Would you date your friend and have a relatinship with him/ her?
By Resy King
@resy21curapika (2116)
Pasay, Philippines
May 5, 2012 5:12pm CST
So it is confirmed. He doesn't have a girlfriend anymore and I'm not looking anywhere lately. Now he wants to go out with me. And what's weird is I haven't tell to him how I feel about him that I still have THIS FEELING that I have regretfully said it before becuase it made me looking stupid because he still loves her girlfriend.
But there was a conecpt amoung my friends that if you have a relationship among your circle of friends; you're putting your friendship in jeopardy and if your relationship wouldn't work, there is a chance that you won't be friends with him again.
What do you think about this, mylotters? Would you date your friend and have a relationship despite of risks? Tell me more about it.
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14 responses
@lmw814 (124)
• United States
6 May 12
I did this myself back when I was in my early 20s and it turned out to be a big mistake. Despite dating, I just didn't have those type of feelings for him and still considered him a friend. When I told him this, he got angry and never spoke to me ever again. I'd have to say it definitely ruined a nice friendship we had at one time.
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@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 May 12
I also feel the same way. It's really stupid for me. But I dunno. I don't want to endup our friendship for just a simple choice; even that I know the feelings are strong; we maybe not sure if he's playing rebound or if it is real. Besides; I also have the feelings but I'm thinking that it is really the worst idea as of now.
Time will tell though; but maybe it will kill his interest if I give in. Stupidity (aside from curiosity) kills.
Thanks for sharing your thoughs about it. I'm not being pessimistic. I just want to check my grounds. Happy mylotting!
@AwesomeGuy250 (334)
• United States
7 May 12
I would go out with someone who was a friend, but I guess that is me. I have heard that sometimes it dosen't work, and they either go back to friends. Or because of how things were, they are no longer friends. So there are some options to weigh. It can be hard at times, to decide weather or not to go with it. The choice is ultimately yours.
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
6 May 12
That is part of the adventure of life. Do you care enough about this fellow to take a chance. Go out with him and maybe turn it into the love of the century OR, not go out with him because you fear you could ruin a good friendship? Some of the best relationships start out as friends. Bottom line is that it is a chance you either take or you don't.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
6 May 12
If the friend is being honest about themselves, it could workout. Thing is you never know because often times they don't show their true personality until after you begin dating them. Its kind of hard to go back to being friends if the real them is actually someone horrible. Because of that, I don't know if I could. Especially if its a friend I really care for. .
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 May 12
I will take the risk.
Who knows it will turn the other way, instead of breaking the friendship- it will turn into a fairy tales.
It is better to risk and did our best than regretting for things left undone.
So, why not date with him, maybe he wants to risk also.
If things won't work like what you dreamed, be thankful still, you've got the chance to show how much you love him.
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
6 May 12
It depends on how good of a friend I am with the person. I have been best friends with guys and after taking have decided that we were afraid we would ruin the friendship if things didnt work out. So we stayed best friends. It helps because we know where the line was drawn and none will cross it but we are there for each other when needed.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 May 12
I think I would depending on the circumstance. However, as you explained here he obviously still loves his girlfriend. Meaning, he's only dating you to forget her, which isn't a good start of a relationship.
However, if you feel that you really like the guy and would like to give it a shot, then why not?
There are a lot of times when we don't really start right but in the end a good relationship would blossom.
Good luck! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@alicia812 (646)
• Australia
5 May 12
Hi there. If I were in the same situation
I would give it a try. I believe that the
best foundation in a relationship is real
friendship. I think that is an advantage
to be friends first before becoming lovers.
If things don't work out fine, then it's
for the best interest of both parties to
maintain the friendship.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
6 May 12
To me dating is not the same as having a relationship.. and with a friend you already have a relationship otherwise you wouldn't be friends.
If he still loves her I would not start a relationship or even go out with him. I don't like to be abused/just used because he has nothing else to do or no one else to turn to at the moment.
@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 May 12
Me and my husband where friends for 6 years before we started dating each other. So I do think its possible for friends to date each other and have a every long lasting relationship but it doesn't happen to all friends where they get together and get married and stay together.It is a risk either you take that risk or you don't.
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
6 May 12
I think there is nothing wrong in dating your friend if you like him. A relationship based on friendship can be more balanced if it works than being just lovers.
I would be worried though because he is still in love with his ex girlfriend. You risk that you both will get hurt, so better to be honest what you can expect from each other. He should love you for yourself, not as someone who replaces his ex girlfriend.
@kimmysay113087 (171)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Hello there. For me, I would prefer to date a friend. It's a nice feeling because you already know each other's flaws and yet you respect each other. Also, a friend understands. The best relationship is that you are not just lovers, but also best friends. You can communicate even in silence because you both feel the same. There's magic and there are things that only a friend can understand. I guess it would be best to date a friend than someone we barely know.
