I didn't ask you to tell me that
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
July 9, 2012 11:28am CST
I think I'll be ruffling a few feathers by starting this discussion.
I greatly appreciate and trust the input of others on this site, in fact I come to it often just to get everyone's input on something.
I recently started a discussion on AT&T and I had a lot of people warning me to be careful that they've had troubles with AT&T, and I appreciated that. They warned me, they didn't tell me not to get it at all.
However, I don't appreciate people who say "Don't get that". You may be trying to save me from trouble down the road with them, but I didn't ask you to TELL ME what to do. In fact, I didn't ask you anything. I wanted input, not a boss to tell me what to do.
Some pointed out that i'd basically be paying for the laptop by paying for the cost of the internet. Well that's fine.. but I DO NEED THE INTERNET. I need the internet, though I am using internet from home right now, I am not allowed to buy a router to just connect the internet to a laptop and then pay them for using part of their service, nope.
I have to buy my own internet separate from theirs, so this is why I am looking at packaged deals.
Honestly I don't feel I should have to explain myself at all.
Again I know this is going to ruffle people's feathers. I believe I did a pretty good job of saying I do appreciate most of the people who responded to that discussion. I only ask that people keep in mind if they have something that even REMOTELY sounds as if they are bossing another person around, belittling the person's decision, to keep it to themselves or find a different way to say it.
So come on, I know you want to give your opinions, yell at me for OPENING my mouth etc, bring it on. Just realize you don't have much ground to stand on with this, because I've plainly stated that I appreciate most, but not all of the responses. Some were just too "let me boss you around" for my taste.
Let the games begin...
Inputs please?
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8 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
9 Jul 12
I have had so many people tell me to buy another computer or take my computer to a computer store and let them fix it..
I try to be polite, but sometimes I am sick and tired of explaining that the only job I have, I typically get 20.00 a week and sometimes like now, every bit of money I get goes to gas for my husband to get to work. So where do I pull money out for a new computer or have a tech look at it? So I am doing what I can, learning as I go and I have to admit, though I am not even close to being a computer expert, I have learned so much, about 98% of it here on mylot over the years.
So if I remember, whenever I start a discussion, I let everyone know in a polite way that I don't have an extra 200-400 dollars laying around and if I am really upset, I'll put it in bold so it can't be missed...
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
10 Jul 12
That's right, it is much better to learn than to pay someone else because another benefit is, what if my computer messes up on a Friday evening and I can't get it to the computer store until Monday? And even then that doesn't guarantee my computer will be fixed that quick, especially if the store has many other customer's computer to fix first.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
10 Jul 12
I only make $80.00 per week right now as is and that was my choice to downgrade hours, so a lot of my reasoning for evenin going with AT&T is the deal. A few have said I am basically paying for the price of the laptop with using their internet service, but you know what? I wanted to use their internet service, I NEED to have internet service.
A lot of people who respond are great, and helpful. It's just those few who don't even bother to read what a person has said.
I figure that a lot of things to do with computers can be fixed if one just figures out a way to do it themselves, and much cheaper as well. People are all too tempted to jump and get another computer, or go and get it fixed, but a lot of computer's faults are human error...
Heck I don't know the first thing about computers anymore but I'd just as soon learn it then have money taken out of my pocket to fix it.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
10 Jul 12
Not only that but sometimes shops either won't fix everything, or kind of "put something" on the machine so you have to bring it back to them...
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@AmbiePam (121139)
• United States
9 Jul 12
I tried responding to this earlier to no avail. I'll try again. I understand what you're saying. When you were initally talking about getting a scooter I didn't think it was a good idea, but I didn't tell you that. It's not my business. Who am I to tell you whether you should buy a scooter or get AT&T? If someone doesn't ask my opinion I'm kind of hesitant to give it, and I certainly don't want to outright tell them what to do.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
10 Jul 12
One of my friends told me not to get the scooter as well! lol, thought she did it in a nice "I don't want you hurt" way.
I feel as if people need to learn from their own mistakes, and not others. It's just the way life goes.
