Would you travel just to see her?
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
December 14, 2012 3:02am CST
Actually this question is for men but girls can share her stories too if they have experienced like this or a friend that they knew have the same.
My friend called me yesterday asking me if I can come with her to meet a man that she met online in a dating site. The man is from a far country and has a stable career and she told me they were chatting for almost 2 months now. The man told her that he fell in love with my friend and willing to be her fiancee. My friend told me that he wants to be with her on Christmas but my friend was not sure about her feelings for this man. She already told him that she hope not to expect too much because she is not really sure of her feelings, and he understand that. My friend was bothered she don't want to upset him if she doesn't like the man after all he was being in a very far country just to meet her and knows everything about her.
That's why this is my question to most men around here, do you really fell in love just in an online site? Are you willing to travel and spent the holiday with her even you are not sure if you are both compatible to each other? Are you also willing to accept things if the girl rejects your feelings? Girls can share too. Thanks
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15 responses
@celticeagle (159360)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Dec 12
I would definitely advise anyone wishing to meet someone they met online to do it in a public place and take someone with you. I would also advise people to take it slowly as far as a relationship goes and be careful. I don't think I would travel to meet this person and spend the holidays away from the safety and love of family and known friends. I would stess being careful.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Yes thanks, that's why she called me and ask me if I can come with her to met the guy.
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@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Here is my personal opinion about the question you've raised based on the story herein stated.
There are only few or rare instances when true love is present for a person just to meet someone online. I would like to question the motive behind the man loving the woman without knowing her background or something about her. It may be only a "lust" or it may be true. For the friend of yours, tell her to be careful because having a relationship is not a game of chance. It must be thought and prayed about it for a long time to arrive at the correct and best decision.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Hi good, I already warned her that's why she's asking for my help to come with her but of course she still have the one to decide about her future. Thanks
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
22 Dec 12
A close friend of mine met somebody like that except that he was from the same country as her but at some distance. She was madly in love with him and would not listen to anyone about being careful. She went to meet him and everything seemed to be OK for a while. Then she disappeared and was never heard from again. It is very hard to know the true character of people we see every day, so meeting someone from a completely different culture at a great distance is not to be undertaken lightly.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
I agree drannhh as an update we saw him last Christmas we knew that he is a nice guy but my friend told me that she don't have feeling on the guy and she told him honestly that she appreciated the time and effort he spent with her and we hope that he understand her.
@marguicha (215711)
• Chile
15 Dec 12
I think that online relationships are very risky. I also think that the most one can expect from that is a nice friendship although sometimes it turns into something else. But if a person wants to take the risk, let him do it. But the other person must not feel guilty because he/she does not correspond to his desires.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Yes mam I just hope that she is not chatting with the wrong guy with a bad intention to her, anyway I will be there to guide and help her in case.
@Pen_Pal777 (245)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
i don't believe a man can fall in love on line, it is impossible to feel love for someone we haven't met. unless he had been fantasizing about it. he may have developed some liking to the other person which he doesn't know. it is just like asking " how could you be able to love filipino food if you haven't seen or tasted it or even heard from it?"....let him come to meet your friend, and if all goes well after they meet, then they might fall in love with each other for good.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
Yhea thanks, maybe I will just tell her to accept the visit and try what' best for them.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Hi lynboobsy11, thanks for sharing this topic. Well, upon reading your article I, myself definitely attached and relatively speak about on herein scenario. I've been there on this also. I've meet my present girlfriend in Facebook through introducing by common friend. We've been a chat mate for almost for almost 4 months, and having an official commitment after 1 month. We have then already a so-called serious relationship that's born by a long-distance affair through utilizing the high technology which serves as our avenue for our constant communication. By then, I decided to visit her place with full of courage and bravery because i therefore believe that my REAL love brings me to her place and not my curiosity and other lustful intention to her. And then we eventually meet up with each other and those closeness that we've build up during our chatting time same goes in personal scenario, nothing will change rather it will additionally poured our REAL love and high respect to each other. Until now we strongly hold with each other even if we're far apart with each other. Trust, respect, loyalty and faith are the best tool in maintaining one's relationship into a strongest one.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Wow congrats for having a successful love story you have Gil, that's good that when you met your already have a relationship. Not like with my friend they are still in the process of knowing each other only the guy express his feelings to my friend but my friend still don't know if he has feeling with the guy. Since the guy is nice while they are talking and chatting she can't turn it down. But I hope when they see each other they will know the real feelings between them. Thanks for sharing your story.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
14 Dec 12
I would travel to see someone but not put too much stock in the relationship until we really got to know one another. Its easy to be impressed online....but alot of people don't really tell all the truth and there might be some surprises!
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
that's what she's been nervous for surprises the she will know when they met.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
14 Dec 12
If I were single and financially capable, I would like to go and pay her a visit if I do have that kind of feeling with her. Who knows that both sides would fall in true love with each other in person? So, yes, I would give it a try.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
16 Dec 12
For a start, I would have to know who this man actually is and if all he said is true. We can see the opposite party via webcam and Skype or whatever but we will never be able to determine just how true they actually are.
The next would be about the future of things starting with the fact that he is working somewhere away from your state and city. Later, he will be posted somewhere else as determined by his company and work contract. Also, I will need to consider the imminent fact of leaving the home country upon agreeing to a marriage proposal.
These considerations may be too distant but sometimes it has to be considered before we open the floodgates of a relationship of this kind. Not doing anything here or even ignoring the slight discomfort could bring about consequences that will inflict more hurts than dismissing the relationship in the beginning.
On the other hand, since it is the holidays I would suggest that he be invited over instead of going to a place unfamiliar to the both of you. I am sure having him over would be ideally safer than the other way round.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Yes my friend already plans about where they will stay she plan to introduce it to her family so she is secure if the guy has an evil plan for her.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
Still searching my dear...
Wohohohoho....ahahaahah
I'll let you know 
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
14 Dec 12
Yes I would and yes I did. And no I am not a man.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
Yes kitty I know you . Therefore your the one who travelled just to see him? Wow how sweet you are.
. Therefore your the one who travelled just to see him? Wow how sweet you are.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
I adore that man if he pursues to go here for your friend. I think that guy is very serious with his feelings because of the eagerness to see your friend not just on line but in person as well. I must say your friend is lucky enough because i think that guy can do anything and everything for your friend. He is willing to spend much money just to spend Christmas here and I think that's better for your friend to let that guy to come here in our country so that she might also assess herself if she really has a feeling with that guy.If not, then she can rejects that love of him in a nice way.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Yes kokomo that's what were thinking about we think that the guy has a sincere affection to her since like what you have said he is willing to spend too much of his money and time just to see her. I hope she can decide of her own when they already met.
@echo060201 (540)
• China
14 Dec 12
because i once travelled with him years ago, now i wanted to back to travel that city again, only for memory.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
ohh so it means you also met him online and you both traveled just to see each other?
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
16 Dec 12
I have a friend from Central America. He had been in touch with a girl from Europe for a long time and he finally decided to travel to Europe in order to meet the girl. The meeting did not turn out well and him and the girl from Europe didn't get along when they met in person. Afterwards my friend told me about the meeting and he was very sad that it didn't work out, but at the same time he was happy he decided to meet the girl because he knew that he tried and he knew that he didn't have to regret the lost opportunity later in his life. Maybe the man that your friend has met online feels the same way. There is no guaranty that the meeting will be a success, but maybe he wants to try no matter what.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Thanks for sharing your friend's story I'm sorry for him but I think it is better that they already verified their feelings up ahead so they can move on with their lives at least they try.
