"Memories, a lone in the moonlight"from Cats sad p rovocative
@Hatley (163772)
Garden Grove, California
October 4, 2012 4:36pm CST
on my just found an old discussion of mine "HappilyEverAfter is a Farirytale, right." I must have been in a sad mood remembering how lost I was when my hubby died of a heart attack brou ght on by
smoking three packs of cigarettes a day., but the thing that really just now upset me was the whole page of responses made that I had never commented back on.,
However right after I had made that discussion I was living with my son in a two bedroom apartment when he was laid off his job, could not get any kind of job,we used up all our savings on rent and were evicted, I landed here at Gold crest and here remain,.my son is wo king now bu t not making high w ages so we cannot get me out of here into a 2 bedroom apt. so here I am.
Going back on these old discussions can be fun or can be almost heart breaking your take fellow m lotters,. must one be b 
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tackle these old discussions?8 people like this
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
4 Oct 12
Wow, that is a hard one, because this had to have happened before we connected and that was a while ago. You could reply, but realize some may not respond back due to not being here anymore.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
hi yes after five years I just wondered if my comments were wasted but I felt so guilty for not having got back and checked when I got back on the net,b ut I was still feeling r eally bitter about the disruption in our lives not really a great excuse as I
did owe my responders a comment. so I am not sure how many are still here after all that time., many names were unfamiliar to'me but I plugged along,.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
5 Oct 12
I am going to send you a message on something I realized..
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
5 Oct 12
UGH!!!
I forgot, my PM isn't working AGAIN!!!!! I did contact admin, but they haven't fixed it yet...
Though I found that if you PM me, I can reply back, but I can't send out PM's...
I forgot, my PM isn't working AGAIN!!!!! I did contact admin, but they haven't fixed it yet... Though I found that if you PM me, I can reply back, but I can't send out PM's...1 person likes this
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
5 Oct 12
Occ.asionally, I have gone back to old discussions and the memories have flooded back with renewed force. Nogt such abad thing to relive memories. I thought that you were going to talk about ther show called CATS. I took my daughter when she was about 6 years old to see the musical CATS. It was just magical and the cats came into the udience and one of them danced in froon of Rachel and sang to her. She has never forgotten this wonderful show in this incredibly ancient theatre, A beautiful memory you have evoked for me with your post Hatley. Thank you
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
oh my gosh john that must ha ve really been bad for your father to say it was by Puccini.wow,. I saw Cats on a special television on the public channel and it was just perfect. I loved
that scene with the street light and the elderly cat singing
Memories,I am such a romantic my hubby used dto lau gh at me when I cried at sad movies.
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
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6 Oct 12
My dad knew he was at a performance of Cats - No, he thought Andrew Lloyd Webber had nicked it from Puccini. He was half right. Once on a satirical radio programme here in the UK, they poked fun at Andrew Lloyd Webber for his tunes being so much like tunes that had been composed by others.
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
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5 Oct 12
I wonder whether "Memories ..." would ever have been composed if Andrew Lloyd Webber hadn't heard Bolero and Madame Butterfly (The performance of Cats I attended was quite an early one, and David Cullen had cruelly orchestrated it in such a way that my late father leaned over to me and asked "Isn't this by Puccini?" - or words to that effect).
