It Always Amazes Me...

I have three kids and each has differences in many ways. Attitude, likes, dislikes, behavior and everything. The only common thing they have is...they almost look the same (resemblance is very strong) I mean, not all siblings looks the same, but my kids had strong resemblance to each other. but then again, they have differences. Yes, it is really amazing how they grow that way. And I that's I always tell them...why..why Yes, why, when I myself took care of them and no other people not even a nanny ever did.

Even being born in the same family with all the same morals and values and such they still will have different experiences. I was an only child but I have had some friends with siblings. In my BFFs family they are all pretty much the same. No opposites there. I think brothers and sisters are going to be different anyway. And with different ages there are going to differences. I see opposites alot on tv but not, actually, in real life.

Well, I guess you are right. Whilst I have similar characteristics to my 3 sisters, I don't share their same enthusiasm for watching sporting events. In fact I would say I find it quite boring. I am the only boy of four kids altogether, and am completely different in all my tastes.. I am a Zen practitioner and practice daily meditation, and they seem to find this quite odd. It's a strange world, but I believe we are all born with different intentions for our life. _Derek

I often wondered that myself. Could it be that one of the kids has Aunt Martha's genes, and the other one has Uncle Dan's genes, etc.? You know, somewhere down the line in the family and that particular kid just picked up the personality of the relative from long ago. I don't know if I'm explaining myself right, haha. We'll try this, sometimes you'll see a family that has all blonde haired kids for example, and then there is the little bratty red-headed one who just doesn't agree with anyone about anything and doesn't fit in. But they're all from the same family, same mom and same dad, brought up the same, etc. And that little red-headed one is the one kid who decided to rob the bank, while the others wouldn't even think of doing that! I think it might be some sort of hereditary thing.

I think we had our own character when we born. I had completely different personality with my sibling. I am a calm person and I love nature thing like gardening. I hate to go to mall just to enter one store after another. I find its quite stressing especially when I don't need anything particular there. Something we had in common is we all love tasty food.

I was asked once, "Are you sure you and your sister have the same parents?" I said yes and the reply was, "But you're so NICE!!!" I busted out laughing! The thing is that no matter what our parents teach us and no matter how much time we spend with siblings, we all have our own personalities and will process things differently. My sister is very much an A personality and she insists on controlling her environment, which has helped her accomplish much. I, on the other hand, are very much a B personality and I would rather not offend others than worry about being offended. Hence, no matter what our parents taught us or how much time we spent together, we will never be the same. I have never wondered about that. Being from a large family I have always understood the family dynamics and never expect siblings to be alike in the way they live their lives.

no I don't wonder because I am therapist/psychologist, so I know the answer lol. Even though siblings are born of the same parents, they are exposed to other people, like teachers, their school friends and so on. All these people have an influence on the way they think. For example, a good kid raised in a good family, feels alienated in school, nobody likes this kid, so he or she gets into the rowdy group, after awhile of hanging out with the wrong kids, his or her personality changes and that kid because rowdy as well. This is just one example, there are many many others.

Hi LMB, I'm not so amazed. Even though the environment is the same and people are raised theme the messages received regarding morals and values will be received differently by different people because in spite of everything, we are each distinct individuals and different to anyone else. What amazes me is that 3 out of 4 children can be extremely intelligent and go on to lead successful lives while the 4th struggles pretty much constantly.

That is so true. In out family there are four kids....my older sister is so different from the rest of us it's unbelievable! The rest of us are responsible with money....she isn't.....we all played guitar...she doesn't and the list goes on and on! LOL

I think it depends on the way every child is raised. Not all children are raised the same way in a family. Like in my family my younger brother was spoiled becasue he was the youngest and the only boy my parent had together. My old brother is my half brother. Same mom different fathers. I was not nurtured the way I should of been. I grew up immature,childess and clinky with some people! So I was backward for awhile in my life when i got on my own! Another example is a former boss. He was spoiled rotten because his parents he would be their only child! He wasn't! A few years later a sister arrived. My ex boss grew up not just spoiled but ever arrogant! With his arrogance he was not a good boss must of the time! So I can say is this is not a real puzzle to me!

I do not wonder why these things occur. There are many factors behind this and one of these is the influence of friends, televisions, music, internet and the like. So, in time even siblings grew up in the same house and got the same moral values from parents they do change their views.

Hi friend, siblings have a lot of love and affection with each other before their marriage, after getting marriage, most of the persons are interested in living separately and worry a lot about their hubby/wife, kids and their own family and don't worry a lot about the siblings

yes, for me its because we have had different personality although we raised with the same family but our personality differs.

I think I can truly relate to what you're saying coz I for one is experiencing it. I sometimes ask myself if I'm too good compared to my brother who is really a pain in the a**. I wonder if my mother's way of raising us got to do with how he ended up to be like that. But if I were to view my eldest brother's perspective in life, I can say that both of us were heading in the right direction unlike this brother of mine who I think has lost his way somewhere out there. It pains me to see him like that to think that he's older than me. But I don't have any other choice but to make up for whatever shortcomings he may have to his children.