Walking Backwards...

On that note, I would say that is never to early to start to set our sights upon the New Year. Minus well get a head start on planning for the New Year. Then, we will have a plan that will assist us to continue to move forward in our lives. This plan of setting goals for the New Year can keep us on track, so that we continue to look forward rather than back over our shoulder. Since I am not celebrating the commercialized holiday that is fast approaching, I will just say "Wishing you a Happy New Year filled with joy, peace, happiness, and prosperity."

(Mom )Jenny: The thought did not originally come from me. I just saw it somewhere and tried to reword it to make it more simple and clearer. Thank you anyway and I really do hope that it will bring an inspiration to readers. Also thank you for 'assuming' that I'm a good person haha! aireanna: Hi! Thank you for responding. It's really helpful to set a certain goal because it will keep us stay on the right track. It serves as a guide to us. Anyway, why are you not celebrating the holidays?

Why am I not celebrating the holiday? I guess it seems like odd behavior especialy when everyone seems to celebrate the holiday. Well, let's see I have not celebrated them for about 8 years now. The last time that I celebrate Christmas. The boyfriend and I decorated the tree on the weekend of our first anniversary. I decorated the apartment with homemade decorations and made a meal that we had for our Christmas celebration with my baby brother shortly before the Christmas Holiday. That was the last time that I saw my baby brother seeing as I am estranged from my mother because I refuse to play her games or put up with the emotional abuse that she dishes out. That year, I drove up to Phoenix to spend the Holidays with my father. Well, it only took the new step-mother three months to cause that relationship to deteriorate. My father could not handle my honesty that I shared that he never had been much of a father and his second chance at it, he decides that his new wife and what she wanted was more important. Oddly, it was because of him that I moved up here to Phoenix. They were never really there for me, so I have been pretty much on my own for several years now. I vowed the next time that tree went back up me and my boyfriend would be together sharing the holiday. Well, he kept saying he would move up here, but he never did move to Phoenix. I did dream of sharing the holiday with him this year and meeting his family finally. That dream was shattered in November when he decided to end the relationship after almost 9 years. We are trying to stay friends. The odd thing was that he asked me if I had put the tree up this year, and I said no. He of course did not realize that he asked that insensitive question on the weekend of our anniversary when once a long time ago we had decorated it together on that same weekend. I just could not face putting up the tree. I keep saying maybe next year. Even if I wanted to celebrate the holiday, there is no money for that luxury. I have been unemployed trying to find a job since September. The only thing that I wanted for the holiday was to get a job. Well, the one prospect that I had from a job interview from November they recommended another canidate for the position which I found out this past week that news. That means another month of trying to scrape together just enough money to pay the bills. I keep working online just trying to make some extra money. So, it is just me and Tigger. It does not seem like there is much to celebrate other than the mere fact that I have managed to somehow survive through what has been one of the worst years ever. The other day I found out that my ex-boyfriend is in the hospital with what could be a deadly infection. Thank God! He texted today that the infection that they feared could spread to his spine and brain had stopped spreading. This year has been the most challenging and difficult that I have ever endured in my life. I am ready for a New Year. I am hoping and preying that New Year brings with it a reprive from this unrelenting year that has only been filled with heartache, disappointments, and every challenging aspect of life that I could ever imagine. Sorry for rambling on so long. This is why I am not celebrating the holidays.

Yes, indeed.

I just had a big laugh! Nice one! Happy New Year! Ha ha!

Happy holidays too wolfie! Thank you for responding to my post and even so, agreeing on it. We should always take our past mistakes as a learning tool and do better in the future.

Every kid does that, walking backwards! Haha It's fun actually. Past bad experiences can really be a hindrance to our lives. But when taken positively, it will become a real help to us. Moving forward in tough situations is not really easy but moving backwards is more difficult. I hope that you keep going, keep it slow if you need to, but be sure to keep moving on.

Your first paragraph made me laugh. Well, we have one person with the tutorial on turning your head 69.5 degrees. Now, I am saying that it possible to walk backwards with enough practice. Maybe, we took the words a tad literal, but still I think we got the point. You are right we have to find a way of not letting the past control us. Little by little I am getting there. I am striving to stay positive even though it would be easier to think of all the worst cause scenarios right now. Then again, thinking positive serves more good than worrying over what might happen next.

Yeah, I know that you know all these things and how to deal with such real bad situations because you are a teacher, and before I knew you're a teacher you already had my respect to be honest so what can I say...ha ha. I just wish you all the best!

Hi! Thank you for sharing! I agree with you, practice will help in everything you wanna learn, not just walking backwards haha. I never thought that someone's gonna take it literally, but you do really have a point. Maybe for special purposes we can walk backwards, but using it as the "default" walking style will give you real trouble. Haha The problem of so many people is letting themselves be controlled by the past and almost forgetting what is ahead of them. I can not really tell because we have our own different struggles but I just hope that everyone will have a positive thoughts about life. Stay positive!

Haha You are right sir! Our past is also responsible of what we are right now. Keep moving forward, never stop looking for love... I hate to think that there are still exams left, I wanna forget about it for the mean time and just enjoy the vacation!

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Haha Thank you Sir Hatley! Did you really do walking backwards to loose weight? I didn't know this.

Yes, it is very important to continue to seek personal growth that allows us to continue to move forward in our lives.

Skyandgrassplot: Thank you! Allowing our selves to walk back wards is also fun, and helpful at some points so I say do not completely disallow yourself in wlaking backwards, I hope you got what I meant. Aireanna: You are right, our past is also very helpful in our personal growth.

