A boys hangs himself after video chatting with a girl in face book
By ravisivan
@ravisivan (14079)
India
September 25, 2012 12:14pm CST
a 22 year old boy from Varanasi, India committed suicide by hanging himself after video chatting with his girl friend who also lives in the same city.
The boy loved a girl and the parents did not approve of this love affair. Police are now investigating this as to whether the boy was on video chat when he hanged himself and whether his girl friend was watching the boy hanging himself. It is because the parents of the boy have told so.
Love is dangerous -- a few minutes back I read another discussion posted by a friend stating that her friend committed suicide in Hyderabad-- this one after marriage.
1) Be careful while falling in love with a boy/girl.
2) Verify all details about him/her and if you are from India ensure that the parents will approve the marriage. (in western countries normally parent's approval is not given importance and boy and girl decide themselves to live together or marry)
3) Be careful about video chatting or chatting in email accounts or facebook.
God only should help --because many times I do chat to people I have not met advising them about recruitment interviews.
Please share your views.
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17 responses
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
That is the worst consequence made when love is not working well to both persons.He should never done it because the girl is surely laughing why he ended his life when she was just playing with his heart.he should also make the girl felt,that she was not the only girl he could fall in love in the future.He was not using his head to fight his feelings that he can still find someone else who could love him more.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Sep 12
berting:
How come you are awake at this time of night? are you working in night shift? It is very sad when you hear such information. Yes. If the marriage with this girl is not getting through then he should be mentally prepared to accept a no from her or parents and go with another girl.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Sep 12
I am giving the link for this information:
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/after-video-chat-with-girlfriend-he-killed-himself-in-varanasi-271955?h_related_also_see
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
I am seldom seen in the site during this wee time,but due to the fact that it really
caught my attention.I do not wanted to hear or read something like this again.It makes me remember my friend who was also having the same faith as this fellow.He must
not have wasted his life with just that girl,whom just used his emotions to fulfill her bad experiences from another guy,and that this man was the wrong bait,it just cause his precious life to a useless girl.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
Naseem
yes. media is exaggerating love as one important thing in life. With the new things they see before them, youngsters are attracted towards each other and do not realise their responsibility.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Sep 12
It seems the parents of the boy also did not approve of the marriage-- it must be due to caste difference or status difference. the boy was totally feeling helpless-- love alone is not life. for that matter no person no article can / should make/mar the life of any of us.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
28 Sep 12
Ravi bhai
I must congrat you for this discussion
I now know about things happening else where, i call cyber space as ILLUSION
How can some one love some one whom he/she has not seen, i know many have fake ids, fake pictures as female but they are male, i hate this
I must congrat you for this discussion
I now know about things happening else where, i call cyber space as ILLUSION
How can some one love some one whom he/she has not seen, i know many have fake ids, fake pictures as female but they are male, i hate this@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Sep 12
Professor bhaiya:
I also heard about it like this earlier. Thank god I have not come across any such case so far because I am dealing only with a limited section of people -- young boys and girls aspiring for recruitment, and mylot friends.
Hope you will be expecting Navarathri to start next month. Is durga puja celebrated well in Odisha also as in west bengal?
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Sep 12
professor bhaiya:
I hope you might have seen this in newspaper.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/lucknow/Man-hangs-himself-live-on-webcam/articleshow/16539036.cms
Many people feel it is due to influence of TV, cinema and internet and I also feel it is correct. parents seem to be having very less influence on their children.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I feel so sorry for the family of the boy. I guess he felt that he is at the endpoint where he could no longer find a better solution for his problem. Parent approval might be hard to take sometimes but if it part of your custom, I guess there is no way of getting out of it.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I agree with you, ravisivan. However, when one is so in love, one could not think anything else but to make the relationship possible. Out of desperation, these incidents occur.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
This is horrible news, I think parents should be more responsible in guiding or keeping an eye on their kids and what they do I mean children usually do things their way when they are not guided properly by their parents. This is something alarming to parents around the world they should know how to handle situations that may bring a negative impact to their children.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
Yes. This is not done by a kid. It was done by 22 year old man. He could not use his reasoning ability. He thought that love is all in life whereas that is only a part of it. Now this loss can never be compensated to the parents.
pl read the page given:
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/after-video-chat-with-girlfriend-he-killed-himself-in-varanasi-271955?h_related_also_see
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
I came across another article on this just now and am giving a link for the same:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/lucknow/Man-hangs-himself-live-on-webcam/articleshow/16539036.cms
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
kadifu
you are from china. welcome. I think you are also a young man. Are you studying or working? Why have you stated "I hope i will not go through that..." Are you a bachelor? good day.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Oh my is that even the sole reason?
