Where have you been?
@royal52gens (5488)
United States
March 15, 2012 10:35pm CST
I have not posted in here for a very long time. Life has gone through a huge variety of changes over the past few years. Some changes were good. Some were not. Some were hard to deal with. I find I don't think the same way I used to. My outlook on life has been altered. I feel as though I have traveled a million miles but I know I really haven't. Where I have been is not where I am today, mentally or physically. So, have you changed since I last heard from you? What changes have you been through? How did they affect you?
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Mar 12
I haven't been here, that's for sure. Haven't been on FB much either, both sites blocked by work, not enough time at night.
Well, divorce is final, house is on the market, ex is being tolerably annoying, things are pretty much fine. How are you?
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Ladies, I have lots of pics of the new grandbaby on FB. You have to at least stop by and take a peek at the little guy. Okay, I am a little bias since this is my first grandson but he really is the cutest child on the face of the earth. Yeah, I did that divorce diet also. Lost 250 pounds (the ex) when the judge smacked the gavel. Took sometime for me. Started getting brave and began dating a few months ago. No steady Eddy's but have met a variety of gentlemen. No real chemistry with most of them except one. Will let you know if he turns out to be an "OMG, I want to date him again and again" dude or not.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
17 Mar 12
Hey Dawn! You've been busy. Sorry, but kinda glad about the divorce though...
I've closed my FB and Twitter accounts so maybe coming back here more often might be my only option, so drop in from time to time. Look forward to this new stage in your life and when you sell your house, let me know, cause mine is for sale again too and I really need it to sell this year.
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@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
16 Mar 12
I would say that most changes in my life have to do with either work, or my adult children. It would not be normal not to change and go on great journeys or frightening adventures. As with you, some of my changes have been for the better, some have been for the worse, and some have absolutely been nightmares and have left me in a state of emotional burn out. But I am still here. It is nice to see you too.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
16 Mar 12
Gerty!!! It is so good to see you. Yes, I agree. Most of the longest journeys have been inside my head and they have been the hardest journeys to make. There have been times that I also have been emotionally drained. But we have survived. Life is Good.
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
16 Mar 12
I don't think I've changed that much, but things around me have changed.
I don't remember how long its been since you've been here - I know it has been a long time - but life always goes on, and that's the good with the bad, if you know what I mean...
I've lost some cats, some people and my van.
I've gotten some fewer cats, a new roommate and a smallish SUV.
I was out of work for almost 3 months because my client was in the hospital.
And I've gotten a couple of computers... I know, what do I need with so many? 
I hope that when you feel able to talk about what's gone on, you will tell us, or at least relate a few tales to start discussions.
I missed you anyway...
I hope that when you feel able to talk about what's gone on, you will tell us, or at least relate a few tales to start discussions.
I missed you anyway...2 people like this
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
16 Mar 12
One of the best and sad recent things has been the birth of my twin grandsons. Logan and Alex were born 10 weeks early (high risk babies). We lost Logan but Alex is real close to coming home from the hospital. Ohhh, trust me. It has been a really long time since I have posted anything. I have done a few responses but not everyday like I used to.
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
17 Mar 12
I'm sorry to hear about your one grandson, but I'm glad to hear the other is thriving.
Its hard to lose anyone, especially an infant, there's so much hope when a child is born, and so devastating to lose any child.
I know Alex will be even more treasured.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Mar 12
hi royal oh that was tough to lose one of your grand sons,sad,must be preemies and they are high risk for su re.oddly those f ew weeks make so much difference.the longer the doctors can keep the mom from delivering the better as each week brings new c hanges as the baby gets ready to be born.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
16 Mar 12
Hey Mom, nice to see you!
Well I've not been here, that's for sure. I haven't really changed since we last spoke, but my priorities have. Old age catching up I think. Or maybe I've just run out things to babble about? ROFL Yeah, that's it. I've just gotten boring............