The new year is almost here! That means that I can finally put behind the year 2012, which has been down right a brutal year. I feel like the only thing that I have managed to do this year is survive. So, I am looking forward to the coming of a new year that is bright with endless possibilities. I am already thinking about goals to get my life back on track, and begin to move forward through life with a new purpose. How about you have you already begun thinking about goals for the new year? Are you anticipating the coming of a new year with excitement for the endless possibilities and opportunities that a new year brings us?

Yes, I guess I was pretty vague. Part of the story is contained in my post regarding why I am not celebrating the holidays. You are right I just need to stay positive. Some days that is easier than others. Still it is a work in progress like all things in life.

Randomarts: Thank you for giving a meaningful continuation to the quote I shared above. Just get over with the past and make sure not to repeat it again. Areanna: I'm sorry to know you had a brutal year, I don't get it exactly but you must have been undergone so many tough situations this 2012 but what matters most now is how you're going to start the new year. I hope you stay positive and be better this coming 2013.

You are welcome and thank you too for visiting my posts. Past can not be changed, I think it's okay that we should try planning for the future basing on our past experiences. Learn from past mistakes and improve more those things that needs improvement. Merry Christmas too!

Mavic, wow! I did not realize that the human head was designed to allow you to turn your head that much. I have neck issues from an old work injury, so I try not to turn my head like that as it only aggravates an old injury. Yes, it is good to look back as long as the looking back is reflective. It is one thing if the gently look back over your shoulder takes you one step back with it assisting to rocket you forward 3 or 4 steps. Just as long as the progress that we gain by looking back is greater than the time that we lose in glancing backwards. I mean sometimes you can get stuck in looking backwards saying that you want things to be like the old days rather than facing the future. So just as long as it is not one step forward two steps backwards, I think it is fine to look over our should from time to time. We need to strive to live in the present, while looking to the future. I think Miss Charlotte in Gone with the Wind sometimes had the right idea when she would say that she would worry about that tomorrow, and live today.

Corection: I meant to refer to Miss Scarlet O'Hara in Gone with the Wind. I believe they lived in Charlettetown, which I think is why I got mixed up when writing. Wow, it has been a long time since I watched that movie.

Thanks Allison. yes, you can.. no old no young... I thought it is just 45 degrees too... you can do it... I tried it and I did... I am old too. OK this is how to do the 69.5 degrees head turn.... straighten your spinal cord (back).. shoulders follow a bit back, then look at the back.... you will see the rest from the 45degrees. that reminds me... so to turn to 69.5 degrees behind you, you need to stand tall and be proud... and look behind. (hmmm does that make sense?)

That is interesting thought because so often we want to fix every mistake, and this actually has more of a negative effect upon things than rather learning from the lesson and moving forward. Any good strategies that you can share for setting a schedule? I am trying to improve with time management and schedule, so that I can be more productive. The one thing that I am slowly learning is that you cannot get everything done in a day or everything that is on your schedule; then you just need to strive to do the priorities and reschedule those items that are of lower priority to another day. This seems to be helping me feel more of a sense of calm that I can plan it all out, but if the plan does not quite work out the way that I had hoped the contingency is that I can reschedule somethings to the next day, next open slot, or move them to the following week.

Yes, I suppose that accepting the fact that we made the mistake. Vowing to do better in the future as we have learned from that particular mistake. Forgiving ourselves for the mistakes that we made, and moving on is most likely the best course of action.

Sunshinesophie: Hi there! Courage is really important in life. If we allow ourselves to be destroyed by our past mistakes then it's like we are destroying our own lives. Having a goal is important as it will give us guidance. Aireanna: We can not really fix every single mistakes we have made. Maybe we can fix some but not all. Accepting it will help more I guess.

That is an interesting thought to ponder. I think that if that is happenning you need to stop to reset your goals because something is fundamentally wrong if you are just going through the motions without those actions being something that increases your hapiness in life.

The trick is using our heart to lead us to our dream, while using our brain to plot a logical course to the destination that our heart desires.

Homeymama: If that's the case then there's gonna be a big problem. You have to balance everything, take everything into consideration. One of the most reasons why people are being hard up to move on is the heart. We should not forget that we also brains and so we should use it. Aireanna: I agree with you. If this happens then the person should stop going for a while and reset everything.

Hi! Thank you for dropping by and welcome to myLot. As they say, experience is a teacher as well. Happy myLotting!

Thank you for the simple but straight-to-the-point response. Merry Christmas!

Hi Ifa! Thank you for visiting my humble post. This thought really did not come from me, I just saw it somewhere and reworded it a little bit. May you explain what you mean on the last sentence you wrote?

Been there, done that! Why do you want to be just a paralegal? You should become a lawyer and not just a paralegal. Good luck and may you have a brighter future ahead of you.

Toniganzon: Yes, we should think more of where we are heading, just learn from the past but don't let yourself remain there. May you also have a prosperous 2013! Storygirl: Dreaming is important as it will guide you to every step you make. I hope the best for you. Who knows, after some time, you will realize that you want to be a lawyer. Don't forget God in your life.

Thank you but I have to say, this thought did not come from me personally, I just saw it somewhere and it hit me, so I thought of posting it here, I just reworded it a little so as to make it more simple and easy to understand.

Well said! I can't imagine people who are living in their past. Haha Is there really such thing?

Hi! Thank you if this post helped you. Credits go to whoever came up with this thought, I just saw it somewhere and just made some "rewordings" just to make it more simple.