would you buy something for a friend on your bday?
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
July 21, 2012 10:27pm CST
My bday was at the beginning of this month and for it I invited friends out to eat. I knew one I would need to pay for and that did not bother me in the least. I told my grandmother about it and she was all "what?" and a little upset. Honestly it didn't bother me.
I was happy to pay for her, I'd do it again and again. She is a great person who is going to school to better herself and she has a daughter. Her money is better used in helping herself and her daugther..
We have a way (my friends and I) when we do hang out. it's a split kind of thing and we all put in our share, we are never unfair... so what does it matter? your right it doesn't.. lol family and people sometimes.
So to the question in the title...
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18 responses
@GardenGerty (169505)
• United States
22 Jul 12
I have done so and would probably do it again. What is a birthday celebration if you cannot spend it with someone you enjoy and see them happy as well.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
22 Jul 12
exactly! It'd been since St Patty's that I'd seen them.. I had to get together with them lol.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 12
hi somecowgirl I did that on my birthday once y ears back. my mom and my husband had taken me out for birthday lunch and I saw this young woman who I knew from work. she did not have enough to pay for her meal so I beckoned the cashier over and told her I would pay for it and gave her the money. soon after that the cashier came over and told us a nice gentleman had already paid for all our meals. I looked over and a tall handsome older man nodded and walked swiftly o
ut of the place,.the waitress told us the man was the owner of the restaurant chain.wow
ut of the place,.the waitress told us the man was the owner of the restaurant chain.wow1 person likes this
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
22 Jul 12
That brought tingles to me Hatley! That was so amazing. I see this happen a lot though.. I mean there's this one lady who LOOVES to give coupons to others in line behind her if they have something but no coupon.. They always thank her, offer her money etc.. it's a beautiful sight really!
Such a sweet thought from you and how nice of the restaurant chain owner!
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
23 Jul 12
For my birthday one year I decided to have a private party at a place my friends and I frequqnted reguarly. Obviously I paid for everyone; many people show even more generosity to others on their birthdays. One year I used my birthday as a fundraiser for an organization I was involved with.
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
22 Jul 12
I agree with you. And I´m sure that your thoughtfulness and kindness will pay off in some way in the future. If you want to have your friend with you and she is short of money (specially if it is for a good cause) it´s a wonderful gesture to pay for her. Happy birthday!!!
Happy birthday!!!1 person likes this
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
22 Jul 12
lol well thanks, It was on the 8th..
We hardly ever get together and I love spending time with them..
@uolyram (266)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
I am feeling so happy when ever I give something on my birthday instead of receiving one. It is so nice that you can give than to receive because in return many blessings will come your way. It is your birthday and buy something for a friend is a memorable one because you make that friend happy when he receives that something especially that is what he also needs during that day and you have spare it to him. It is a lot more inspiring when you can make for friend happy on your birthday not because of the food you prepare but also the sharing that you have.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
22 Jul 12
I didn't prepare the food, I just paid for it. I agree though it's a very nice thing to do but it's more then that, she's family.. I'd do it again in a heart beat, I love spending time with her and another close friend.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
Normally here in my country when we invited someone or even friends for a birthday celebration we are the one who is in charge of the food. It is because we invited them, but nowadays money is not that easy I think only the rich one can afford to have a party on their birthday. When my friends remembers my birthday and asking to have a hang out, I told them that I don't have money to pay for their food so in this we do agree that we have to divide all the expenses. Last birthday of mine I do cook some food and invite few friends.
@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jul 12
To have all my friends and family around me on my special day I would pay for one who couldn't pay their own way. I doubt I could do this all the time but on a special day, yes, I would do so. We would both feel good and it would be fun to have them all there.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
22 Jul 12
I see no problem with it, since her finances are really tight. It is your birthday gift to yourself--a chance to spend time with a dear friend.
Next time, skip telling your grandmother. There are just some things one should not share with family members--how one chooses to spend one's money is generally one of them.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
It doesn't need to have any special occasion to buy something for my friends.
When I go to other place, or spend my vacation to my hometown I always bought something for my friends.
About birthday, usually the birthday celebrant pay for it - when going out.
But last time we surprised a friend on her birthday.
We and other friends bring the foods to her surprise.
@annavi23 (6633)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
I won't mind buying something for my friend if she is a special one.
I have a college friend who became close to me and she always treat me when we are eating. It's her way of showing that she do cares for me and as a sign of thanking me sometimes. I do give her gifts when it is her brthday or whenever i like to. Its not a big deal as long as have money or it doesnt matter if ts cheap or not.as long as he thouht counts.
@karyl15 (251)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
yes, i would love to if i have enough money why not. because for me such a dear friend to me is worth the gift i have given. and i want my friends to be happy too. as long as i can afford the gifts for them i would never hesitate to buy for them.
happy mylotting.
@fencer07 (98)
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23 Jul 12
I would not mind buying something for a friend or even loaning them money on my birthday. However, if I do know that one of my friends would be hesitant to come to my birthday dinner (for example) because of financial issues, I would save up and pay for everyone, so that this individual does not need to feel embarassed when the check comes.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jul 12
I would. And if you do, it isn't anybody else's business.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
well i im not used to telling people that its my day. at least one of them would greet me secretly and thats fine. im not used to buying food for everybody because its my birthday. specially if i dont even know most of them well haha.
i spent birthdays with my family and my mother would always cook for everybody. with a friend? sure but not too much. my sister would always tell me to go out and invite friends. i mean whose friends? ahahaha..
i always wanted to spend special occasions like Holidays or my birthday alone or with people that i love or at least know which happens to be very minimal like close to none hahaha.. well i live away from home so i dont have a close friend here.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
22 Jul 12
Hey Cowgirl! I think that it was very nice of you to pay for your
friend on your birthday. I have a certain friend that I sometimes
will pay for too. She never seems to have money and if we go out
to eat I will usually pay for her because she does alot of favors
for me. As for my other friends, sometimes they pay for me because
they know my situation or we also just split up the bill equally.
I see nothing wrong with helping friends out from time to time.
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
22 Jul 12
I don't mind spending for my friend, especially a very special one, with or without occasion. Sometimes I even do it without any reason. Just because I appreciate her and sometimes she does the same for me but we never keep scores like who treated who last time, who paid more that time, none of that. We spend some money for our friends just because they're our friends. Can we leave it at that? Lol! Unfortunately I also have some people who thinks its a waste. (Duh, it doesn't have to be often nor expensive). If I had a good time with good friends, I don't think my time and money are put to waste.