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Oh my dear, sweet child!! You will never, ever be boring. I think all of us have gone through a quiet phase....together, sort of. If you know what I mean. You do know that Mssnow has been staying with me here in Arizona. She is torn between staying here in town or returning to Tucson. Either way, she loves the sunshine and warm weather. One of these days, you and I are going to meet face-to-face. We have come very close a few times.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
17 Mar 12
Hello Hatley!!! Big hugs to you sweets. I've just run out of babble. It happens! lol But glad to know you never find me boring.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
16 Mar 12
I think we all change, as is needed. Whether it is scary or a nice exciting adventure is up to God. I've gone through some changes, none I'd really like to discuss, but I do have to say that it was scary, and yet exciting. I am different, but I am wiser.
It has been awhile since I've seen you post, but then again I've not be too active except for the past two months here myself.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
16 Mar 12
It is always a good thing to reconnect with people. Good to see you. I might be a little bit wiser as soon as I figure out what has happened to me recently. I know I suffered three major losses in one month and had a situation happen that sent my anger level flying at the same time. (lots of high emotion) After this, I found myself doing things I would not normally have done. So, why the big change in me? Why did these events affect me in this way? As soon as I figure that out, I will have learned something new about me.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
16 Mar 12
It is interesting how things in our lives can bring out emotions and how those emotions make us act in certain situations. It's a normalcy, and I think it's just programmed in us to help us learn, still the regret or confusion after such a uncharateristic thing is challenging.
Anyway, I hope you get those questions answered for yourself soon.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
17 Mar 12
I have been learning that in order to grow, spiritually, I have to give up something. That might be an old habit or an old way of thinking or an old way of doing things, but something must be given up in order for something new to grow within me. It is an odd concept but I am learning how true it is and how to do it. This has been a very slow process. I gave up on a bad marriage but have found freedom and independence. Still working on that happiness thing. I think I am terrified of being happy and that is why it is so hard to let go of the things that prevent me from being truly happy. But I am still working on me.
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
16 Mar 12
Nice to meet you, Royal52gens! I'm not a veteran here and also I have periods of hard work that keeps me out of myLot. Your question made me think about my life over the past years. It seems that there are no changes - I live at the same place, do the same job, no changes in my family... I really work a lot, my days are full, the life flies faster and faster. But what's inside me? I know that I'm not the same. I need to stop for a moment and see what's going on.
And you, do you think that you made a lucky trip through the years?
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
17 Mar 12
There is no luck about the trip we have been making in this life. As many here will tell you, WE ARE SURVIVORS!!! We, as friends and as individuals, have survived a lot. Here on Mylot, over the past 6 years, we have walked our individual paths yet have walked together at times. This is what has developed into some wonderful, fantastic friendships. I hope you take the time to read some of the postings in this thread. You will be able to see the people who have been in each other's lives for many years come together, throw a hand up and yell Hello loudly. You will see their smiles through their written words. Welcome to MyLot. May you also feel the joy that exists on this site.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Mar 12
hi royal54gens oh yes three and a half years ago i was retired but had found mylot life was good then bam. life was not good. my
adult son lost his job, we used up all savings trying to keep rent paid, got behind, evicted. homeless thats a word that hurts my heart.so here I sit still in this tiresome retirement center at 85, and partly physically handicapped bu t still my lot without it I would go stark raving mad. I am used to being here but cannot say I love it but still being or the streets was out. my son is in a boarding house with four other guys in a large bedroom. he is working now part time but not making enough to get us in to a 2 bedroom apt. again.so we are both stuck where we are,he s just a few miles away so comes to see me every week.so some changes are good but most of ours were not good.,okay its good not to be on the street but not fun here really. guess I should 
try to make some fun for myself occasionally.Losing a home, being on the street for a week, was all very painful and awful.
try to make some fun for myself occasionally.Losing a home, being on the street for a week, was all very painful and awful.1 person likes this
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Hatley, Wow. Yes, it is important that we find the joy within ourselves. I also lost my beautiful home, and faced the possibility of my daughter and I being homeless. By the grace of neighbor, I escaped that from happening. I spent a lot of time being consumed with anger. It took a very long time for me to smile again. I know make a point to surround myself only with positive people. If someone starts being or talking negative thoughts, I walk away from them as quickly as possible. Negative energy is like poison to me so I avoid it at all costs. I will pray that your situation will change for the positive side of life. You are so tough and so strong. Your friends are here for you. Close your eyes and feel my arms wrapped around you. ((HUGS))
