Pocket money / Allowances

@GreenMoo (11834)
March 29, 2012 6:07am CST
When you were a child, did you receive some pocket money or an allowance from your parents? Do you give your own children something? If you give your children something, do they have to do something to 'earn' it, or is it given with no strings attached? Are there things they are expected to purchase for themselves from this money, or can they spend it as they choose? I'm considering different ideas for my eldest again at the moment, so I'm interested in hearing what other people do and think. When I was a teenager I could 'earn' money by helping to do the ironing. It's put me of ironing for life
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I did not get an allowance. I had to clean the bathroom every weekend and do the family's laundry.. and I got nothing special for it. Though if I wanted money for something all I had to do was ask. It's about the same with my kids. They have chores they're expected to do because they make most of the mess. They do not get an allowance, but we'll buy them things when we can afford it and if they want something and we have the money we'll give it to them.
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@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
I personally don't think children should be paid for doing household chores unless it's something very special. They're a part of the household after all, so should contribute to it's running without being specially rewarded.
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@BarBaraPrz (45597)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
29 Mar 12
My thoughts exactly.
• United States
29 Mar 12
They aren't going to be paid for cleaning their house when they get older, so why should they be paid for it now? I think it just sets them up to expect something for doing things.. and when you become an adult you're not always rewarded financially for everything you do. Though I do think it's okay to set up a specific chore for them to do if they want to earn cash, above and beyond their regular chores. My kids don't have anything like that yet, but I can't really afford it just yet.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I got an allowance and I had to earn it....my kids got an allowance and they had to earn it.....my grandkids all get an allowance.....and they all have to earn it.....must be a trend in my family......I had tons of chores to do when I was growing up.....my kids shared alot of responsibility due to me working all the time.....my grandkids don't have to do quite as much as I did but that's because of all types of inventions etc that make our lives so much easier!
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@GardenGerty (157692)
• United States
2 Apr 12
Part of the time when my kids were young I had an in home daycare. Their job was always to unload the dish washer and put the dishes away. I reloaded it, because I could get more in it. In the summer when I had lots of kids all the time, all day, we would sometimes wash four loads of dishes daily. When that happened I increased their allowance, because their responsibility increased and our family income increased because of all the extra kids.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
I do agree that kids should get involved in the day to day household chores, but I don't think their allowance should be linked to them. They should help out because they live in the house, and that's life!
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• United States
29 Mar 12
My mom hated ironing so by the time I came along , if it needed to be ironed, it remained in the store!Yes I got an allowance, a little money I could use to buy anything I wanted. Plus I got money for each A and B I got on my report card. My mom told me going to school was my job. The only " chore" I had was to clean my room. My mom Needed me to graduate highschool!
• United States
29 Mar 12
It is wonderful he likes to help out! I would reward him somehow!
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
That one is of an age where the only reward he needs is working alongside me and being together. It's lovely, and a shame it won't last long!
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@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
That's what I tell my littlest, that school is his 'job'! But he enjoys helping out at home. I don't think kids should be paid for helping out at home. If they get an allowance it should be no strings attached, as yours was.
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• China
30 Mar 12
I remember I didn't get any pocket money from my parents until I was admitted to a secondary technical school that is hundreds of kilometers away when I was 16.Then I stretched the pocket money and never squander it.Usually I spent it on books or something else that I did need.My son is our only child, but we didn't pamper him and gave him less pocket money .When he was in his teens,sometimes he made some pocket money by handing out merchandise flyers.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
You had a sensible attitude to money then, and I'm sure that experience stood you in good stead for being an adult.
• China
2 Apr 12
Yes,I reap a big profit on that.Since then,I have kept a frugal habit.
@Orson_Kart (6139)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 12
When I were a lad I got 6d a week for doing chores. That included cleaning out the fire, rekindling it, lighting it and making sure it was burning brightly before the rest of the household were up. Then I'd have to see t'it garden - weeding, earthing up the potatoes and fetching in the vegetables for me mother to cook laters for us tea. After school I'd do errands and made sure me grandmas were OK too. Then after tea I'd wash pots and put out rubbish and take dog for a walk. And all for an old sixpence. Mind you, I could do well on a sixpence in them days. I could get a half price bus ticket into town, buy some sweets for pictures and get a cheap seat in the stalls, have fish and chips on the way home and read The Beano I'd bought from the local paper shop and still have change to give back to me ma to help with gas. She never told me father I'd got money for helping her or he'd clip me round ear hole and me mother too. He was hard me father. Used to sit in front of fire all day and never complain about the heat like I did when I came home. And when you tell kids today about this, they won't believe you.
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@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
Did you have to walk 6 miles to school, each direction? In your Dad's old handmedown hobnail boots? Collecting firewood all the way?
30 Mar 12
I used to get money for chores. But at the same time I used to get £40 a month for nothing. I think they were trying to teach me how to like balance my money, ie- £10 a week, and to ration it myself, or else save a little and stuff lol! I can't say it worked, now I splurge when I have it lol!
