Love revenge

India
April 28, 2012 10:06am CST
I had a friend, with whom I started loving after he proposed me. I was very young then and was madly in love with him. Then one day I knew he had no intention of marrying me and using me to serve his wishes. That broke my heart and I had a painful life for three years. Now I am ok and well settled. I have managed to get a good life, social status and family. All things are going well except that I deeply in my heart want to take a revenge on him. I don`t want to kill him or like that.I want to make him need me badly and have the same hurt he instilled upon me. I am in a position to do that, but it will certainly ruin his life. That makes me wait till moment. But I can`t control this deepest wish and it grows like a fire inside me. Now tell me can I do that?
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10 responses
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
28 Apr 12
Hello Ravipors, When you are settled with your family then you should not risk your happy life too just to take revenge from a person.It may happen that in urge to ruin someone's life sometime we nay risk our lives too.I would suggest you to think twice before you do anything. But i wonder why can't you realized it earlier that this person is just playing with your emotions you should have thrown him out of your life much earlier.I know sometime people get deceived and can't be able to recognize people but that's life and one gets it through experience.
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@kareng (54724)
• United States
28 Apr 12
I agree. You should just move on with your life without him in the picture. It's hard when you have been taken advantage of, but you should chalk it up to life and a good lesson learned. Move on, be happy! Holding a grudge and hatred in your heart keeps you from being fully happy. The best revenge would be to have a wonderful life and it sounds like you have it figured out that he doesn't belong in your life. Good luck to you!
• India
30 Apr 12
yeah. I know you right yet still I am unsettled..
@vaishnavc (556)
• India
29 Apr 12
Well you have moved on and you have a family.Then why even bother about him.?Don't after him for revenge and risk losing what you have now.Don't you think that your family is bigger than revenge?
@woody5_16 (171)
• Egypt
29 Apr 12
revenge may make ur life more worse and make ur attention to get revenge only and u will regret that you leave beautiful things and may be u will not notice people who love you and make hatred born on ur soul forget him and and let this expeiment make you stronger and increase your expriance in life hope your life will be better and that u will get ur love who will make you forget all your painful :D
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
28 Apr 12
This is why there is something called karma. Let Karma do its thing and leave it. If you take that revenge on your own it will come right back on you 10x worse than ever. You let things happen naturally. You don't need to do anything except enjoy the life you have now and put the past behind you.
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@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 12
Revenge will kill both of you and Him. After you revenge, yes you will satisfy.Just couple days perhap. Then you will regrat it longer then that. I could told you cause I ever feel it. Imagine watching he/she suffered about ten year. While at that time, I only pray to the God.Not myself who done it. Still I feel guilty.
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Hi ravipors, honestly, I remember my self when I was reading your post. It remind me so much of my feelings when my ex-boyfriend broke my heart way back. It was so painful that I obsessed with the idea of taking revenge for a time. even if I already have a new relationship with other men, sometimes I cannot forget my wanting to take a revenge from that particular person. But then again, I realized, what good it would bring me? What will I benefit from it? When I realized that there is nothing good that this revenge can give me, aside from the momentarily boost on my ego, I let the idea of revenge go. Because you know what? the fact the I am still obsessing with the thought of getting back at him still shows that I am still affected by him. All I wanted is for him to be out of my life, but because I want revenge, it is only me that is doing something for him to stay in my memory, I am not helping myself in that respect. So what I did was I prayed for a forgiving heart so that I may be able to completely let go of the anger that I have for the person who is not even worth my time and attention. I always pray that I may be able to face another day without the thought of revenge crossing over my mind. Now, my prayers were answered. I have not thought of him for a long time. And I wouldn't dare to make an effort to raise a single finger for him because seriously, he is not worth it. I hope you all the best and clarity in mind. Good luck.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
29 Apr 12
I think our small life is very precious. There might be thousands roses in a tree and we should not worry about one thorn. I think you should not think about him and try to spend life with people who love you and people whom you love. I think you should try to spend time with people who like you. There might be thousands people who might make you happy in your life. Our friends and family are precious in our life.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
showing him that you are happy at wherever you are and who you are right now is enough revenge for him. by the way, do you still each other? like do you still see him around?
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
29 Apr 12
Do you want to live for the revenge? Chances are that it would make you miserable too, not only him... Are you sure this guy really worth even this effort. He might not understand at all why you took revenge on him. He will get his punishment for what he did anyways. But if you have a nice family already, why make their life more difficult, too.
• Philippines
17 May 12
H is not worth it