I dönt know why, but i dont love my life

India
January 29, 2012 4:09pm CST
I have heard people saying that life is exciting,they have started loving their life.but in mine there is not like that. I dont have anything that can make me happy.dont knw where leads to me
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@Blkqueen (85)
• United States
29 Jan 12
I have couple questions to ask you. Why are you feeling this way? Do you believe in God? Are you breathing? Do you wake up every day? Do you have a job? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have clothes on your back? Do you have family who loves you? I don't know you but what are you looking for to make you happy? I use to feel that way before so I know what you mean. My mom would tell me I should be happy what I got. Some people out in the world doesn't have the things I have & I should be grateful and not selfish. Good things would come just have to be patient.
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@drow1212 (169)
• United States
29 Jan 12
Not always true you cant wait forever you have to take action on some things. Also your asking way too many personal questions, there's no need to bring up religion.
• United States
30 Jan 12
Did not mean to offend anybody when I mention God. These questions wasn't meant to be answer on here just to yourself. I didn't want to know the answer. These are just some things some people should think about when they feel this way. It is true that you have to take actions. You have to start something first if that doesn't work never stop, continue or try something different. You cant rush into things cause it will never always work out the way you want it to be.
• United States
29 Jan 12
Drow1212, I agree with you completely that we can't always wait for happiness. Sometimes we have to take action. But, I think blkqueen did ask some good questions. Sometimes you have to ask those questions of yourself to determine what you really want out of life and what will truly make you happy. We may covet the life of another by wanting the things they have or wanting to do the things they do but when we get it or do it, we still aren't happy. We may find that the things that we thought were unsatisfying in our lives are actually the things that really do keep us going but we just started to take them for granted.
• United States
29 Jan 12
You should try a new hobby. Maybe try a new one at least once a month until you find something that gets you excited. You probably need to go out and meet more people. There are things that can make you happy. You just have to find them.
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• United States
29 Jan 12
This is soo true. I use to feel the same way. I signed up to go to bartender school and met new people. I am starting to knit baby, & older kids hats for the next Christmas.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 12
Life is a mystery. Some say it is a game, to some it is a battlefield and to others a journey. Whatever one may call it, there is a way to enjoy it. Be positive and move on.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 12
Hi phillyguy, it is human attitude that need to change. The emotional side of human is too weak to face the challenges in life. I believe the intelligent brain should be fully utilized to think of a way out of miseries rather than succumb to our emotions. Our attitude should be of acceptance of the fact that life is a challenge and what ever problems we faced in life we should find the remedy instead of feeling upset or shaken and losing the courage to face the challenge.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
30 Jan 12
hi zandi you have a very simple yet meaningful response, there is always a way to enjoy life, some will say it is easy to say but it's hard to do, but one thing for sure what you said is true..most if not all people can enjoy life if they want to..I hope our words can help the discussion creator to start being positive about life and start to find a way to enjoy it.
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
Contentment is the key to being happy & loving one's life. If you are contented with what you have, then there's no reason for you to be unhappy. Remember that not all are as lucky as you to still be living your life,some are spending a lot of money just to extend their precious lives, like cancer patients for example, they are spending large amount of money just to preserve or prolong their lives.So, just try to be thankful for all the good things that come your way 'coz after all, you are still lucky compared to thers.When you come to realize how lucky you are with what you have, then you will begin to love your life.
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
"others" I mean.......
@drow1212 (169)
• United States
29 Jan 12
My life isn't exciting either. I stay home most of the time pretty much all day. I'm sure there's at least one thing that does. Things that make us happy don't have to be big sometimes there little things too.
@lil_toni (206)
3 Feb 12
Yes, true enough. Even me, there are also things that can make me feel happy even if people might think that what I'm doing is boring, or nonsense, or just a tiny winy happening or event that has happened in that particular day. Hearing/knowing good news whether its a big thing or not can make my day complete.
@drow1212 (169)
• United States
3 Feb 12
Thats true, but what makes me happy most people don't approve of
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
life is really exciting... see? we are starting to know each other... as for me even though I have two cancers I still look at life positively... I'm not bedridden... I still teach because I'm a math professor... Enjoy life my friend...
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
Hi rahuylarya... we do all have different kinds of lives that we have to live. It depends where we are, our lives with parents, where we were brought up, we all have different views, get to meet different people, love friends, or love someone and it all makes the difference.. but its all about the choices we make in life that affects every bit of it too.. people love life because they love what is happening with theirs. you have that choice to make your life different from what it is right now - there is something, absolutely something that you will love about it, enjoy about it and you just have to discover that one... it could just be right under your nose, waiting to be discovered.