Well for me that is not even love.. i mean love also means you loving yourself... but i guess his one was far too great.. or well the parents should also be responsible for it. He is an adult already.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
he is an adult! he should have reasoned out more to his parents or worse.. think about himself @ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
jazel
I read Times of India which says the age of this person is 25 and that he was an event manager. I am giving the link for this:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/lucknow/Man-hangs-himself-live-on-webcam/articleshow/16539036.cms
IT IS stated in this report that the man hanged himself live on webcam. Police are investigating.
very sad.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Sep 12
ifa
Parents have to be friendly to children so that they come and share their new friendship with them. It is for us to guide them properly and suggest selecting a suitable partner. Youngsters look at things in completely different way as compared to the way in which elders look, for obvious reasons.
While deciding we should select a person who is not very old-- has education background --and social status matching ours to a little extent.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
cutie18f
you are very clear in your expression. Nobody should end his life for any reasons more so for the sake of a girl or a boy not agreeing for marriage. Marriage alone is not life. Parents could have permitted the marriage in which case they would not have lost their son.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
I am giving link of another report on this incident from Times of India, leading newspaper of India:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/lucknow/Man-hangs-himself-live-on-webcam/articleshow/16539036.cms
sorry I forgot to attach this earlier.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
25 Sep 12
A revenge is fine, but not in this way. Education doesn't mean that they are knowledge enough to understand the world better. The loss is only a for the girl and the chance for another one more incident is not far away.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Sep 12
thanks:
what the loss is not for the girl. The girl will get married to another boy/s and will lead happy life. The problem is only for parents of the boy. they just cannot tolerate the loss to this extent.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Sep 12
I am giving the link:
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/after-video-chat-with-girlfriend-he-killed-himself-in-varanasi-271955?h_related_also_see
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
28 Sep 12
Ravi, sad to hear about this. I agree with your points, teen age persons must be very careful about this kind of things. Now a days youngsters are very much addicted with the technology and trying online love. But most of them will results in this kind of unwarned decision. Hope his soul will RIP
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
hello there
so i can say, that is not tolerable. and you are right with your statements above that be careful as you fall in love with a person. it is a very hard situation like that. so that is why, when making a decision, allow God to intervene to it to guide you and to protect you from harm. for i believed that even many virtues were entailed to love, love itself would caused heart ache to the person and that because of too much love, one can be harmed or will harm him/herself to end the agony he/she felt inside. that is why love sometimes could have a negative meaning.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
missjahn:
This boy was brought up by parents for 20+ years and he has forgotten about all that and thought his life is full only with that girl. that is not right. Just as there are two hands for us -- man must be able to find another person in case the first one deserts-- i believe one man should marry one person and live with her till his end--.Otherwise if he has concentrated on some other work also he could have forgotten about this girl. Now his parents are put in a great loss.
@suryapeethambaran (104)
•
26 Sep 12
i know every love stories not end with happy. but this is so sad. i think new generation gays do before thinking. if he think about his parents he never do this.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
surya:
I do not know what is your age? I perceive you are also around 20. You seem to be thinking properly. Yes. if that boy had ever thought of his parents he would not have done this way.
@Koderoh (14)
• Kenya
26 Sep 12
Such a sad story, it is hard to even choose who you want to fall in love with. I think love just happens, I really do not understand why parents have to get involved on who you want to spend your life with, the drama that brings and in such cases loss of life. It is indeed sad I jus hope that with time people will let others choose who they want to be with instead of medling, after all it is your life not there's. I also hope the girl did not see the boy hang himself, that would be dipressing for her.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
Koderoh:
welcome to mylot. I find you are from Kenya. Probably in Kenya marriages are decided by boy and girl. But in India marriages are normally fixed by parents unless a boy and a girl love and wants to marry. Such love marriages also go through the process of approval or disapproval. Some lovers get married against the wishes of parents.
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/after-video-chat-with-girlfriend-he-killed-himself-in-varanasi-271955?h_related_also_see
@shaggin (71678)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I find this so sad. I truly hope that the girl did not watch him hang himself and do nothing about it. If I saw someone doing that I would call the police and have them sent to the home to stop them. It is so sad that this young man killed himself because he could not marry his girlfriend.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Sep 12
shaggin:
the best suggestion will be to come out of chat when you come across a negative person-- a person talking on negative lines whether it may be to this extent or not. after all when we meet in social net works it should be for sharing of information in the interest of both parties.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
this is too bad! well, we all owe our own life to God and no one should take away it. It is a crime to kill people as well as one self. why would he hang himself? just because of love and his parents don't like the girl to him...
i don't know why people are too much strict on things when they have to understand every person have their own rights and freedom specially in choosing who to love and who to spend the rest of their lives with. it doesn't need to have fights that will lead to killing peple or one self.
this is frightening and really sad and if i am in such situation, i guess i would be traumatized because of the scene.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
25 Sep 12
this is totally bad and height of sensitiveness,nowadays people are so fast and they tend to take decisions quicker leading to disaster
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Sep 12
This way i would prefer people acting slowly. one should not rush to such conclusions. What is the guarantee that the girl even if she married will live longer with him? younger generation should think before taking extreme steps like this.
