ending a relationship doesn't mean the end of the world

Romania
February 1, 2012 2:19pm CST
when a relationship ends in most of the cases one of the individuals is devastated...and he feels like he's never going to meet someone that good as his ex again. been there...done that. but the end of a relationship doesn't have to be the end of the world. we don't realise that there are people who go trough things much worse than that. so the end of a relationship it's not the worse thing that could happen in this world.I know that in those moments you probably don't care if there are people suffering from cancer or stuff like that...but what I'm saying is that you have to be strong and thurst yourself. if there are people who can win the fight with cancer than you're going to be able to get over a break-up without any problem
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@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 12
yup I agree theoretically. yet the practice is not as easy as it sounds. when people involve a lot of portions of their heart, they deal with so many feelings, and in some cases, other things. that's why it is not really easy to be tough right after it. but as you said, they need to be strong and trust themselves. the cool thing about human that they can adapt and they become stronger as they have successfully facing what obstacles them. and yeah, don't want to be less better than ones who can fight the cancer, I think I need to get over it. LOL oh btw, it feels like you were supporting me. so thank you for that.
• Romania
1 Feb 12
yes you're right it's not easy...but this doesn't mean it's impossible. as I said I went trough this too and I was devastated. I couldn't see my life without him. but I guess it's true that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I"m glad if I could help you
• Indonesia
1 Feb 12
yeah I agree with that. what doesn't kill me it makes me stronger. I have been into several relationships before. and I dont know why I always involved into a more serious, more complicated, and harder to let go ones. the last boyfriend I got almost crumbled my self confidence and my worth as a woman. he loves other girl. :( how did you go through it anyway?
• Romania
1 Feb 12
he made me feel horrible..and I simply had enough of it. as you said he made me loose my confidence in myself. he wouldn't let me see my friends anymore. I was practically living trough him if I could say like that. and if I went somewhere he would make me feel like the ugliest person in that room. and I still couldn't leave him. call me stupid..but i couldn't see my life without him. he was the one who broke-up with me. I tought I would feel devastated because at first I would tell him that I want us to break-up just to see what he says. but to my surprise I was ok. guess I had enough of humiliation for a life-time
• United States
2 Feb 12
Losing my guy would be the end of the world to me. It would be worse than cancer. There is a cure for cancer. Cancer patients Do have hope most times but losing my guy I would lose hope.I may not Actually die but I would stop living. Losing him is the end of my world.
• United States
3 Feb 12
That's the whole point. How healthy can one be without your heart? Or for the realists reading this, how healthy can you be when you are so depressed you don't eat or sleep and literally want to die?
• Romania
2 Feb 12
well I hope this doesn't happen to you. but thrust me...as long as you're healthy you could get over anything. health is most important. you'll find someone else if this were to happen
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@yanzalong (18981)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 12
Relationship is just a bit of the whole life value. I admit that breaking up hurts so bad but if you persevere with it, the bad feeling wil l soon wear away. When one is in love. one's mind and heart is being jailed. He or she can not see the outer boundary. He or she is easily happy in the jail of love, and he or she is easily ruined when something unpleasant between them crops up. I am saying this because I've been through it.
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
18 Feb 12
You got that right . A relationship is not supposed to be everything for the partners. It's supposed to help them with their life , not turn their life meaningless without the love. One always have to see what will happen to him in case of a breakup.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
true. ending means new beginning and that's what life is all about. we should not stop where we have fallen but rather stand and move forward. sometimes the pain of breaking up with someone you love the most covers all and even our thinking. it's normal to mourn for days but not forever. there are lot of people who suffers more than you are so think positive and learn from it. God has its purpose and He will not let you feel the pain just to make you suffer. life is beautiful and it depends on you how you look at it.
• Romania
2 Feb 12
yes I agree with you. as long as you love someone it's normal that you suffer after you lost that person. but it's not ok to do this forever. as you said life it's beautiful and there are plenty of other people out there to meet
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
Their relationship as a couple had ended but they can still continue a new relationship as a friend. Some people really can't accept that their relationship had ended, they just stay in their room thinking what they've done and whose fault it is that their relationship ended. In every ending their will always be a new beginning.