• United States
29 Jan 12
I understand completely and can totally relate. It's not so much that I don't love my life, but I definitely long for something different. I have five or six different projects that I am doing for free and every day I wish I could do one of them as a real job. In the meantime I am unemployed and that money is quickly running out. I have been looking for a job for a year and haven't even gotten called for interviews to be told no. I love going to concerts and I love being with the people who matter the most to me. Unfortunately, both of those things are quite far away and every time I get near the point I think I could relocate, something happens and ... bye bye savings. :( I've applied to the School of the Art Institute in Chicago for my Masters degree in writing and print media. If I get accepted I don't know how I will pay for it. I have made a disaster of my credit so I don't know if financial aid is a possibility... So, yeah, I completely understand what you are saying... It's a rough road but I am sure we'll both come to a nice paved patch soon.
• United States
30 Jan 12
Wow you seem to be going through alot. :-( It has been very tough looking for a job for everyone. Jobs are scarse. I'm lucky to still have a job. Dont give up hope something will show up. Have you tried working for 0desk?
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
21 Oct 12
Your life IS NOT ABOUT YOU. If you think it is, you're bound to be depressed ... `coz it's not! It's about seeing G-d's plan fulfilled. Well, maybe not G-d's whole plan; maybe just the mission G-d gave you. I can't be specific on what your mission is, but it has to do with a) the special collection of gifts G-d gave you (gifts which others need you to use as they cannot) & b) God's order to Adam "Be Fruitful & Multiply; Master the Earth & Subdue It; & Hold Dominion." 'Be Fruitful & Multiply' doesn't mean "have lotsa babies" unless 'fertile baby-stuff in an under-populated land' is one of the special gift-combos G-d has given you. 'Be Fruitful & Multiply' means 'use your special gift-combo to the most-prosperous advantage (for The Kingdom, not just for yourself).' And the rest of the instructions should be obvious. However--if you're not sure what they mean--tell me what you think they mean & see how close we are.
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
try different things and try doing what you wanted to do.. and I'm pretty sure that you gonna love your life :)
• United States
29 Dec 12
So sorry to hear that, rahularya. Trying a new hobby, like art, gardening, yoga or martial arts, or volunteering at a local food pantry or other cause meaningful to you can help you find your smile again. Best wishes! :-)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Just appreciate more the things and the people around you. Appreciate their value while they are still present. Aside from that try to discover something based from your interests and do them with the people you love. Talk with friends and tell them how you feel. I'm sure they will understand and will help you get through it. Most of all, pray to God and lift up to Him all your troubles and worries in life.
• St. Peters, Missouri
29 Dec 12
I went through a period like this. I'll never forget the day I said, "I hate my life." It took me a while, in fact years, but I made some dramatic changes in my life. What I was doing didn't make me happy. So I sought out what would.
• India
9 Dec 12
Simplest method to get out of this boredom , get something to do which will keep you busy 24x7 . Now, this hsould be something of your interest or else you will have another reason to hate your life ,which we dont want. Just doing this one step i am sure ,your boredom will be over soon.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
25 Mar 12
I came to this discussion late. I hope things are going better for you. Things are picking up. Excitement is a little too much for this older person because all this good stuff seems to be happening at the same time. I wish I could send you some of mine.
• India
20 May 12
Welcome to mylot Yes life is exciting if you know how to face it boldly moreover you have to stop the negative feelings totally, always think positive and enjoy life, if all fails consult a doctor.. Have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘@Bhuwan@’. .
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
There are some people find themselves unhappy with their lives. For some reason, they don't seem to realize how beautiful life has to offer. My friend, not all the people that you sees to be happy or excited with their lives have everything they wanted. If their happiness are true, that means they are appreciating or enjoying what they have. Things they have may not be as promising as what others have, but appreciating small things that you have could give you greater happiness that you just don't see. It's not being satisfied but it's being grateful and happy of what you have.
@cgracie97 (172)
• Philippines
19 May 12
Maybe you are not inspired that is why you can not find the space of loving your life
• South Africa
10 Mar 12
I agree with these responses. You should look deep into yourself and find what is important in your life and what adds value to it...All the best.
@ONLYHOPE (189)
• Philippines
20 May 12
....hai rahularya... this is an odd perspective on your life..you're too young, there's so much to come and barriers to struggle..and if you have all abundance, might be you're bored having this way of life...you should be start plan for a simple way of living, so that you can enjoy the life you have.. have a nice day ahead