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
I'm hoping that if I start giving my boy it'll help him realise the value of money, as he currently just splurges on whatever takes his fancy.
6 Apr 12
so you think if you give him chores to do in order to get the money, he';ll maybe think twice before he spends the money? .. well it did help me :)
• United States
30 Mar 12
When I was a kid in elementary school, my weekly allowance was $5, which was a lot of money back then, and when I got to middle school it was $10. When I got to high school, I worked, but I also got $20 a week because I had more things that I had to pay for.
• United States
1 Apr 12
No, I couldn't just buy anything that I wanted. I was allowed to buy food, snacks, clothes, books (because I loved to read), doctor's appointments, medication (I have a lot of health problems), sheet music and CDs (because I sang at the time), and stuff that related to school. Pretty much just things that I needed.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
Were there certain things you were expected to buy with it, or was it yours to do as you wished with?
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@GardenGerty (157692)
• United States
30 Mar 12
I did not receive an allowance or pocket money. Every time I needed something I had to ask. So when I got in higher grades I skipped my lunches and kept the money. I gathered pop bottles to recycle, etc. When I was old enough I did child care. I felt horribly impoverished. I gave my kids allowances. I had read somewhere, and it made sense to me, that all members of the family deserve a portion of what the family earns. In addition, all members of the family are obligated to help take care of the home and family--hence we have chores. Allowance was not tied to chores, because that would have been to easy to say, Oh well, keep my allowance I do not feel like doing my chores. Now they could do extra chores for extra money. I am afraid I got even more complicated. I took cash each payday for school lunches, however, if they chose to pack food from home, that money in the envelope for lunches was theirs to spend at school or church activities. Their allowances were theirs to save or spend, but if they had overdue library books, they paid the fine. One of the first things my daughter saved for was a Papasan chair, and when she had the money I drove her to the specialty store to buy it. It was $79 and she was about twelve. My son bought a video game, used, because in my opinion it was not necessary. When he saved the money up, I drove him to go get it, though.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
That all sounds very fair to me. I completely agree that allowances should not be dependent on chores, which should be done just because kids are as much a member of the household as anyone else.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
When my parents could still afford to give us allowances, yes I did have it. But one thing that was taught to me at an early age is that a portion of my allowance should go to my piggy bank. I was only seven at that time and I still carry that practice up to now where I have a piggy bank and make it a point to save something from my earnings each month. I recall that I was given P1 at that time ($.04 nowadays but back then this was big money) and I need to put P0.25 in my piggy bank. I must've saved a substantial amount that time because sometimes I would drop my whole P1 coin in my bank. Unfortunately our house got robbed that time and my piggy bank got stolen. So I never knew how much I had saved. I don't have kids, but when I do I will also give them an allowance. But I will also teach them my piggy bank method because having a piggy bank is a life saver. Right now I have a piggy bank (okay it's a doggy bank because it's a Walt Disney Dalmatian figure) that is already full. I bought a new coin banl that looks like a bear and is round. I plan to buy another piece of jewelry from what I will save from these coin banks.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
Saving is a valuable habit for a child to learn.
• India
29 Mar 12
Dad used to give pocket money to my elder sister, younger brother and me. My sister would get the highest pocket money. Mom Dad never asked us to buy anything particular from that money. It was our decision whether we want to save that money or buy something from it. We would only buy greeting cards and gifts for each other and for our parents from that money and save the remaining. By the time we all reached college one by one, we had a good amount of individual savings.
@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
It sounds like you were all very sensible with your money. I am afraid that my son would fritter it way on nothing.
• India
31 Mar 12
Make him understand the importance of savings and ask him to save some money every month. I am sure with time he'll understand that "money saved is money earned".
@timetravel (1425)
• United States
29 Mar 12
when I was a child - decades ago lol...- my parents were divorced. My dad paid child support. When I was 8 and my sister 7, he gave my mother an additional 5 dollars a week, which was for me and my sister to have for an allowance - 2.50 each. That was quite a sum back then - around 1964. I would save half in a little savings account I had - and then put an additional .25 away in my own piggy bank each week. At the end of the year, that was my Christmas shopping money. It was usually between 12. and 14.00 dollars, which then was the perfect amount for getting a gift for my dad, my mother, and my sister. The other dollar each week I would spend on comics and candy...lol...when I hit my teens, my dad upped it to 5.00 each a week for us. I continued doing to same, only this time, adding 1.00 a week to my personal piggy bank, 1.50 went towards my bank, and the rest was mine. Sometimes I'd save it for a few weeks to buy an album or something else I wanted. By then, though, I was making good cash babysitting, something I began when I was 11. I could make ten to twenty dollars each week babysitting. Plus, I worked whatever other odd jobs I could. My mother never used the child support on us, so I needed to make money to buy clothes and such. End result was I ultimately moved out at 17, put myself through college, starting when I was 24 and graduating at 28, and even now, I can generate money by working at whatever is available. With my own kids, I gave them money as needed. They never asked for much anyway. Their relatives always gave them plenty. On their father's side, that is.
