Caregivers for elderly mother

That is true of all kinds of care givers. Some do excellent jobs and some are only working for a check. The person who is hiring needs to be assertive about their job expectations and requirements. If I were interviewing someone for a caregiver for an elderly person, one question I would always ask would be whether or not there is a problem with a bad back. I do not mean to generalize, but it also seems that a good caregiver could be found in a culture that has more respect for their older members. A fifty year old person knows that a job requires us to do some things sometimes that we may not enjoy because they are essential. I certainly would want someone reliable and good if I was having a live in caregiver.

The girl with the sore back shouldn't have taken a job she couldn't do. Now she may have a bad record on her work history if she ever tries to get private duty work again. I'm glad the mom has a live in that is capable to taking care of her. I have worked with lots of Filipino nurses and they are very capable. I've met some lazy ones, but not many.

I'm glad to hear it. My dad takes care of my mother right now (she has dementia). She is only 52, but she has no idea how to bathe herself anymore, so he has to do it. I worry about the time he has to put her in a nursing home although he's determined never to do it. But when she has to go, I'm concerned about the care she will get.

Hi Winter, I don't want to just judge the younger lady who very well may have had back issues. 80 pounds is not much for a person to weigh but it is a lot for a person with a back problem to handle. Regardless of whether she was just being lazy or just incapable of physically handling the job...she deserved to be let go. She is in the wrong line of work. Age is nothing. It is all about a person's drive. I am 56 and have been working since I was a kid and still going strong. It's not so much age as it is work ethics. I will agree though that a lot of young people these days seem to lack those work ethics or the drive to be independant.

it just shows how our society in people under 50yrs have went down these days. seems all of them are lazy except for a very few. i was like the 50yrs old. i did my job gladly and didnt complain when i was hurting i worked through it till at 57yrs, i could do it no longer cause it got unworkable. today most want a free ride and dont want to work through the pain. they want to sit and draw pay they dont deserve.

Although I don't work in private homes I work in a nursing home doing exactly the work you describe...and more. It is interesting to note that we have a lot of Filipino people working in our facility. We also have people of all ages working there. I find that it doesn't matter, Filipino, Canadian, young, older, there are good workers and bad workers in every sector. Just as there are good and bad in any other profession. I work with some older people, and by older I mean over 40, who are wonderful workers. I also work with some older people who are just plain lazy. I work with younger people who are energetic and do an amazing job, and I also work with younger people who spend all their time texting or going out for smoke breaks, leaving their co-workers to pick up their slack. I work with some Filipinos who are amazing at what they do, and others who fall into the lazy category as well. I think it all boils down to whether or not you like your job. Face it, we all work for the money. We are all there for a pay cheque. If we weren't we'd be volunteers. The secret is to find a job that you really like to do, and you'll be good at it. Obviously the first, young girl didn't enjoy her work and didn't want to be there, whereas the second woman does.

I think part of it has to do with cost of living in different parts of the world. The filipino lady might be willing to put in that effort because back home, she would not get enough monies for that kind of work, and the money buys her something that she likes or values in her country, whereas a similar value is not there for the 26 years old. The disparity between the cost of living in the US and other parts of the world has truly widened. What you would consider as a minimum wage is enough for very comfortable rather luxurious living in many parts of the world. So it is not exactly the fault of the 26 years old girl, she is not feeling adequately compensated because of high cost of living in your parts of the world.

Sad to know about that girl, she is only 26 years old, but very lazy to do the simple cleaning tasks. Good to hear finally you hired a good women with 50 years and she is doing her work properly. Now a days most of the people looking care takers for their elderly parents. As both young couples are going for work and don't have time to care about the elders, so they are appointing some care takers to watch them. The care takers must keep patience and do all the needful work to the elders. They must consider the elders as their own parents and give their complete care to them. Unfortunately some care takers don't give more importance to the elders and they are doing this kind of jobs to make money. They don't think that they are doing service to elder persons. Matured and responsible persons are good for this kind of jobs. We must avoid appointing very young persons to this jobs and select middle age persons to take care about elders. As they are matured and have responsibilities in life, so they will care about the elders in a good way and do their job as a service. Finding the proper person is very important for this kind of elder's caring process. Elders need more love and care, we must give it to them. It will avoid a lot of unwanted health issues in the elder's body. The real love and affection will let them to get well soon from their health issues.