My son is having tantrums . What should I do?
July 2, 2012 12:08am CST
My son is wyning so much , complaining all the time , fighting with his older brother , the little one who is 5 blames the big one who is 10 , i dont know how normal is that. I worry because i dont want them to fight , i want them to get along really well. Everytime the older one says or does something the little one starts to scream so loud and saying some words , like : i dont want to, repeating constanly , it bothers my ears , I dont like that , I have to stop him , but , sometimes he does that and next he is laughing . I dont know if put more attention or just let him be. What do you think as parents.
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2 Jul 12
I don't have childen so I can't really say too much but I think when kids have tantrums they should be ignored for the most part becaue they do it for the attention. If you pay no attention to them and not give in they should stop the behaviour. My cousin does that when her daughter is all cranky. She will try and talk to her to see what is wrong and if she won't tell and keeps it up then she is just ignored until she is ready to talk. From memory I think my mum would do that to me too :)
2 Jul 12
Sometimes, you will need to explain what is right or wrong to your children, so they grow up knowing how to be critical thinkers and differentiating what is right or wrong for themselves. But I guess it is a growing up process where they will start blaming one another for things... I guess as parents you will also need to learn how to moderate on what you say or do. Well, best of luck in parenting!
2 Jul 12
Thank you very much for sharing with me , yes I try to do the best as mother alone because the father is always working out of the country, so , I have to deal with them myself, and sometimes i am not sure if what i do is the right thing to do, I am afraid of hurting the kids s personality . I talk a lot with them explaining the what is wrong or right as you say. Well I just have to keep on.. thanks.
5 Jul 12
As parents you must know the reason why is he doing that in rder to prevent hm from doing it again. Maybe he is trying to get attention from you because he felt that he lacks attention fromt his parents. Better talk to him in a nice way. Don't scold him. Just be calm and tell him that what he is doing is some kind of bad attitude.
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jul 12
What is his favorite toy? When he is really whining and acting unappropriately I would take his toy and put it up. I would tell him that when he can behave he can have it back. It should be taken away for a full day so he really feels the pain of losing it to play with. If he just laughing at times I would wonder why. Does he know this bothers you and is doing because of that? I would ignore that and not give him the attention he is probably doing it for. Ignore the negative and pick your battles.