Should I take my grandson?

Wow, you live pretty far away to watch your grandson. Is it possible for you and your youngest daughter to go to your daughter's home and stay there with the child until she finds someone to care for him?

lynboobsy: If it is possible physically we must render service to our children by taking care of grand children. If you have physical discomforts then you need not. if it is possible you can keep your grand child also with you in the present house.

How young is your youngest daughter? Can she go with you? I would say just go to your daughter's house temporarily until she can find someone. That way she can still nurse the young one at night. He will be easier to care for in his own home. I am going when my daughter has her next baby for just a few days. She lives about ten hours a day and has two children besides the baby she is expecting.

If this is a hard decision for you it must be for good reason. A child this age is alot of work and not for someone who has pain. It could be very hard for you to carry him around and stoop and such as that. If you can't you can't. And you may have full responsibility for him for several days if she can't come and get him every day.

that is quite a dilemma lyn, as i know it is hard to look for a nanny nowadays, i haven't found one yet. Well its either you go there and take you daughter with you... or have the little kiddo go over your home, maybe he could take some milk at the bottle first.. that is quite a handful right now. I hope you could sort things out.

I agree with your opinion that the kid should still stay close to his parents. And if taking the kid means separating him from his parents on this stage- there might be some problem once he grow up. I mean, his age is in critical stage of bonding - parents-kids relationship. 2 years old is the stage where a kid starts to retain memories and emotional bonding with people around them. So,if separating your grandson from his parents by this age- he will have confusions once you will return the kid. Unless- he will only stay with you for a month. I was raised by my grandparents, and I know how grandparents spoils their grandkids. And giving all love and attention- I did the same thing. So, by the time I came to know my real parents- there was some kind of confusion and feeling of space. Of course, as I grow older, I understand the reason why my parents did such choice and nothing to regret since I was well-loved and spoiled (but not a brat, only sometimes- hehehe) Also my parents are trying to fill the missing part of it to my kids now. I am just sharing my opinion. Maybe, you can take the kid with you while they are looking for a trusted nanny. If only they lived near my place, then I can babysit him in daytime. My kids loves babies a lot- they always borrow kids from the neighborhood and babysit :)

I see that your grandson lives far from you,so this would be hard on you to watch him. I would think they can get a nanny closer to where they live. I did babysit for my grandkids I watched first my granddaughter when she was in pre school all the way to 5th grade untill they moved away 4 hours where I live. Than I watched my two other grandkids all summer from 8:00AM TO 7:00PM than when school started I picked them upfrom school every day. Now the two grands kids are old enough to stay home by themselves... It was a lot of work. So if you dont feel good it best they get a sitter to watch the grandson, How old is you daughter that you still have at home? I have 11 grandkids the oldest is 23 the youngest is 1 month old...there is even twin boys in the family

Hi Lynboobsy, If I were you, I would go and get him and take care of him. How old is your youngest? I have a teen still at home and I take care of my 14 month old grandson on all my nights off so that my daughter can work. It is very hard trying to find not only someone that you trust but someone that isn't going to charge you most of your paycheck. It's hard for sure but I do it because it gives me time with my grandson and I know these days will pass quickly. Soon he will be in school and I won't have these opportunities. I used to watch my oldest grandson back when I still had 3 of my own still at home and I also worked full time. Talk about chaotic!! I'm so glad I did it. He is now 13 and still likes coming to my house on school vacations.

I had no idea your daughter was a member here! What is her user name? I think you will do a great job keeping him if that is what you decide. If he is not walking yet, I think it would be ok. If you feel it is too much though...I am not you so I don't know the extent of your pain...I would just explain to her you can't. She will understand I am sure.

There are a lot of angles and consideration. It's not easy or difficult, depending on the circumstances. If the circumstance is good where your Ann and her husband are in good financial shape, Ann can just stay home and be the nurse to her own son. If the husband cannot provide for the financial needs and Ann needs to support, then that complicates. Getting a nanny should be the last option. If Ann can stay home and do something to support financially, that would be the best. Leaving the kid to a nanny is not the first option. With you, I guess it's a time for you to enjoy yourself without those going back to the old times of taking care of a baby. That's just an opinion and of course, you'll have the decision.