Besides if I didn't buy a product solely based on reviews I'd gotten I wouldn't buy anything! Most of the things I buy are reviewed badly but work GREAT for me, odd huh?
I don't like giving my opinion either, unless I know I can constructively word it without offending. I hate offending, I hate controversy.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
9 Jul 12
Hey some peoppel like AT&T some dont.
get all the info and then decide for yourself and I have heard they are good for the internet bundle. my self I have internet thru cox tv thru direct and phone landline with vonage thru my puter cell thru Cricket so I have spread it around lolololl
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
9 Jul 12
I've only ever heard bad things when it comes to AT&T and land line service myself. I used to have cricket but didn't like it as much as I do the company I use now, though I do agree they are pretty good.
I guess I'm just moody this morning, I've not ate yet, need to do that.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
10 Jul 12
I've always gotten unlimited on all of my cellphone plans because I tend to either text too much or talk too much.
@celticeagle (189988)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Jul 12
Wasn't that about a laptop you were thinking of buying? I think I gave you some ideas. I hope I wasn't too overbearing. Hope the computer is something you can really use. It is just that these great buys sometimes aren't quite as good as they seem to be. Hope you aren't disappointed.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
10 Jul 12
Your response was great, you just warned me not to jump too fast because looks are sometimes deceiving, and that's exactly how I took it. I wasn't offended by yours at all.
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@celticeagle (189988)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Jul 12
Oh, good! SOmetimes I just jump into it with all this information and I don't read back to see if I sound overbearing or anything. Don't want to I just don't think before I open the mouth or put fingers on the keyboard.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
9 Jul 12
I have had at&t they are not the worse. But the thing is if people see you might be buying something or getting into something where they have been screwed or cheated, they are gonna try to prevent it. I guess not everyone can pick their words wisely. And some may not use them in the right context, and some are just trying to convince you. I try to write my responses from a few different points of view. And still get my opinion across. I do understand where you are coming from. Anyone who has had a bad experience though is gonna jump to try and put that company or product down. That's why I don't listen to reviews. If a company really makes you mad you are going to hurry up and give a bad review. But if you are busy enjoying your product, you won't always take the time to give review at all. I know the subject was about people being bossy. I personally didn't see the post, but I understand where everyone was coming from in the situation. :)
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
10 Jul 12
I am definitely not saying people shouldn't give the opinions, but when it's worded in such a way that I feel it's pushed on me? I don't appreciate it. I am glad to see people's different views on the subject. I for one have had products that I've read terrible reviews on and those reviews out weighed the good, but I still bought it. I didn't have the same experience as they did.
I have a family member, THAT I LIVE WITH, whom used to use AT&T and he hates them, but I'm not going to just not use them because of his bad experience.
On a side note, I've found if you try to be calm and understanding and ask a lot of questions, a person in a company will go out of their way to help.
Most of the responses I got on that discussion were great, just a few were the "do it my way" feel to it.
@Memnon (2170)
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14 Jul 12
I would probably suggest that it's too expensive to bother with, Had I any experience with AT&T. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to 'tell' when asked their opinion. By and large this is probably more to do with poor language skills than a wish to boss you about. 
Unfortunately this sort of thing is on the increase, very much aided by the use of text speak, and poor grammar handed down from my parent's generation. 
Unfortunately this sort of thing is on the increase, very much aided by the use of text speak, and poor grammar handed down from my parent's generation. 
I'm kidding.
I think sometimes people come across as being bossy without intending to. It's just a way of saying things. I'm pretty sure I've said things like that before. 
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 Jul 12
It wouldn't bother me at all if I asked a question and someone responded: "Don't do that" I might not take their advice, but I would still appreciate their response. I would think that they told me those things because they wanted to warn me and not because they wanted to make the decision for me or tell me what to do. Even if I have already made my decision I would appreciate the fact that other members took the time to respond and share their own experiences. I might not agree with the response and they might have written it a bossy way, but that doesn't change the fact that they probably meant well. I would focus more on the intention than the actual words.
