I am beginning to hate the idea of social sites and networking.

@GardenGerty (158333)
United States
March 9, 2012 3:54pm CST
Late last year someone hacked my Yahoo, or my Linked In or something, and I started getting fifty or a hundred friend requests from made up people. I completely deleted the account. No time or patience for it. I only occasionally use Facebook. I get lots of e mails, but nothing too strange. Today my trouble is Twitter. I got two messages from someone whose name I do not recognize. The message was the same, with the same link included. "Some people are saying really bad things about you here and it included a link." Of course, I did not click on the link. I cannot imagine what really bad things people could be saying about me.and I have no clue what they could gain by me clicking on that link.. I know that is a consequence of being online. I am fortunate that I have not had more happen. Have you had those problems with any social site?
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31 responses
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
There is a danger to social networking sites. Our number one concern is privacy. Whenever we publish something in social networking sites, let it be known that it's a public domain. Anybody can see it, read it, and use it for any purpose they might have in mind. Some unscrupulous people might be following your every move and use any information you made public to do what is not good. The worst is identity theft or crimes. Spamming, harassment, bullying are some of the things that may happen. Someone wanted me to give all the full details of myself in facebook but I refused. Recognizing the dangers of social networking sites will help us keep ourselves from outside disturbances.
@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
9 Mar 12
I have put some things online that reduce my privacy, but not much. I have been here for six years. With the amount of sites I am on, it is a wonder that more has not happened. I have facebook because of some business and family things. Twitter, well I was originally signed up by a job site that is reputable, years ago. I do not think anyone would want my identity, but I do not have full details about me up anywhere. I try to always post things that I will be proud of. Welcome to MyLot, I hope you enjoy it.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
9 Mar 12
The only problem I have are occasional chat requests on yahoo and I report it right away when this happens. I signed up for Linkin right before school started, so you know I haven't been there in a while. That leaves mylot and FB, both which I have had no problems..I am sorry you are having so many problems, I hope you can get free from it soon..
@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
9 Mar 12
I guess the biggest problem is I just wonder who could be saying bad things about me. . . and they probably are not, it is just an occasional insecurity. I remember when you got a few mean messages from someone on FB, or Yahoo but they were not strangers. I find I have a lot of friends I do not recognize. I just dropped Linked in completely as a single. Hubby and I have a business one together.
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
10 Mar 12
I do not even know the person, or at least I think I do not know the person. I do not recognize the name.
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• United States
9 Mar 12
I don't think anyone is saying anything bad about you, those are links so a hacker can get into your site. I just ignore them and if it is a friend who posted the link I'd alert them that their profile was phished./.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
9 Mar 12
All these social sites can be good and a lot of fun but they can be destroying as well, probably in real relationships I think these social site cause more trouble that we all know about and it is a shame because if used in the way it is supposed to be used it is good,.
@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
9 Mar 12
That's right, they were intended to be fun and to promote connections. I just often hear about what fights are happening on them now. It does not sound like a good choice at all. I still like Mylot better than any of the others, and the fact that I can delete people if they stalk me, although I think that only happened one time.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
10 Mar 12
I got one think about last year telling me stop hitting on a small kid I would never do that cant remeber if I answered or not but I did block them never heard any more!
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
10 Mar 12
It makes you wonder where these people come from, doesn't it.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
10 Mar 12
Sure does Ionly talk to family and friends so have no idea where they come out of the woodwork!
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@allknowing (130978)
• India
10 Mar 12
I did get a couple of messages from friends I know and the style of writing made me suspicious. I sent emails to these friends and they confirmed my fears. They had not sent those messages. Both these friends had their emails hacked and they had to work on it. I never open mail received from strangers which is an on going thing that happens every single day. I just delete them.
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
10 Mar 12
I got an email one time from a friend trying to sell me the latest PC, and telling me she had gotten one, but I knew she was a devoted Mac user. She got hacked two or three times. I delete a lot. I blocked this girl on twitter, as well.