@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
It's so that he can learn how to manage money for the future, like you did, that I'm thinking about something for my son.
• United States
29 Mar 12
the only reason I didn't give my kids one is because they've always gotten plenty of money from their aunt and uncle - throughout the year - which they've learned to manage. I do give them cash at times, too, usually when I get some extra - I'll share it with them. Both have been great with saving. I see nothing wrong with giving kids an allowance or something like that - either weekly or a bigger amount monthly - that they can learn to manage. Good idea you have!
• India
30 Mar 12
Hello friend, Yes i recieve the pocket money in every month. Now i also recieve it. Because i am a college student and i recieve it from my parents. Have a nice day.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
If you do not work then this is how you must support yourself whilst you study.
@Vvance (280)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I did, from time to time. I used to help with the housework. It would be a good idea to start with a small amount and tell him/her that if it is used properly, and if they help with the chores it will increase accordingly. I'd say that you give them freedom to spend it as they like, but just keep tabs on what they purchase.
@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
I don't actually agree that kids should be rewarded with cash for helping in the house. The live here, so they should help out just to contribute. If they do something special or out of the ordinary, then that's different of course. I think starting small is a sensible plan, and perhaps some discussion about savings for something special.
@Vvance (280)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Haha, well, I think my parents just wanted to motivate me to do a little something once in a while. Not that I was unhelpful or lazy, of course :P !
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
I am the luckiest daughter EVER! My parents are very supportive. They always provide us with allowances, during school and even after. I have been working for almost two years now. Today is my third job. So basically I haven't establish a stable savings account on my own. I was only a month old at my current job and without my parents I guess I can't go on. Since I'm new, I haven't accepted my salary yet so all of my expenses now are saved by my loving parents. When I become a parent also, I will also support my children just like my parents did.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
Your parents are also lucky, to have a daughter you appreciates their help!
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
Thanks GreenMoo! I am a lucky child also. :)
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
29 Mar 12
it is a good idea to give your child an allowance because it teaches them how to manage their money. we actually never did give our kids an allowance just because we couldnt afford to.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
that's exactly why I am thinking of one, to teach budgeting.
@BarBaraPrz (45597)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
29 Mar 12
When I was about 11, I started doing the dishes of my own volition so that my mom could spend more time with my dad. So they decided to give me 25 cents a week. As far as I know, I was the only one of us kids that got an "allowance". After high school, when I was lucky enough to be working, I'd give my two younger sisters an allowance of $1 a week. We all did chores, but it wasn't as a stipulation for getting paid. We just did them because it was expected that everyone would contribute in their own way.
@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
I think that kids should contribute without expecting rewards. If an allowance is given, it should be with no strings attached.
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@vastari (331)
• Ireland
29 Mar 12
I was given an allowance for basically doing small, understandable chores around the house. Making sure my own room was tidy, washing my own clothes and during the summer months cleaning and oiling the deck and window frames of the house. Nothing too major, and I got enough money to let me socialise with my friends each month. I could do extra work to make some extra money, which was helpful if I wanted to save up for something like a new video game or a music album.
@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
I don't think kids should be rewarded for doing jobs around the house, but given their allowance with no stings attached and expected to to simple jobs just because it's the right thing to do. I do pay my eldest for doing something special though occasionally.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I did not get an allowance. I had to do housework while my brothers went out and helped Dad. I hate housework. Always have and always will. Maybe that's why. My Dad worked construction. He got paid when he worked outside the home. He felt if we wanted to get paid, we should workout side the home. Besides, as a person who didn't have a constrant paycheck, he couldn't provide a constant allowance anyway.
@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
I think your Dad had the right idea. Kids live in the house, so they should help out in the house without needing to be rewarded.
@dodo19 (47120)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Mar 12
My parents did give my sister and I an allowance for a little while, but for a good part of my teens and such, they didn't really do it. It was something that only lasted for a little while. I'm not sure why they stopped. All I know is that they did, for one reason or another.
@GreenMoo (11834)
29 Mar 12
Maybe financial circumstances changed. Parents don't always share that sort of stuff with the kids.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
29 Mar 12
When i was younger..no i didn't get money of any kind. Growing up with 8 other siblings made me responsible for everyone younger than me. Now as a mother myself when my 6 yr old does something like not fight with her little sis for a whole week or get up out of bed all by herself and stuff like that then i buy her a new skirt or a pretty dress or cute shoes! I wrap them up for her and make it look nice and I go on to tell her why im giving her this(these) things. I think that shows her how much i appreciate what shes done. Later on im thinking when she's a little older. When she's a preteen then she'll have to earn that in some way or another. Now that she's 6 about to turn 7 in late July i give her choises and i allow her to choose what she wants but i always tell her that everything we including her everything we do have consequences.if we do something wrong/bad then those are the consequences that are going to arise. I know she doesn't completely understand but the more i tell her the better she'll understand what consequences are. My neice once told me that being older is not so good because when ur little, everything is taken care of for u! when u get older that changes.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Apr 12
Your niece gave me a smile! our job as parents it to teach our kids how to take care of themselves.