude really vary from person to person.. Some may be introvert or extrovert. As I've come to evaluate myself upon reading your post, I realized that I'm more of an extrovert type but there are some instances that I would act as an introvert person. I notice this often when I'm with my "Barkadas" or close friends. Whenever the majority of the group decided to do one thing or go to a specific place, I would definitely think of anything besides it. I get so excited whenever we come up on something. I don't really think of what others might say about me or for the group. What would come up to my mind is just to be happy and enjoy the moment. But most of the times right now since I am far away from them, I feel like I'm an extrovert type of person. I care a lot of what others might think about me. Of what their reactions are if I do something else. Sometimes, I regret what I did and what I did not do at a certain moment. What do you think is the most regretful thing? Doing something because it's what you think is right and you think it would make you happy? or Not doing something because you're bothered by what others might think and say about you even if it's painful to you?
21 Jan 12
hi:) there are times that I am shy to socialize and there are times that are not, maybe it depends on the crowd. if I'm close with the group that I'm with I get along easily but I can't get along well with people that I hardly know, and like you I also have the tendency of recalling my past failure and dwell about it, but only sometimes not very often. about you're problem just like to relax your mind before you go to sleep, and think that those faults already happened and you can't do anything about that anymore just take it a lesson so you will not do the same mistake again in the future.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
I think I'm a extravert, But before, i was really shy and have low self-esteem. I didn't believe in myself before. I always feel down and lonely. But as i engage and learn how to deal with people, i started being sociable. I started being friendly and meeting new people. I told myself that no one and nothing will let me down. About the failures i did before, i've already accepted them. And i will try my best in everything i do. Failures, are just my lessons in life. I hope that you'll be able to cope up with your problems.
@mselin (77)
• India
21 Jan 12
I don't think extroverts do not regret things in life. Everybody regrets doing some thing bad. but may be they are more positive and take things easier than introverts. But you really can't generalize such things. Not all extroverts are alike. Nor are introverts. It is a good thing to analyze the day's activities before you go to sleep, but try to forget old things. It is human to err and you are only human. You also have the right to make mistakes. The important thing is to try not to repeat mistakes in life. I also feel terrible when I think about mistakes I made in life. but then I consciously try to think of something else because I know that such thoughts will depress me. And I am more of an introvert than extrovert. You should try something similar.
21 Jan 12
Yes, being an introvert can be really stressful and which is why I like to think of myself as an extrovert-in-process. Being too self-conscious is a major downer and kinda leads you to draw the short straw of things.
@vandana7 (97145)
• India
21 Jan 12
To each according to his own. People like me, who are introverts are happy to be so. We find it difficult to be sociable, it causes stress and more problem when others start interfering with us, tease us, and trouble us. As to extroverts, I am fine with it, as long as the costs of their social life is not passed on to an introvert and as long as they dont tease or ridicule introverts.
@arjunm (439)
• India
21 Jan 12
Ya i am also Introvert typist. i can't be speak so easily in all speech. although i will forget my past incidents that related failure matters but it take really some long times.