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• China
10 Mar 12
What you said has never happened to me.It is not because I am fortunate but I have neither Facebook nor Twitter account ,except mylot and Yahoo mailbox.I also feel puzzled by what those hackers have done .Even though I am not clear what benefit they will get by doing those, but I can bet they aren't doing those for their health.
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• China
11 Mar 12
You are right!
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@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
10 Mar 12
I haven't been a big fan of social sites or networking. Unfortunately I have an upcoming class that uses these sites for promoting a person's business. I guess that it's okay if you are big on tuning into something like that on a regular basis. I just don't have the time or desire to keep up with places like that. Plus, it seems like it invites spam and unwanted emails. I prefer to stick to myLot and emails. Also, social sites are great places for gossip about others. And, it seems that the gossip is the kind that is hurtful to someone. I do belong to a couple of sites but don't frequent them, and will be using them again on March 19th for the class I'm taking. I'd rather be on the lot making money! I just got a payout in time to pay for an item I bought on Ebay. It's a new teddy bear pattern. It's item #320859057919, Hattie. It's a small teddy bear pattern that is coming to me from England. I liked her because she is so small and ratty looking. Of course changes are going to be made on her pattern, which is pretty standard. After all a teddy bear is two arms, two legs, a head, two ears and then the facial features. It's how you do the work on the item that makes the difference. I have gotten to the point that if I receive a notification from Facebook or such that is from someone I don't know or wish to know I delete it before I even open it. Very often those kinds of emails come with a virus attached...so I don't want to take any chances. I have been lucky in that way, I haven't gotten a virus yet...knock on wood.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
9 Mar 12
They probably have a virus waiting for you at the end of that link! I have a Facebook account but it's in my dog's name--there is no picture of me and the only friends I have are family. I don't share my info with anyone but them and I haven't had any trouble so far except a couple of them wanting me to participate in the family tree. Which they have for all the freakin' world to see!! I have a Twitter but I never saw much use in it. The first time I received a notify that someone was following me I wondered why the heck anyone would want to! I have a few followers but I haven't written anything in months--what's there to write?! So I don't have much trouble with that type of site. I think you were just the unfortunate victim of someone looking to find a gullible mark, some sicko looking to spread their latest virus. I guess you could create a new account under your dog's name, it seems to work well for me!
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
9 Mar 12
I also think a friend got hacked on Twitter, cause I got sent a link about a funny video and then there was nothing there. I tweet some of my stuff from gather. I have other places I should write more, and then tweet them. people on Gather say it helps get views. I am glad that MyLot is not on any of those sites, though. It is like my own safe haven.
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@celticeagle (161407)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Mar 12
Years ago when I first started going online at home I had AOL. On several of my seven different email addresses I got several notifications from AOL that I would have my account deleted if I continued to send out so many commercial emails. I wrote them right away and explained that I had not done this. Hadn't even been online when they said this happened. This happened two or three times. Finally I quit using aOL and came to Yahoo and have been here every since. With out any problems. Only problem I had was that once they closed down and were having some kind of problems. Never did figure it out and never had the problem again. I do have an occasional problem when they upgrade their mail. How they hacked in on my AOL accounts and used them for this i don't know.
@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Most of the people I know who use aol have had this happen. I do not understand it, and I try to be careful about friends and links.
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Yeah, I have a son who will check my computer for free. I will not trust people that I do not know with my information.
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@celticeagle (161407)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Mar 12
I agree. I keep most of mine on a thumb disk.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Mar 12
maybe i havent been that long at FB, so not there but i dont do twitter either. i used to spend hours on myspace before i got here in mylot and i had quite a few people do such things. i just ignored them and delete it and go on. you are wise to ignore them
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
10 Mar 12
Seems to be the best, ignore and delete. I use FB and Twitter to post some links to other places that I earn.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
Oh well..so far didn't have any problem on social networking sites..but i only have FB as i had twitter but i find it useless lol no one would follow me! I am on FB but i didn't receive any mysterious messages though...i only have to what out what i post on my status as other people find gossips on that.
