I wish I could get them fixed...

I wish I thought of that one! I was so shocked at the time he said it I didn't really know what to say. I thought of a million smart a$$ comments after he left and I was kicking myself for not thinking of them sooner! Lol

I have not checked to see where you live. I do not believe that woman really was lying. It is just that we have NO extra reliable income to make payments with or to get a medical credit with. Many people do not really believe how poor others can be. They did their best to save us money on that consultation, but for the next step, doing things at a discount, they still want $20000 straight up, and that is not going to happen. I do know of some really reduced income places to go for dental help, because I do not know where that free day is this year. I am going back to work part time. We both already have another part time job each, but it is an on call type position. I have to do that to make sure that the bills get paid every month.

So, did she lie about being low income at her office? A lot of them say that but it is way more than the average person can afford. I have looked into the lower cost one we have here. They are all students and they only do things like cleanings or x-rays, no major work that I need done. So far that is the only one I have found. The other one say they are a lower income but they are way too expensive for me! It was very rude of him and it hurt a lot. I still cannot get over it and I have not worked there for 8 months now. I have not seen the free day here, I know in NY where I used to live a dentist did that because that was the only time we went when I was younger. I have to keep a look out for it here. I know it can cause many health problems and that worries me. I cannot take food away from my kids to get my teeth fixed. My kids come first so I am stuck with bad teeth, at least for now...

big oops. $2000

Thanks. It hurt pretty bad. I agree, some people think without caring how the other person will feel by their comment. He was that type of person. He told the other woman that worked there that she should lose some weight and people would take her more seriously! He was just really mean. Exactly, I was already really insecure about it and it was very difficult for me to work with the public as it was with my teeth the way they were. Then to have him point it out did not help me at all. At times kids are the worst with saying what they see but like you said they don't usually know better. It still hurts but at the same time we have to think about where it is coming from and it is usually just what they see. I called a dentist today that you can go and get a sliding scale by what you make. I am going to try to see if I qualify for that program. The thing is they still require the money up front, it is just a lower amount than what others have to pay so I have to see how much I would still need to pay. If it is between feeding my kids or getting my teeth fixed, well my teeth will have to wait. My kids come first and that is the reason I have not gotten my teeth fixed before...

I completely understand. My kids come first as well. I hope things out in your favor. I know there are programs for low income families when it comes to dental for kids. If only there could be programs like this for adults... Good luck! PS By the way hubby just reminded me that he got crowns, not caps. LOL

Rude people will see other people`s flaws with magnifying glasses, but they are incapable of seeing how disgusting they are.

Yeah I wish I had one at the time. I was purely shocked so I could not even answer him with anything. I just went in the bathroom and cried for a few minutes after he left. I did not want to give him the satisfaction of seeing me cry. That is true. If it was not my teeth it would have been something else. Someone will always have something to say...

Yeah it was so mean. It hurt really bad but I try not to let it get me completely down. I agree, we should not judge people by their looks. The personality is what really is important. Maybe one day I will have beautiful teeth...

Good, you are better then that. I know she will get her teeth fixed. She needs to save some money. She also has insurance for teeth as well. But they do not cover everything unless it is a medical problem. And she has some issues there, so maybe she could get thing done as a result. And even if it costs some money for her, they will work out a payment plan. And I believe you will get your teeth fixed. It will take some time, but you will get there.

I know how she feels. It is embarrassing and I hate looking at myself in the mirror this way. =( I wish I had the money but my kids will always come first so I don't know if I will ever get them fixed. It is a LOT of money and it sucks that it is that way. I wish there was a way I could afford it. I hope one day they will be fixed. Thank you, I will not let anyone make me feel that way again.

I think you might be right peavey. Looks are very important to most people now a days which is terrible. There are so many more important things... It is definitely a health problem which also worries me. I know it can cause so many other issues. I know he was extremely rude. He hurt me a lot. But he should have just shut his mouth.

I don't think it should matter either but some people are rude and cannot keep their comments to themselves... I wish I could smile but I can't, not the way I want to. Maybe someday I will be rich and be able to afford the dentist.

Yeah, siblings can be pretty mean too! I have had that happen too. Someone will bring up teeth somehow in conversation and I want to crawl under something just so no one will see mine. Family should not be mean to each other like that though. That is horrible. =(

Thanks for the compliment. No not all Americans are rich. I am no where near rich and my family never was either. You need lots of money to get work done at the dentist. I would get my teeth fixed if I did not have 3 kids to feed. They come first and always will. =) I am not taking away from my kids for myself. Maybe one day I will be rich and be able to see the dentist, until then I am stuck with terrible teeth. =(

Thanks. Yeah the money is the biggest issue. It is not affordable to go to the dentist. Not at all. At the time the comment bothered me a lot. It still bothers me a little but not as bad as it did at the time. I absolutely do believe in karma so I know that guy will be sorry one day...

Thanks. He was super mean. I think at that time I would have rathered him say it behind my back to be honest. It would not have hurt so much. I cannot laugh at all with my mouth open and I hate it. =( It bothers me so much. I do take care of my teeth now but its too late. When I was younger I only went to the dentist two times my whole life and my parents never made me brush my teeth at a young age. I was a lazy kid so if I was not made to do something, I wouldn't. My parents should have made sure we brushed. Bad teeth also run in my family. My mother has dentures, my grandma does, my aunt has implants, and my dad has a lot of cavities too. Genetics suck sometimes... My job did not have any insurance plans at all or I would have been going to the dentist. They did not offer any benefits at all. It was a smaller company that could not afford that for their employees. We have one place here that offers lower amounts of pay BUT they are all students who are not dentists yet and they only do things like cleanings and minor things, probably so they do not get sued when they mess things up. I need major work done on my teeth so they would not help me... I am out of work now due to moving. I do not have a job. Were on very limited income because my husband is on workers comp. I am good with money when there is money coming in but we live off the $300 per week he makes. We have 3 children.