smoking and teens

@Adiela (18)
April 22, 2012 2:58pm CST
I am a mother of two teenage boys. I have recently discovered that my 15 year old smokes. I've asked him if he does but he says it was only once but I know for a fact it was more than once! What do I do? Do i ignore it until I catch him smoking? I know also that if I tell him to stop it's not going to make a difference! He will smoke regardless of what I say! I'm so scared that today it can be cigarettes but tomorrow it can be something worse!!I am a young mother and I fully understand the temptations our kids face daily so how do we help them make the right choices?
10 responses
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
22 Apr 12
I would have a chat about smoking and how uncool it is an of course the dangers of smoking. Nobody likes the company of a guy who stinks of smoke. Words from the heart enter the heart. Best of luck
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@Adiela (18)
23 Apr 12
Thanx.I think in general it takes lots of luck and patience to raise your kids to the best of ur abilities! Maybe in his friend circle it is considered cool if u smoke....who knows what these kids think of today!
@charvill (58)
23 Apr 12
We know for a fact that we can't always be on our kid's side to protect and guide them but for as long as the line of communication is open for the two of you, theres no reason for you to not to tell your kid the bad effects smoking will give him. Talk to him in a friendly manner and im sure he'll listen to you.
@Adiela (18)
23 Apr 12
Thanx for advice. I also think this is the best way forward! Maybe just having a chat about it will help him realise why it is bad for you
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Keep supervising your child and give your child an attention because maybe there is a problem why he is doing it. In my experience when I was a teenager, I did smoking because I always feel like I am being treated differently by my own family. You see, teenage needs attention and love so try showing it to him keep guiding him so he won't be out of track in life. It is a good thing you caught him now before it can get any worse. Always guide your child
@Adiela (18)
23 Apr 12
I always try to give him special attention because he is the eldest. I can only try to supervise and hope all will turn out ok!!
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
1 May 12
I can understand this. I started smoking at a very young age. I remember when my grandmother found out I was smoking and she tried everything she could to stop me, but the more she tried the more I wanted to do it. What my mother taught me was that children have their own personality, and their own mind. She knew that trying to get me to stop wouldn't work, so she tried another way to deal with it. She told me that I will make my own decisions in life. Some will be good and some will be bad. But I will have to think about every decision I make and how it will affect me in life. She educated me on the effects of smoking and what it can do to my body. And with that, I stopped smoking. Sometimes discipline isn't the right way to go. Sometimes it just takes a little education and some decision making to give someone a little push.
• India
21 May 12
Now there are a lot of teens who are much addicted to smoking. They know it is harmful to our body but still as an educated citizen of future they still use the pratice. For getting these habits away from your child you must be strict to him. You must not give him pocket money for silly reasons. Make sure that he spents those money for good purpose only. Secondly you have keep an eye at your child where he is going. Try to be with him at all the times. So that if don't have any opportunities to smoke
@Shavkat (137220)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Teens are more adventurous nowadays. You just need to continue giving advise and never give up for the welfare of your children.
@GemmaR (8517)
22 Apr 12
I think that there is a lot of pressure on teens these days to try things that they shouldn't. Things such as drinking and smoking are two of the things and, even though most people know that the things aren't good for them, it doesn't stop them trying them because they don't want to look uncool or weak in front of their friends who they look up to. You should encourage your child to make their own decisions, but make sure they have all of the information about what their habit could do to them, and make sure that they know they have your support if they ever want help to quit the habit.
@lakantar (1573)
• Greece
22 Apr 12
Well I think that if you want him to quit it you have to try and find a way to convince him than try to force him to quit it cause it won't be any good. :) I did start smoking when I was a teenager (around 16) but I quit it some years later so maybe he can find himself too and quit it :)
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
hi there, i know it is not easy to be a parent/ my brothers started smoking when they were still young. no matter how many times we talk to them and tell them not to smoke, they will still continue anyway when they are out with friends. i wish they knew in themselves and realize that it is bad for them and also to people around them.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
23 Apr 12
At that age, your son wanna try anything to show up that he is an adult so that smoking is one of his choice. Better you should not be heated with him, try to tell him passionately about smoking damage, you can talk out some worse cases that you know about people smoking. I know he wont give up immediately but he should think of your talk. Try to take a look at your son more. I hope he will give up smoking soon. Good luck!