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9 Mar 12
Obviously spam - nobody would EVER say anything bad about you! The ones I get are rather more "adult" in nature, shall we say. I always just block them and report them as spam. If they want to waste their time and energy spamming me, that's their problem. I have no time for idiots. I've seen some worse things when real people I follow suddenly start spamming because their accounts are hacked. That's bad because they lose their following, so I always find another contact method to warn them they've been hacked (so they can sort it out and save their reputation). That's happened to a couple of people on my list... very nasty.
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• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
If you get trouble from social site, I got it from e-mail. There is so many e-mail that come from unknown person. Sometime include a link that I believe is a virus. For social site, I do not get so much problem since I do not use it very often. But what is troubled me now is Linked In because several head hunter often approach us without clear information, but just request our CV, for unclear vacancy. May be we need to be more careful using our social site account.
@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
10 Mar 12
I had some problems from Linked in, and left there. Personally, I do not get contacts there. My hubby and I have a business link for a product he sells.
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• India
10 Mar 12
well, only today it happened , though i did not send any friend request to one particular person, the FB notification told me that that particular person ahs accepted my friend request. I m prety sure i did not send it...so i deleted the name from my friend list. but i kept wondering how did this happen. few of my friends had the same experience. i did not like it at all
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
11 Mar 12
It does make you feel really uncomfortable to have things like that happen. I hope you get it figured out. It is a good thing you deleted it.
• India
11 Mar 12
yes i felt bad...and was upset, i had to delete the friend...
@2wicelot (2945)
10 Mar 12
I am sceptical of the social networking sites. I think they keep too much of our personal information. I think their assets is the information they have of the users on their platform. Makes me wonder how facebook got to be worth billions of dollars. It is not like they manufacture anything.
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• United States
11 Mar 12
I don't hate social sites. I just think people need to restrain themselves as to what they post. It's sad that spammers and hackers as well as other cyber criminals are finding more and more ways to bother people and do things they should not. I know I hate the thing on FB where you put where you are at, that just tells someone you are not home.
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I do not post locations, or tell that I am going on a trip, until I am back. The people who need to know these things about me already do.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Mylot is as close to a social site as I ever get. My main thing is time and I just don't need the grief of any more spam.
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@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
12 Mar 12
The ones I am on I have joined with a purpose. When they start messing up, I get rid of them. No need to invite trouble to my house.
@chulce (1537)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Hi Gerty, Wow, I can so relate to what you are going through. I have had issues myself with certain social sites. My problems actually happened with MySpace. I eventually just deleted the account completely. I do however, still use facebook. But, it took me a long time to start back into using it. I only recently started chatting a bit with a few friends.
@anonima73 (153)
• Puerto Rico
11 Mar 12
This has never happened to me on social websites but it has on fanfiction. I used to post a fanfiction and panicked at people's reviews and expectations to keep publishing at a certain time when I was out of ideas. The pressure was so much I cried and quit so in a way I can relate with the paranoia that involves social websites. My advice is to delete all of your social networking accounts and start anew. Open a new facebook or twitter and start by only adding your close REAL friends. I did this and have slowly been opening up. If there's somebody bothering you delete them or simply ignore them. Remember you are you and no comment can change that. They are just bored people with no life but to cyber bully others online. :) You are worth more than that. Life is too short to be sad. Smile. :D
@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I did not take the bait on this one, and think I probably know the motive as I think about it. I got rid of the Linked in account. Most of the other places I have been are really good.
• United States
11 Mar 12
I would disregard it. I'm not very up-to-date on Twitter, but they could be giving you a link to phish your account. I try to limit the people I connect with on social networking sites, and I have made my profile as private and unfindable as possible! I wouldn't worry about what these "people" are saying about you because it's probably just an attempt to phish for your password. Especially when you seem to keep from getting too involved in social networking sites!
@GardenGerty (158333)
• United States
11 Mar 12
It is either phishing or it is a way to make a profit in another way. I am most involved here at MyLot, and I never have trouble here.