Working abroad is a gamble
By enelym001
@enelym001 (8322)
Philippines
June 19, 2012 6:39am CST
Someone just related her story to me an hour ago. It was kinda disturbing and I don't really know how to help her.
The previous day I tried to help her in my own little way and I feel so delighted how she appreciated that simple help. I really thought things will go well, when I just learned something as I spoke to her this morning. I tried my best to advise her and give her little information of what she needs to do. Hope that will help her and that she won't end up with a problem.
I feel for her as I went through some bad times before too while I was away from my family. It's really hard to be in a another country when you got caught up with a problem and you don't really know who to ask for help or where to run... 

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15 responses
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
It is really sad to be away with family that's why I never had the chance to go abroad when my kids are still young I don't know what life I have in abroad and even if my kids are are not with me. But now since they are old enough I have plans to go there since here in our country having a job in my age is very difficult. I want to try if I have my luck in abroad but I still don't have access in looking for a good employer. 

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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hi lynboobsy,
You can try applying on agencies if you cannot find any direct employer. It is also better there is someone you know, a real friend or a relative, in the country you'd go to. This way if you end up with trouble then someone might be able to help you.
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
19 Jun 12
Just letting her know that you are there for her on whatever she needs help with is a nice gesture and is doing a lot for her. Being so far way from the family is hard especially when things or situations are going on. But then again being in another country is an amazing opportunity that you can't pass up in life
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hi Lauraleigh,
The thing is we do not know each other personally and she lives so far from where I am. I don't really know where she lives. We are just communicating by phone and facebook. It is true that being so far from our family, things becomes dfficult especially if we are having troubles in life. Yes I also agree with you we may have a great opportunity if we work outside the country too.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
24 Jun 12
true working in a foreign land is really a big gamble...i cant see why some people would sell all their belongings just to go and work to another country...when they can make their moeny a startup capatal for a small business having the same risk i would rather choose to make my own business rather than work in a land i dont know.

@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
2 Feb 13
true starting a business is also a big gamble.but positive thing about it is, if it fails you will not worry about where to get money to go back home because your already home.there are relatives too than can help your business prosper unlike if you are in a land far away where there is different culture and all people are strangers.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Hi johndur,
We cannot always say that putting up our own business is the easiest. And working in another country isn't also always the solution. Making our own business is as well a gamble, depends on what business a person will start. But I do agree with you that it is hard to believe why people have to sell their belongings for their dreams of working in another country without any assurance that they will have a work once they arrived in the foreign country.
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@ifa225 (14468)
• Indonesia
20 Jun 12
Hi en
i know what it feels like
i ever study to a different city without anyone i know.
Friends are the onei can rely on when we face the problem. .And i am glad i have some great friends who willing to be there when i need their shoulder
believe me..when u helps someone when they're in trouble. .There will be someone too who help u when u are in problem
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi ifa,
Actually I have been in some problems before... and someone had helped me at least in some way but I see to it that I return back the favor or whatever help that was given to me... and with her case, though we are strangers to each other, I know what it feels to be in some problem so I guess a small help can make her feel at least that someone cares. Anyway, be praying that there will be no problem as she goes back home.
@sinnedsejatnom (1311)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Working abroad gives us bigger salary. But the problem is that we are forced to be separated from our friends and families. If someone had a spouse left, then this is the most difficult situation. Sometimes, third party problem is the main cause of broken marriages when a spouse is working abroad. And this is the most difficult to solve. I guess only 20% of the relationship in this situation is successful in terms of no 3rd party.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hi sinnedsejatnom,
That's true we can get a bigger salary. It is also true that some relationship becomes rocky and usually ends. Some people can't resist temptations. But I do think it depends on person to person whether they would entertain such things.
@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jun 12
Working abroad can be next to imposible and it takes a lot of guts to be able to do it. Not only are you away from your family and from your friends, but you are also away from your own culture. Not only animals have a territory they call their own: we do too. The next best we can do for a friend that is in such case is to be near and let our friend know that we care.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hi marguicha,
I do hope that I can do that. But I actually do not really know her personally. And I have no idea where exactly she resides. The only thing I can do to help her is to give some contact infos for her to seek help in case she might need it.
Hope she gets away with it. Will wait for her for any updates.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Nope... I meant I know where she is based but don't exactly know her address. She lives and work in her employer's residence.
I've known her when she called me to apply for a job which I posted online. We have not seen each other yet but we've seen photos of each other. I made her a resume so she can pursue her application since she do not have much knowledge in computers except using facebook.
I was trying to push her application so she'd be selected and when she got selected to be interviewed, then only I learned her problems. We communicate through phone and facebook only. She promised to update me once she was out of the problem and already back to our country.
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 12
It is really great that you are there to support your friend. She is living in a foreign country and so it was superb she still had you to help her. Your advice probably really helped her.
I worked as a children's nanny in Finland. I taught the little girl to speak English and found that very rewarding. I had a working holiday in Australia to make up the main part of my trip around the world. I worked as a children's nanny there and it was fantastic. I enjoyed packing in a factory there because the other workers were friendly. I worked as a charity collector which I found very enjoyable. The money I earned let me travel to longer and have an excellent time.
Working overseas can be wonderful and a phone call to home could be helpful if needed.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hi maximax,
Actually she is not my friend. I only know her through the phone and her photo in facebook when I asked her to add me up because she was applying as a nanny for my boss' child. So it was really hard to help her. Only thing I can do is to call or message her.
It is great to know that you have enjoyed your work in Finland


