“Success has many fathers but failure is an orphan”;

I see what you mean. People throw you away once your services are not needed and also are callous enough t o say that no one asked you for it.Life teaches us so many lessons the most important of them being detachment.However, it is not easy to get it and the feeling of bitterness is always likely to linger in the bottom of your heart.I guess time heals this .

You had already shared the poem with us allknowing. "Every cloud has a silver lining and the clouds "in your life caused this.

I do not remember if I have shared this poem with you guys here earlier but nevertheless would like to post it here once again from which you will know my thoughts on the subject: [i] LOVE YOURSELF When you are left alone to fend for yourself When those that you cared for put you in a shelf, The best of the best comes out of you Your life gets a hue totally new Your limbs become stronger, your mind alert You no longer worry; you can handle the hurt The artist in you comes to the fore, You can write and paint as never before You choose to discard what bears you down And pick only that that takes away your frown Life is great you happen to find Tis easy to relax and truly unwind The dark clouds that were are there no more Its peace and quiet that touches your core Its your time to do whatever you please Giving your life a renewed lease He will be there when others flee He is your support He helps you with glee He walks with you through thick and thin He is there inside you just look within. When you are left alone to fend for yourself, When those that you cared for put you in a shelf, The best of the best comes out of you Your life gets a hue totally new[/i]

.Parents are normally like that; they stand by children when the going is tough too.That is a lucky situation when spouses cooperate like thatSimilarly, wives and husbands do it when there is a good equation right from the beginning.That is what marriage is all about after all.

True Shibham; it is quite disillusioning at times.I have seen my father in action ; the moment he became ill, the circle of friends reduced.

Of course.Everyone would surround a successful man because the world only respects skills and success.Many laugh at a man when he is going through trials and tribulations. When the going is good all are there.These are the ways of the merciless world and we do learn our lessons and live here.THanks for the participation.

Not all people can become world or nation famous thesids. But, everyone craves a bit of recognition. As Kiran had pointed out in her discussion there are many yardsticks for measuring success. We are all successful as long as we have enough to meet our needs and are are self contained.

We have a saying in our regional language that the man who has gone up climbing a ladder kicks the ladder[we have many such pithy sayings to describe ingratitude]. Probably you are referring to these 'roots' or is it related to the airs people give themselves after they have achieved success?[though this topic is different on its own]. To your last sentence I feel it is demeaning to cling to successful people[the success which we get in our own merit is enough for us--

Me too pergammano! But I do not call it 'ego' but 'self-respect'[now I make myself sound wonderful but it is n't it.I could well relate to what you have written.]

I'm glad you responded so soon...as after I posted my response, a realistic thought about myself..was/is a bit deferential! Working for many years...amongst the VERY successful (Country Music Stars at the Merritt Mountain Music Festival...in Administration) and having direct contact with all their "ids"....the biggest percentage of them made me disdainful as they had ALL forgotten their roots! I have met FEW in my life, wallowing in success, that I would really like to align myself with...and maybe that is why I am the Polar opposite!

Abolutely right and the world would become a much better place to live in with less acrimony and resentment among the successful and the 'not so successful' people.

'A friend in need is a friend indeed' Veejay.I have also seen this happening in real life in my father's case.

Rightly said that most people have no time or sympathy for failures. However, i feel many parents may always have a soft corner for their own children irrespective of how successful they are. But Some parents too are insensitive and respect only children with money or great success ; they seem to own children only when they are praiseworthy.In fact this idea made me start the topic.It is very sad. Raghu is so sweet and keeps babbling so much that it is very interesting.I cannot remember the babbles of my child when he was less than two.I will send a photoraph ; I thought I had already done so.Here it is difficult to upload a photo.I don't know why.

Not all children are blessed with brilliance . If only parents give a lot of moral support to children and be with them throughout, the children would shape up much better than what they really do.This thought struck me on reading whAT you have written.I wish the boy gets some decent source of income.

Yes kala, I was actually referring to a lady living here who has 3 children - the youngest son is wayward and has fallen into bad ways, no earning .He is no doubt a constant source of worry for the parents, however, when I talk to him, I have realised that he is very unhappy and wants his parents to understand and help him out .But the parents on the other hand ,instead of trying to talk to him and do something constructive they are so rude to him, the father hits him and sometimes the boy is not even fed properly....I feel so bad for him, because with us he is very sweet and well behaved.. Will wait for Raghu's snap, am sure that he is very interesting now..they are at every stage of their growing years aren't they ?

Yes.It is the way of the world isn't it? THanks a lot for the participation.

True. In another discussion it was said 'it is always loney at the top' . When one gets extreem;ly successful there is a lot of rivalry and unhealthy jealousy also .

True.I too liked the topic and hence posted it to get different views and experiences.