• Romania
2 Feb 12
I really don't belive in friendship after a relationship. or not at least as one of the individuals has feelings for the other. it would sound weird to hear you ex talking about his new partner. at least this my opinion
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
18 Feb 12
If you both help each other dealing with your life and it is sad for you to be alone , you can talk with your ex and be friends if the love was just not really there. I personally feel sometimes that some affection from my ex girlfriend will do me just fine. I like visiting her , help her and talk with her about many problems that she has. She also cheers me up when I'm down. We have souls that are pretty much alike. To tell you the truth , I hope we will be back together some day but I will also be glad if she finds someone else that she will love :)
• United States
1 Feb 12
I agree. It might sound really easy in theory but when you are heart broken it's really hard to see it's not the end of the world. That's why I am concerned when someone means the world to another person. You should never get too dependent on someone
• Indonesia
1 Feb 12
Hi Miss. yeah you think so too, right? that's not easy. and yeah I do have that kind of faith that I wouldn't get too dependent on my boyfriend. but you know what, I feel it in my relationship, in some point I am independent but in certain other point I really feel dependent to him. not because I want to, but it;s naturally like that. I love him with all my heart that;s why in certain point of my life I dependent on him.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
4 Feb 12
I agree that the end of a relationship is not the end of the world. However, it can be a devastating time for the person going through it. Of course when most of us are going through our home trying times we don't consider the lives of others. If we did do this our problems wouldn't seem as dramatic as others'.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
i agree with you, a broken relationship is not the end of the world.. it could very well in fact be one of the easiest thing we can over come in our lives, right? i mean why not? we are emotional.. we got used to someone and we can get used to not having that one too... i believe.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
I have been through same situation as well. I never thought that life is much beautiful after ended up a relationship. There is no use staying in a relationship when someone is not happy anymore. One way relationship will never work out fine when the other one doesn't want to cooperate anymore. So, ending a relationship is the best way to moved one and make new changes in life.
@cassije74 (247)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Hi swissheart! " Better to love and lost than never to love at all " . Showing love is the best effort that all should be treasured of. Losing someone is just another way of telling us to be ready for another person who is more deserving as the previous one. The world is not yet ending, so get out and explore what God is giving us with great abundance and great opportunity to live upon.
• India
3 Feb 12
Yes i agree with you, but one should go for relationship that should not break easily, it should be strong, not brittle and fragile, here in my country most marriages are arranged marriages, you won't find much cases of divorce here as it happens with our guys that opt for love marriages
@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
2 Feb 12
Hello swissheart, It is theoretically right that one should not think about the person when relationship is broken once but its really difficult to do that.Yes it becomes difficult for them to forget their ex as they come in their memories often but with time these memories gets dimmer.
@Dymo75 (340)
• New Zealand
2 Feb 12
True, but when you're having a hard time, it does feel like you have a raw deal. You just have to remember that evewerything eventually oasses.
@nfrenciz (99)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
Yes INdeed I indefinitely agree with that. Although it's very hard yes, but eventually in time or at the end of the day, it's a very great and wonderful experience you've through in which you can get some lessons to moved forward.
@dodo19 (47133)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Feb 12
It is true. The end of a relationship can be very difficult to deal with, but it still doesn't mean the end of the world. The end of a relationship is just the end of a relationship, not necessarily the end of the world.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
Yes of course, it's not the end of the world if you had a break up! But i don't blame those people who get sad after the break up. I think that it's normal for people to feel sad and depressed about it. But being depressed for a very long time or ending up with killing yourself is not really good. I had break-ups before, I really loved that guy, i thought of him as my whole life. But suddenly we just broke up after 1 and half year of relationship. I was devastated, i was sad, depressed lonely and crying all the time. But one day, i said to myself, Why would i f#$%6^ waste my time with that guy! HE's not worth it! I have to move on. He's not the only one who can make me happy! so that's it! I gave up. I forgave him, and let go of him totally. As you said, there are others out there that have bigger problems.