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@AmbiePam (121140)
• United States
5 Oct 12
I remember you being evicted and us not hearing from you for a LONNNGG time. And I tell you, it still bothers me that you have to be in a home. I know it's good you're in a place that gives you shelter, but I hate that a fully functional person has to be in a home. We were all worried about you for a long time.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 12
hi john you have a point there b ut the first month I d id a lot of wol and col too know what it did not change one thing
so I decided to make myself be happy.Maybe I was put here to help
my roomie, Lord Knows she needs a keeper. poor Kathy she is losing her memory now she got new glasses several months ago and she has lost them .we are all trying to find them for her but its hard as she could have put then anywhere. hope we d o luck onto them for her.She I think used my phone to order the Register then forgot now I a nd her are being billed bu t her sister helped us out and got the order cancelled. of course Kathu denies she did it.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
hi vandy yes it was truly hard as it made those times sort of live
again and smart people often do not revisit these b ut I was half way through so just fin ished it and decided t o come back to more cheerful times.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
hi john yes it is a bit like the old PenFriends concept which reminds me my grade school chum has found m e on the net she in South Dakota and I in Southern Calif. and she now refuses to email me personal things only because she learned I am a democrat, I feel so sad that damnable politics has to 'ruin an old friendship.we are both 85 and i was so pleased that she had contacted me,I could care less that we belong to different parties we were friends.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
i john yes it really is and why? we are all
Americans and all humans, I would have voted for Ron Paul had he made it. I never go near the politics interest as the only time I did I got so badly insulted i was in tears and oddly nobody ever deletes those insults.
s and oddly nobody ever deletes those insults.@JohnRok1 (2051)
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5 Oct 12
Ironic, that, with the people in practical charge of both parties having gone so far down the chute towards totalitarianism. Other than perhaps the odd person like Ron Paul and Mike Huckabee (Sorry they're both Republican, but you can probably find the odd old fashioned Democrat who's also been sidelined), where, nowadays, will you find people like Roosevelt, McGovern, Ike, etc?
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@ajk111 (2495)
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4 Oct 12
I belive old discussions bring back certain feelings and state of mind when you first wrote them. i welcome these memories, good or bad, as they are times of our life that reflect how we felt and times change but it is always good to remember bad as well as good times to keep us grounded.
I think you are both brave and bold to go back to old pages from 5 years ago, not many of us would with such a conscience.
Yet another feather in your cap. you continue to be a shining light in mylot.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
oh my bagarad yes thats it we have to balance things or the pain will make us ill.I just remembered in the fifth grade our teacher asked us to write a diary of a woman back in the days of covered wagons who was moving to the western states in a covered wagon caravan. I did such a good job writing it and imagining her having lost a child and her husband on the way, and digging those graves then moving on, being attacked b y Indians but finally achieving their goal that she gave me an A plus and also had the principal check my grades I was then skipped from fifth grade to the seventh grade,also was skipped from seventh to ninth grade.
I graduated at 17,
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Well, there are a lot of discussions I have started in the 6 yrs. that I have been a member here. I am sure if I went back thru some of my discussions I would find a lot of them not responded back too, or given best responses. Sometimes I will revive them just to see if I can get any new responses, or other times just give a Best Response and often get New ideas for another discussion as well. But memories good or Bad they will always be ours.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 12
hi tina and I think we should not cringe at the sad parts as they just make us better appreciate the g ood parts of life and for me there were a lot of good parts too.
@GardenGerty (169585)
• United States
5 Oct 12
I have not gone back to any really old ones, but I should. . . I know that there were lots I did comment on the responses, because I believed that the guidelines said not to. It took a lot of people a long while to prove me wrong. You are giving me an idea for part of this weekend.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
5 Oct 12
so sorry sweetie. thats a thought. ive never thought to go back to my oldest ones. i do wonder if i ever did not answer some because of a move or something. i dare say its possible before i learned about the unresolved thing. thats how i keep up these days. i imagine id be quite sad also but not sure as now i think is one of my saddest times ever. 
but now i might just go look. @Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
hi bu nnybon y ou know thats odd that I ne ver thought to check unresolved tab, how dumb of me,but when I first came to this place I was not a ha ppycamper,I did not want to be here and yet there was seemingly no other place for me,oh I d o feel for you and your daughter and that C. whats with nice young wo men who fall for losers like that? a mother instinct to help then or
remake them? hard to know,hang in there its bound to get better bunny
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Oct 12
Hello hatley looking to old discussions is like looking at old photos. Personally I feel sad to look personal photos because I always feel very nostalgic. And when I feel nostalgic I analize the goals I have achieved and try to feel faithful for the future.