@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
en
I know about it.
Although I haven't been there, but since my mom left us in our early age I know how does it feels.
It takes her time to get used to be away from us and she also had some problem with her first employer before.
but good thing, a good Samaritan like you helped her and everything becomes alright.
Now she is doing the same thing to others as long as she can.
take care always 
I know about it.
Although I haven't been there, but since my mom left us in our early age I know how does it feels.
It takes her time to get used to be away from us and she also had some problem with her first employer before.
but good thing, a good Samaritan like you helped her and everything becomes alright.
Now she is doing the same thing to others as long as she can.
take care always 
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hi jai
Glad to know that your mom have got some help from someone. I cannot consider myself a good samaritan to her as I have not and I know will not solve her problem. I just hope and pray that her employer will let her go or help her if there is some issues with her papers.
I was just bothered with some details she told me about her employer. I can feel she is a strong lady though we both are strangers to each other. We just got to know each other over the phone because I was looking for a nanny for my boss.
Glad to know that your mom have got some help from someone. I cannot consider myself a good samaritan to her as I have not and I know will not solve her problem. I just hope and pray that her employer will let her go or help her if there is some issues with her papers.
I was just bothered with some details she told me about her employer. I can feel she is a strong lady though we both are strangers to each other. We just got to know each other over the phone because I was looking for a nanny for my boss. @airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
good day enelym001,
honestly speaking, working abroad is truly a gamble. wherein you will put a part of yourself at a whole new world. and thus, this somehow putting your self into a risk that will somehow affects your being, that will somehow change your personality. since you will put yourself into a life which is somehow different to what you have lived for. but, living abroad is a combination of a good risk as well as a bad risk. hence, you must be stable to put everything in place. or else, you might end up crying at the end.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi airasheila,
Sometimes even if a person becomes stable, there will be circumstances that will happen unexpectedly. You will just be surprised that things aren't going the way you planned it too. When these time comes, all you need to do is pray and take action to get out of such risk.
@rkennedee (333)
•
19 Jun 12
that's so true. I can't imagine myself working abroad far from my kids. Though working abroad is one of my dreams when i was still single. But now that i am married and have two kids i feel like i would never have a courage to leave our country to work abroad and have a lot of money. We all know that the easiest way to be rich is working abroad but it really takes to have a lot of sacrifices and courage to be able to word there.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
You are wrong dear, working abroad is not the easiest way to be rich. Even those people who works in our own country can be rich too. All it takes is hard work and perseverance that sometimes needs a little luck too for us to attain our dreams of becoming successful (and wealthy).
Once a person is already married and with kids, it is really difficult to leave the family to work.
@deodavid (4147)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
hey there my,
Well it is really nice of you to try to help even though it is not really 100% your obligation too you still did so kudos to you my dear, well i do believe that it is hard to not have anybody to help you when you need it, for me i know a lot about working abroad through my family since both sides of my family and relatives have worked or had been abroad in my family i am the only one who has not stepped out of this country poor me.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Hi deodavid,
Thanks. Yes it is not my obligation to help but I feel responsible to help her at least in some way, after hearing her situation... I do think it would not be good to just ignore her.
Don't you worry, your time to step out of the country will come.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
19 Jun 12
Really it is very difficult to stay abroad without some one with a help there. Problems are very common in our life and it is not easy to solve them without a support with you.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi wonderboy,
Yes that is true... even if there is someone with us sometimes if we are in a foreign country, rules will be different that we sometimes could not defend ourselves. But worst is if we are all alone.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
It is really hard to work far away from your family especially if your working abroad were no one you can trust or rely on. You friend was so lucky to have a friend like you who always there to listen and give advised. If your friend has a legal matter problem she can go to country embassy to help her or even asked if there a organzation she can rely on at times of troubles.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi Bhebelen,
That is so true belen. All we need to just have faith in God that He will not let us suffer so much and that He will help us in tough times. Actually I cannot say that we are friends, we are actually strangers and we just got to know each other from phone and later on facebook. Going or calling the embassy is exactly what I told her giving her all the contact details in case she might need it.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
19 Jun 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, as you mentioned that you tried your maximum to help her and provide a simple solution to her problem and she solved her problem with it. It is really hard to solve other's problems always. Hope your suggestion will help her to solve her issue
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Hi vidhyaprakash,
Her problem isn't solved yet. But she still appreciates the effort I was trying to do to help her... I am glad for that. That is the reason why it is hard not to help her atleast in my own little way. Even the simple things you do to her, she appreciates it. I feel she is a kind person and I just feel sorry that she won't be able to do the things she wanted too because of the problem she might face.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
19 Jun 12

@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hello dearest pergammano
A good afternoon in here now... Yes that is true there's an Embassy here for her to run to in case something worst happen. I gave her the numbers so she can contact those numbers anytime if needed. Her papers are with the employer whom she was also living with. Our company is interested to hire her, but with her case it is impossible as her documents became illegal because of her current employer.
Only person that can settle those is her employer or her.
A good afternoon in here now... Yes that is true there's an Embassy here for her to run to in case something worst happen. I gave her the numbers so she can contact those numbers anytime if needed. Her papers are with the employer whom she was also living with. Our company is interested to hire her, but with her case it is impossible as her documents became illegal because of her current employer.
Only person that can settle those is her employer or her.













