Got bad news
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
September 22, 2012 3:50pm CST
Well the 17th was my son's birthday and instead of having a nice day we both received some bad news. I really don't want to say what it is as it is very personal and only one person outside of the family know about it.
It gets me wondering, of the 365 days of the year why does bad news have to come on birthdays, Christmas, or any meaningful holiday.
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If I came across as cold, please know that is not at all how I felt.
@celticeagle (158714)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Sep 12
I think it is a test. And has to do with fate. Fate is a fickle thing and just comes whenever it feels the least bit of whimsy. Sometimes there is just no explanation but it does give us a reason to pause and wonder about life and the way things go. I think that is most of it.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
22 Sep 12
oh it is definitely a test, a test of strength and how much we can endure.
@celticeagle (158714)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep 12
But that is life. Giving life as one goes out. Sad but I think it is the way it is supposed to be.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Looks like a lot of friends here gave you some comfort, wisdom and encouragement. That's pretty neat. Hang in there, my friend. From what I've read in your previous posts, you're a strong woman. Sorry you're going through this but I hope you find that light at the end of the dark tunnel. I know you will. You know me, so I'll just say, God's timing is great (sometimes it doesn't feel so) and He watches over you. 
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
26 Sep 12
thanks hon, I am still waiting to see what will happen with this situation, it will be awhile yet before I know.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
26 Sep 12
thanks hon, I am still waiting to see what is going to happen
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@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
22 Sep 12
If we count all of the special days we have in a year and if we divide that number by 365 , we get the proportion and the chance for a certain thing to happen on one of those days.
In my family, we have 5 family members, we have our grandmother, 5 cousins, they all celebrate birthday. If I add the holidays, those are additional 60 days ( we have Chanuka, Passover, Shavuot, Rosh Hashana, and more...).
It comes to about 70 divided by 365. That is the chance for an event to happen on one of those 70 days in a year.
We also live many years, allowing many experiments to happen. Most of the times, the bad news don't happen on a special day. I guess the amount of bad news is also a factor on the chance to fall on a special day.
Of course we can be unlucky and all the bad news can happen on special days. But, then, I believe, someone else has a better life.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
22 Sep 12
ok your explanation was scientific I know because this is my field, however, you lost it when you said unlucky, because scientists don't believe in luck, just change.
lol.
I don't have as many holidays as you do, for me birthdays and Christmas, or New Years is important, and Easter so for me that is 6 days in a year, yet of course bad news will come anytime, but too many situations in my life have happened directly on a special day, throwing the chance factor out of the picture.
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@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
23 Sep 12
It's nice to know your field is in science.
I like science since I was a child.
I know it's not true, but, even if someone rolled a dice 100 times and got 6 all the times, the chance for him to get 6 again is also 1/6.
Many people will think his chance is almost zero because of the small chance to get 101 times in a row the same number, 6... I can understand them.
I also think it is possible that someone will try ?to roll the dice 100 times and each time will get a different number than the previous number.
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@june2248 (154)
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24 Sep 12
Hi Winterose, i am really sorry to hear that, i do understand your feelings because i have been come across with this situation, Only God knows what and why he is doing he always check our patient.
He want us that we should remember him not only in our bad days but in our good days as well. Be patient i hope you will come out of this situation.
TK (My lovely friend Winterose)
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Nov 12
Sometimes I think they have to happen like this just to keep us more aware of things, and appreciate the Good times in our life more as well. Hope things have improved for you by now.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
8 Nov 12
yes that is what a famous psychiatrist by the name of Milton Erickson
@GardenGerty (157486)
• United States
22 Sep 12
That has often been the case in my life as well. I hope you get through it okay. Sorry about the bad news, whatever it is.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
22 Sep 12
thanks so much hon, time will tell if this situation can rectify itself.
@ikasuryani95 (346)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 12
Well its just a coincidence that that bad news come in a happy moment like that. Buts its always depend on us how we react to that bad news. Let it go. Don't be sad for a long time so you can still be happy :)
Honestly, i really don't know how it feels because it never happen to me.
May you be blessed next time :)
Have a good day :D
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Sep 12
when something really bad happens to you you will know how it feels.
@nhieleiko (109)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Whatever it is just cheer yourself up. All problems have solutions. All of us has a lot of friends so, it is not hard to solve your problem. You have your family and they can help you. Christmas season is time for joy so, don't let it ruin your day.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Sep 12
you cannot say that because you do not know the severity of the issue I am facing. Not everything has a solution, not everything can be worked out, and not everything will blow over in time.
@nhieleiko (109)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
We can face all of our problems. Just trust yourself and be courageous. It can last long but it will fade.
@rendfield (1)
• Spain
23 Sep 12
Sometimes, when something good happens to us, we don't notice or don't realize what date is. But when something bad occurs, we always want to look for a reason, and try to make connections, to give an explanation of what have happened. For me, things happen only for coincidence, don't waste your time looking for a reason, and I hope your problems will mend soon.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Sep 12
trust me I know the science behind it, but the probability of bad things happening on good days because I only have a fun such indicate that there is less than 90 percent chance they will happen on those particular days, as we have 365 days a year.
@waleeds (126)
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13 Jan 13
Sad to hear that winterose. i guess these bad news always come to remind us that we're living on earth and not on heaven. this is what the life is all about. good news sometimes accompanied with bad news. we have to live with it whether or not we like it. besides, sometimes God makes us go through these kinds of news in order to make us stronger and ready for the upcoming ups and downs in the years to come. don't worry my dear friend, tough times never last but tough people do. Do not be afriad by the gust of the wind that flows against you, they are meant to fly you higher. May God gives you and your family a real strength to deal with these harships..take care.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
13 Jan 13
thanks, well my life has been mostly bad news and I will soon be 58 years old.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
31 Oct 12
The reason for that is even though the day is special to an individual, family, or group, in the greater scene of things, it's just a day like any other day.
@smilemoon (766)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Sep 12
Hi winterose. Only God how knows every thing. We cannot controll events. Be patient.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
22 Sep 12
I know we cannot control events, that is not my discussion, my discussion is have you found that bad news comes on what is supposed to be a joyful occasion.