By the way I play on keyboard this song from Cats " Memories".
Blessings Hatley... dainy
hatley looking to old discussions is like looking at old photos. Personally I feel sad to look personal photos because I always feel very nostalgic. And when I feel nostalgic I analize the goals I have achieved and try to feel faithful for the future.
By the way I play on keyboard this song from Cats " Memories".
Blessings Hatley... dainy
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
hi dainy thats a good way to look at old p hotos., Oh don't you love that song? and the actress who played the elderly cat was so good.I cried at that scene,.blessings Dainy happy my lotting too,.
Yes its nostalgia I had a photo my son found of me at 7 and he looked at 7 a lot like me too, our coloring is diffetent b ut our faces were so alike it was weird.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
hi ms. hatley,
i also have had my share of heart breaks and to remember them would always bring tears to my eyes.
but one has to move on with life hence they are just left imbedded in our memories. but these things at it happens to someone, makes him a much stronger person.
there is just this time when depression comes but you have to overcome it.
i say, i have survived them through the help of my family and friends.
i now have a new pet puppy.
ann
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Oct 12
hi tigeraunt oh m y what a cute puppy and he will make you
ha ppy too. yes my best friend and my son have always been there for me. and you cannogt just remember the good parts as life is not just goodm its gvood bad and indifferent so we know the g ood t oday as we have lkived the bad already ,thething is on a lot of old discussions I may have missed r esponses so I do owe it t then ti hunt for them too,.
unt oh m y what a cute puppy and he will make you
ha ppy too. yes my best friend and my son have always been there for me. and you cannogt just remember the good parts as life is not just goodm its gvood bad and indifferent so we know the g ood t oday as we have lkived the bad already ,thething is on a lot of old discussions I may have missed r esponses so I do owe it t then ti hunt for them too,.
@changjiangzhibin89 (17244)
• China
7 Oct 12
I am sorry for you. The old discussion took your thoughts back to the days when you had a hard time,which let you feel sad once again.Hope that Things will work themselves out.There is nothing like your keeping fit.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Oct 12
hi chang yes its okday now as life is nev er all happy happy joe joe
its a mix so t will hunt to find responses I never got to comment
to. and it should ultimately be fu n too.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 12
hi chang you are so right and I have to remind myself now and then as I used to be a pessimist so must train my self again to'
be optimistic alw ays.
@changjiangzhibin89 (17244)
• China
9 Oct 12
Yes,life is full of frustrations.You would feel better if you look on the bright side of things.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Oct 12
Hi Aunt Hatley! I think I remember that discussion. You were hurt and angry that your husband smoked his life away. That makes me sad too. It's never too late and go back and comment on it. Please don't feel so bad about this discussion getting list in the shuffle if your life's circumstances. You faced something that I feared myself. I feared being out out on the street. I was fortunate. I was out in s personal care home. I'm not there anymore but I was there for 7 months. The woman literally saved my life. She became my momma. I live her so much and thank her for the home she gave me as long as I needed it.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
hi there my madam :)
my perspective outviews of the matter pertaining of the discussion of life is that human should really undergo hardships in life to understand living the essence of it because triumph is much sweeter when can overcome shortcomings. so as i can see now, those were just bitter-sweet memories and part of the past and that even how painful those were, still we can make a smile through or faces because those people who were gone were being our better half.
about your worries of not commenting back on the comment replies of the good fellows here, well, for sure, they do understood how busy you are in tending you activities in life or even at mylot. cheer my madam :) the world has best wishes for you. God bless :O)
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 12
himissjahn thanks so much for your kind words. Yes really we need to have the bad things so we can appreciate all that is good and
even going back is okay even with the painful memories as thats part of life. I did finally get all those lost responses replied to although I do not know if they are still here the way people come and go now days.
even with the painful memories as thats part of life. I did finally get all those lost responses replied to although I do not know if they are still here the way people come and go now days. 