Welcome to the family

@gaiza12 (4884)
Philippines
May 29, 2012 6:44am CST
I went to my bf's hometown last weekend alone without my bf of course, since he's in another country, I stayed in his parents house and I really felt very much welcome there. They never treated me as is I were somebody else. They treated me like I was part of the family already. So, for all those who are married, those who have partners and bf's/gf's here, did you ever had the feeling of being so welcomed in your partner's family? Or did you had issues with your in-laws? Did you find it hard to mingle and be close with your in-laws?
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7 responses
adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36248)
• Indonesia
29 May 12
is it great if you had accepted them as your family and they treat you too as their family..it is good sign that you can easily adapt with your boyfriend family... you did not only marry him , but you must "marry" his family
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adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36248)
• Indonesia
29 May 12
i did not say that you had married with your boyfriend..of course i understand the different boyfriend and husband.. someday they become your family if you marry with your current boyfriend..
Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't get what you mean, i should have read it again before responding. You know how it stresses you when you have loads of discussions to respond to and you get to misunderstand other responses already.
Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
29 May 12
I haven't married my bf, yet. But yes, if I were to marry my bf, I would also be marrying his family. So, it's indeed a good thing that even if we haven't tied the knot yet, I already have a good relationship with his family.
lady Di
@lady1993 (27221)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Wow.. that is nice.. You should totally marry the guy, since even the family is very accepting of you already. If you marry the guy you marry the family too and you are already welcomed there.
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Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
31 May 12
The big question is, is my bf ready for that next stage of our relationship? I'm sure that he's the one for me, but I am not sure when the right time will come for us to say our I do's.
Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
He knows I'm not yet ready. I have a kid's brain you know so saying those might be a little too weird for him. But, when I'm ready, i may be saying it directly to him
lady Di
@lady1993 (27221)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Yeah, since marriage is something to be done by 2 people.. both of you should really be ready.. You could give him hints though.. Like that house is so nice, or that baby is so cute.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20156)
• India
2 Jun 12
Glad to hear this, it is expected as you are part of that family, i am married since 1966, my wife, my sons, daughter in law and grandkids all live together.. Well just remove the in-laws from say mother -in law, sister in law etc, and see the difference Prof.Dr. B.Saraf. PhD
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Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
That sounds like a big happy family then. Wow, that's 46 years of being married. I sure do hope I will be with my one and only more than what you have had with your wife's years together. Have a good one
Polang
@tkonlinevn (6427)
• Vietnam
30 May 12
You're very happy. I'm not too. Moreover we got married, I still feeling shy when I go to my husband's family. We treat to each others pleasantly. I'm trying to change it. Hope that I'll be successful.
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Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
30 May 12
I still feel shy when I am with my bf's family, but I really try my best to change that because I wanted them to accept me as a part of their family already. They did accept me alright, but being shy..hmmmm I still have to learn to be more flexible
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Polang
@tkonlinevn (6427)
• Vietnam
1 Jun 12
I believe that you'll be success. Because they like you now. You're having a good chance to become a part of their family
ryanong
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
30 May 12
I am happy for you when they treat you very nice...they are very nice parents, i think. Me? i haven't gone to meet my bf's parents yet...But i do hope they like me also when i meet them...
Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
31 May 12
I'm sure your bf's parents will like you. What else can they do, their son loves you . No really, I'm sure they will like you, I can see from here that you are a very nice person, they can't help but love you for showing who you are and for being you
ryanong
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
1 Jun 12
Thank you for your encouragement. I do hope too...let's see because there are many old people who are fastidious also...
soorajsrs7srs
@soorajsrs7srs (636)
• India
29 May 12
i got only issues from my girlfriend's house. they told me that if i come again then they will break my leg...lol
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Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Maybe the parents weren't ready for a guy in their daughter's life yet. Well, you can still change that by being respectful and being a responsible bf to their daughter. Show them you are worth trusting for.
adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36248)
• Indonesia
29 May 12
@soorajrs : is it true??why your girlfriend family must do like that?? what is your mistake??
ardoy0731
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Based on the things that you mentioned, you are really welcome to their family which is good.Good to know that they like and love you and treated as one of the family already.
Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Some may think that they welcomed me because they have to because their son loves me, but I am glad that they really showed their love because they have accepted me and very much welcomed me in their family. I'm happy myself of my relationship with my in-laws. They're such a great family