Coming Home
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
July 21, 2012 2:44am CST
I just flipped out on the phone with T, he hung up on me. I am sick, hot, cranky, and grieving over a good friend that died today.
Just as I get off the phone with T I get a call from my son's old girlfriend. She has no where to go and wants to live with us again. Though she just wants to be a boarder nothing more.
She is willing to and wants to help me, which I drastically need. But I couldn't say yes or no until I spoke to my son. He is gone to pick her up now. It is almost 4am.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Jul 12
omg, i sure hope it works out for you. my daughter camr because i needed someone to help me and stay with me during/after surgery, etc. but she talked us into letting her bf come also, then my youngest son moved in and its my oldests house. anyway, there have been times when it was more trouble then its worth and ive actually thought we'd been better off alone with me grubbing along. 
lets hope this will be a really good thing for you
lets hope this will be a really good thing for you@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
It is all up in the air for us now, I don't know what is going to happen yet.
@stringer321 (5682)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
25 Jul 12
Well , you sure don't know what will happen , but you can at least plan what you don't want to happen. She is your guest and she has to respect you and be polite.
If she does something that you don't like , tell her "I'm sorry , I don't like what you just did/said , it makes me feel ...".
"Can you please talk about something happy ?"
Maybe you can prevent things that are awkward before those happen :
"What is your favorite food ? I want to make food that is good for everyone ".
Having a guest in the house for some days requires some thoughtfulness from both sides.
@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jul 12
I hope that this works out. Living with people is so hard. I have heard of others trials with it and I know when my granddaughter came to stay again I was so relieved when housing wouldn't let her stay. Sometimes it is best to love family from a distance. But with friends and people you have known when they come to live with you it seems to change the whole dynamic. I hope it works out for you.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
I know exactly what you mean and it is all up in the air right now.
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@GardenGerty (169530)
• United States
22 Jul 12
You have a lot going on in your life right now. It could be she would be a blessing if she can help you without hurting or offending your son. You do need to see how he feels about it, and then maybe all have a round table discussion about your expectations and hers. I hope this is the help you are needing.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
oh I know how he feels about it and it is all up in the air right now. There are complications to work out if it is going to work out at all.
@BarBaraPrz (51837)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
21 Jul 12
What happens when you move into your new place?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
nothing, she moves in with us or she takes a place of her own, nothing has really been decided yet.
@suzzy3 (8341)
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21 Jul 12
Sounds like you are having one dreadful time.Maybe a bit of company will do you good.She sounds like you and the ex girlfriend could do with a shoulder to cry on.It is terrible when we lose a good friend it leaves a gap.Especially as we get older and there are less of us.I do hope you get some sleep and feel better about things.Take care 
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
21 Jul 12
I don't know the situation winter and I hope that if she does come to stay with you so it can help you out but please be careful because so many times it doesn't end up good and you are worse of then when you started. If she can come and stay with you and help you out financially and you can get along it seems like it would be a good thing. How long is she planning to stay with you?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
everything is up in the air right now, we don't know what the outcome is going to be.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
21 Jul 12
It is nice of you and you can use the help to get ready to move. Hopefully she can help with some bills to help you out too.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
well I don't know if it is going to work out there are so many issues already
@jirexpress (155)
• United States
21 Jul 12
I hear you its crazy sometimes when we see that people use us,but when we do things that give GOD Glory its all worth our efforts. Talk to your son see how he feels and always pray for THE WILL of GOD to be done, make sure you are at peace with what you decide. If need be let her know this is not a long term situation. I want to say more but do not know the whole story. Soo much in THE WORD on these situations make sure you are daily getting that WORD in for what you are searching for 2 Timothy 3:16,17
