Is it right to make such posts ??

@maurya83 (923)
India
October 25, 2012 1:40am CST
I was hesitating to make this post but somehow i couldn't stop myself..I just want to see others' opinion on this matter. Mylot is more than just of a paying site for many of us. Its like a social circle for some where they can share their problems and thoughts, its like institute for some where they want to learn the things they like and many more purposes we have. right? I found many complaining and judgmental posts here about some other members (ofcourse without taking names), everyone has the right to express itself and its own way of thinking, if i am not agree i should just leave the page without giving any comment instead of making another offensive post. But some do this and when someone tries to show them another face of thing they ask not to reply in their post very rudely. Though its their way to express themselves but i dont find it right and nice for mylot.
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7 responses
@celticeagle (185978)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Oct 12
There always seems to be some very offensive remarks made on here. Luckily I miss out on them and only hear about them after the fact. It isn't right or nice for Mylot. But what do you do? I guess it is for Admin. to take appropriate steps. I would be careful in making any responses to these people.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
26 Oct 12
you are lucky that you miss out them, sometimes its very harsh.I think, We should not response to such posts..we can inform admin about this if it is beyond limits..
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Oct 12
celtic and maury if the responses are insulting mylot admins asks our help in reporting them as they "cannot be everywhere all the time."you are ri mins will delete both responses. you get insulted do not insult back simply report it.
@celticeagle (185978)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Oct 12
I think ignore the negative and hope the good survive. I wouldn't respond to a negative discussion. I would move right past it.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
25 Oct 12
We all have different definitions of what's right and what's wrong and that is why mylot have it's own guidelines here. With regards to offensive and war-freak like posts, my personal approach is to ignore and report. If I will reply to that post, it's like giving in to the thread starter's whim to gain attention, perhaps. Or to encourage like minded people because they see that it's trending when they post things like that. Or make it worse and it will just never end. Lots of reasons, lots of possibilities. And that is exactly what fuels trolls and bullies, as long as someone gives them attention, they will keep on doing it. So personally, it's ignore and report for me.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
25 Oct 12
Good to see the first response from you, yes you are right we all have different point of views about right and wrong. But being the most social creatures we should have some moral responsibility..As I said we all have different way of thinking and right to express it but we can't disrespect anyone just because we dont agree with it or s/he is not agree with us..You said your approach is to ignore and report for such offensive posts but do you really do it? Please dont take it as offensive, I am asking it very politely without any bad intention because I saw a very encouraging response from you in such one war-freak like post..Regards.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
25 Oct 12
I know what you mean, and no I don't take offense easily. Especially if I know that I am not guilty of anything. Personally, I don't think my reply to a certain post is encouraging. I preceded my reply with "I don't know who is that person youre referring to but..." then I gave it my point of view about one point and one point alone, on how I think some people shouldn't be mothers. And honestly, I don't have to go far because my neighbor next door is a classic example, but it's a long story. Anyway, did I mention any names, or told her she's right in bashing anyone? I dont think so. Her post was written on the very top, on top of her earlier posts which clearly indicate bashing at its finest. I saw it first before her earlier posts which are clearly offensive. And even if you check all my posts, I always tell that what I wrote are based on my own personal experience alone and my opinion without any prejudice or any person in particular especially if it's someone I don't even know. I may not be perfect, but I am the type of person who prefers to listen to those who have nice things to say than waste my energy hating someone I don't even know. So in conclusion, I still stand in my post in that particular discussion, that I agreed, some, again, SOME women shouldn't have been mothers. Like Casey Anthony, or like I said my next door neighbor. And just because I agreed on a certain point of a certain person doesn't mean that he or she already have my full support all the way. I do not base discussions here on who wrote it, but on what is written and with clear disclosure on to what I am agreeing to. I hope that clears it. and oh yes, I have done what I believe, ignore and report. If its a friend of mine, I send a PM first. I am not that "war freak". But if it's clearly a troll or whatnot, then, yeah, ignore and report.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
25 Oct 12
ok, you made it clear..:)
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Oct 12
hi maury no I do not think it is as why be rude or nasty of insul ting,. In the guidelines it tells us "to play nice. its no f un to be insulted ot have mean things said,." also we should report these as this is not the way mylot functions. we have a welcoming trabquil community and lets all keep' it that way, keep any insulting remarks stowed away and not heaped on undeserving my lotters.report insults as mylot admins asked us saying they cannot always be everywhere.we all want a peaceful place so lets all help keep it that way. now when it comes to diasgreeing I have had some wonderful discussions with responses that were respectful b ut that did disagree'with myideas and I loved it as they were kind but just showed me a new side to' my own ideas and I learned from that. but no rude mean disagreements such as Ex" where did you get that dumb idea blah blah" I got one response like that and just reported it and it was d eleted.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
31 Oct 12
Hello hately, thankyou for your response. Yes, we are here to make healthy discussions, and discussions means everyone can keep its point of view but in a healthy manner..when I start a discussion i also love to have different point of views from other members and if i participate in any discussion i try to keep my opinion decently no matter i agree or disagree.
• India
9 Feb 13
Mylot is a site where we express our opinion views frankly, we share our knowledge, tradition rituals, earning is a bonus; i enjoy this site.
• United States
25 Oct 12
I understand what you mean and it seems that last night there was a problem regarding this issue. On myLot, everyone stays friendly towards each other, even if we disagree on something. We don't bash others and everyone has a right to their opinion or post what they feel. However, when posts start to bash specific people or just have an angry, accusing tone, I don't think people should post. Mylot is about sharing thoughts, ideas, etc. in a nice, respectful way. If you can't be cordial to someone even if you disagree, then don't post. Or if you're just going to bash people, don't post either. There are other ways to express yourself that don't include slamming other myLot users.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Oct 12
hi courknee if the p oster does not give you a best response he or she is not reading right,.great response and maybe my lot should post it to remind all of us not to bash anyone,. thanks I agreee with you maurya
@maurya83 (923)
• India
26 Oct 12
exactly what i wanted to say.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
29 Oct 12
thanks for sharing this. it could be irksome. i wouldn't like it, myself.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
30 Nov 12
Personally you are hitting it on the nose here. I truly feel that there are many here asking for and seeking advice that do not want people coming here and judging them and knocking them down. I know there have been times we may not always agree or those who just want to disagree. Personally I agree with everyone else just like in life, if you don't have anything good to say don't say anything. This is not a place to start an argument.