Finding fault with mylotters' responses

Exactly, GG! That’s what I try to do. I love almost everyone I have mylotted with for a long time. I’ve gotten to know you all as much as anyone can know you on an online forum. I love to surround myself with caring people. Of course we may and can disagree with each other… that is normal… but we do it respectfully. We allow for differences in cultures and religions, and so forth. I just vowed to move on when I saw this person, and I was almost tempted to disagree with my comment in a respectful way, but I know I would be insulted for my effort so I moved on. I am one who will monitor her words. I, oftentimes, will read and reread what I have written and if I feel it is too direct, I will soften it. Or if I must be frank, I will let the person know I value him or her, but this is what I feel about what they have written. I lead in with how I feel about them… like, I love you dearly, but I must shoot straight from the hip here and tell you what I’m thinking. I hope not to offend and tell the person so. If I didn’t know the person so well, I would never be frank, and I might … more or less .. just tell them what they want to hear.

@ Hatley, I still consider myself to be new here and I try to treat everyone with respect! I think that it boils down to people just being rude,in my opinion! Makes me wonder what they're like not behind a computer screen?

We should all feel free to give our opinions. What hurts is when people are just looking for a fight.

Yes, there are some great folks here for sure. I just try to ignore the negative. Haven't had much problem as far as responses go.

There are some great folks here, and I enjoy talking to them. I refuse to cherry pick anymore when I come to discussions get controversial or they clearly want to flame the responders.

Great analogy. I never thought of those words, but they are the perfect ones.

Not only here but in daily life also....hmmm, lets make someone unhappy today! That's all they think about.

It's really important to treat everyone the way we want to be treated. On line and in life.

As in real life and on line we are bound to hurt some one's feelings whether we went to or not. It's all part of life, but if you can salvage any kind of friendship you will probably have to apologize and let it go. We can't live in fear of what we may say is going to offend someone one way or another. We just need to respectful of other people's feelings.

Oh yes, I do agree with you there. For instance, if someone explains something of a medical nature and explains it wrong, I will interject with the correction in my response. I will do it in a way that is not condescending to the poster. Or if a person is somewhat rude to someone else, I may come in and say something about their conduct... but I only do that if I feel the person will take what I said to heart.. otherwise I will just hit the (!) button.

Rarely, if ever would I hit the [!] button.

I refuse to get stressed out anymore. When I run into discussions where they always attack me, I will stay away. They might not be friends. I have responders that arent friends. I sometimes visit discussions from non friends. Ill stay away from those who try to flame you.

Yes, all of the above has happened to me before. I stay away from people who I know don't like my responses.

Ill walk away also. Especially when I have had dealings with a person and it was never good. I can disagree with people and I do it kindly. There are people though, where I will just avoid their discussions so there aren't any rude comments back.

I know. I get tempted a lot of times but I just don't bother leaving a response.

Hi Auntie! I agree Hatley, I will not respond if it is going to get me in the mood to say something unkind to a person... but if they are abusive I also will sometimes report if I actually think about reporting them. Sometimes I just forget about it, but someone else usually reports them if I don't.

I usually avoid conflict and try not to get caught up in childish games that adults on here sometimes play. I was in high school once with a bunch of catty girls and I'm glad to be away from all of that now and I don't need it on myLot. But if I do see a new user I try to nicely know that we don't conduct ourselves that way on myLot and we're respectful to each other and not rude or insulting. That's all I can really do other than just report abuse which I haven't done very often. For the most part, all the myLotters here are friendly towards each other, even when someone disagrees with an opinion. All it takes is just one person to come in and ruin it all. Today I've seen quite a few discussions about this incident yesterday and I think it's so shocking to us because this hardly ever happens. We're all friendly towards each other and we never say hurtful or insulting things. If someone doesn't understand the way we act on mylot, then they shouldn't be here because they'll only cause conflict and upset the other users. Honestly, I was offended that this user would come here and start badmouthing people and being rude to everyone. But, this person means nothing in my life so I won't let it get to me.

Right, and it's like telling the responder that they weren't invited to her discussion. There are some mean folks.

There should never be flaming.

Nasty is flaming people for their responses. Nasty is making fun of people for their responses. Thats my definition of nasty. We all must respect cultures and we should be respecting everyone here, but it doesn't happen. If they don't like your response they flame you, or attack you in some way. I've learned who has flamed me in the past and I will not respond to them. Some folks thrive on confrontations that include name calling and so forth. I don't enjoy it at all.

Well, you need to comment on your own discussions. You put up the discussion, so you need to host it in order to make any money from it. You don't get any money from our responses, you must comment back to make any money. If someone is abusive to you, just hit the (!) button and say why you are reporting the person. You can either comment or skip that person. I usually skip a person that is abusive to me, but I go on to comment to other responders... it's all about being a good host to our discussions. There is no point to put up a discussion if we don't discuss back and forth.

I saw that discussion. I mean... Why even post a discussion if she doesn't want opinions. She was nasty. I commented also.