What can i do this situation?

India
March 6, 2012 1:00am CST
I love someone. He is a very good boy.his name is pinka. I meet him in my college's first day. For a few days he was my best friend. After few days we are love each other. We decieded that we marry each other. But my parents are not with us. Becuase a cast problem. They are not allow me to meet him. I feel very sad and lonely. So what can i do? Please help me my mylotter's friends as soon as possible.
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11 responses
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
First are you sure your both ready to get married? You say you are both in love each other in a very little time. Think about it first, if you really love him and if he's responsible enough to be your husband. I don't understand about your parents cast problem, but there must be something wrong in the guy that's why they oppose. Have you finished college? If not then finish it first and get a job before getting married.
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@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Welcome, hope I helped in my little way.
• India
21 Mar 12
yes ofcourse you helped me my friend. have a nice day and thank you.
• India
7 Mar 12
Thank you for your advice. Thank you for helping me. Have a nice day.
• India
6 Mar 12
If you trust the Boy who you Love. Then you go and Register marriage. Love does not bother things about the Religion or the Cast , it's all are make by us only. It's not have the rights to seperate you. But it's your Life, so if the boy will surely take care of you that hope you have then you can marry that boy. It's my advice.
• India
6 Mar 12
I have no idea about this matter to convey your Parents. Your boy friend need to speech well with this matter with your parent like that. Cast is not going to taking care of your child, i am only doing that. If your parents thought like our relatives will not satisfied then he need to be said your relatives thoughts important or yours daughter life. Like this points will help to touch your fathers heart. But more important that boy has talking like this he need to maintain in future after the marriage also that's only make your Marriage Valuable.
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• India
6 Mar 12
Thank you for your advice. Have a nice day.
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• India
6 Mar 12
Thank you for your kind advise. At first we think that. But then pinka says that at first he manage my parents. Then we married. Please give me some advise to manage my parents.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
I think your still young to get married don't be in a hurry just enjoy your life with him. Do things that can develop more interesting things like if you are still studying finish it first. I'm married on the age of 19 and now even I don't regret it because I have my daughters with me but still I did not have the chance to enjoy my life to be a single.
• India
7 Mar 12
You are right my friend. I also agree with you. Thank you for the response. Have a nice day.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Mar 12
hi Tamosree I thought that modern India has soften its viewpoints on caste? Remind your parents that Caste is now just a word. that your boy fri end is a good decent young man from a good family and that you love him, you and him are not marrying your families but each other.Caste is old ideas not modern. young people fall in love with people not castes, thats a shame t o stop love because of one word like that. I hope you two can convince your parents that you are both good decent well behaved young Indians who are in love and want to start a family. good luck
• India
7 Mar 12
Thank you for your response and advice. Have a nice day.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
If you really love that guy and he loves you also there is nothing to worry about because love will make a different. There is nothing impossible with love my friend that is why don't be sad. Just go on with your love and don't let that love will become in vain because of the persuasion of your parents or anyone...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
I appreciate it also about your response, my friend. I say it because I know it will be helpful to you as reference even if my words is not worth enough to be taken as real...
• India
7 Mar 12
Thank you for the response. Thanks again to encouraging me. Have a nice day.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Mar 12
What do you mean by cast problem? I don't know anything about it. How old are you by the way? Sounds like you are too young yet.
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• India
6 Mar 12
I am 18 years old. The cast problem is my title is bhattacharyya and it is a high cast. My lover's cast is a lower cast. So the problem is my parents did not agree the matter. So what can i do. Please help me my friend.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I think you are too young to get married and as you have said you are both studying. Let's say you really love and care for each other so much, but there's a problem as you have said about cast. I don't know what it means but if it is some kind of tradition in your culture I think you have a problem. Well, you have to show to your parents that you really care for your BF so much and he the same thing to you.You should fight for your love maybe your parents will understand and if you two are meant for each other than it will be done.
• India
6 Mar 12
Thank you for your kind advice. I remember it and i try to convence my parents.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
6 Mar 12
Hi, I appreciate the decision of pinka, seems to be a matured decision. If both of you are still in college, I think, at present you should concentrate more on studies and career first. Decision on marriage can be taken later but till that time you both can be the best of friends as ever. Caste, religion etc are the problems which can be talked openly with the parents and I am sure the parents will agree with your choice, once pinka is settled with his career/income etc. cheer up and don't be sad as that will make your friend upset.
• India
6 Mar 12
Thank you for your kind advice. Your advice is good.
• Indonesia
6 Mar 12
If you and your BF serious with your relationship and ready to get marry, you should tell your parent. And if your BF ready, asked him to meet your parent as soon as possible. May be your parent have their own reason to not allow you having relationship with your BF now.
• India
6 Mar 12
He is already meet my parents. But here the problem is cast. I was belong a family with is higher cast. But my lover's family is lower cast. So my parents is not accept him. But he is a very good guy. He loves me too much. In this situation what can i do?
6 Mar 12
tamosree the old generation is gone . these days people dont see whether which cast they belong or the religion . be a free bird and just do what ever ur heart says and dont be sad ." LOVE HAS NO CAST AND NO RELIGION " and yeah hopefully you can convince your parents if they truely understand you they will surely say you to do what you wish.
• India
6 Mar 12
I thing i may coveinced my parents. Thank you for the advice.
• United States
6 Mar 12
It's easier to say "follow your heart" than it actually is sometimes. But where there's a will, there's a way. Get creative and problem-solve, and weight the outcomes against the risks. In any case, no one should marry after only knowing each other for a few weeks. Take some time to develop the relationship.
• India
7 Mar 12
Thank you my friend. I try to do it.