are you as open or talkative online than in the real world?

@Cutie18f (9551)
Philippines
December 27, 2012 9:53am CST
It is easy to classify members here who are very open or very talkative from those who only say a few words on this site. Is this online behavior of yours compatible with your real-life self? I wonder. Personally, I think it is easier for me to talk and talk here than in real life. There are times though when I could be a lot noisier in real life but this is very rare. Is it safe to say then that we have dual personalities? One is our online self and the other is our real-world self? Or are you the same online and offline?
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@Rickmar (28)
• Jamaica
27 Dec 12
I'm more talkative online than in the real world. Maybe its because I'm always talking to people that i don't know.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
28 Dec 12
I also think most people are more talkative online than in real world. One of the reason is that in the virtual world like online most people does not know each other and may not see each other after chatting.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Yeah, it's the element of anonymity that makes everyone here so expressive.
27 Dec 12
I'm more open online. With such anonimity it's so much easier to display my feelings without any sense of repurcussions. Obviously in the real world, people feel very offended and suffer heavy consequences. Don't get me wrong, if there is a time and place for expressing my thoughts and emotions I would be happy to oblige, however, that isn't the case.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Hi Kita. It is very true. It is the element of not knowing us personally that makes us open up so easily here.
@anklesmash (1412)
27 Dec 12
I wouldn't go as far to say I have dual personalities though my online and offline personality isn't identical.My main difference between personalities is that I am a lot more open.Though you could probably say that we all have multiple personalities as we alter our personalities to fit into the social situations we are in.My lot is probably just one of many social situations we are in which we adapt are personalites in order to fit into,I probably do this as being open helps me be a successful member of the my lot community.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I think you got it right, Ankle. Being able to adapt into the situation is important online or offline.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I am not the same online and offline. Online I am more confident to express my ideas, thoughts and opinions to others. I don't have to worry about being heard because anyone can read my words and understand it whenever they want to. I am much better at expressing myself through writing than when in speaking. Offline, I am not that talkative but I talk a little and I have a very low voice. People sometimes ignore what I say or just can't hear me. Maybe they have auditory problems? or they are too loud to hear what others are talking about. When with friends, it's much easier for me to talk but other people, not so, especially people who are very good at showing how uninterested they are in me.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Hi Aja! Most people here fall in the same category. More talkative online and less offline.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I'm not surprised. It's much easier to express ourselves in writing in a place where nobody knows us. If people judge us online, they don't know who we are so we don't feel that threatened.
@deiusz (193)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 12
the positive side is that people can share what he think even in real world may be not like it, we take it as positive sides. There is must be some reaon why that people do like that, it's of dual personality as you said, just we dont know what the reason is. May be you can ask yourself if you know the person, may be as you friend. I believe for whatever one person do is came from what the reason is, because is must be a reason for this.
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@Sanher (61)
• Uruguay
28 Dec 12
It may depend, some people very talkative in real life, just don't like typing so mini, they prefer to talk and talk and keep talking haha, and some people who is less talkative may prefer typing to express him/herself, so it depends on the individual. Here are people as talkative online as they are in real life, and viceversa.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Dec 12
I love to write online. I am often very active and I write a lot. I love to express myself on the internet and when I start writing about a topic that I am interested in I can write paragraph after paragraph In real life I am usually a talkative person so I don't think that my online personality is that different from my offline personality. Sometimes I am not in the mood to write much or I don't have the energy to write much, and in real life I am the same way. Some days for instance if I am tired I don't talk much in real life, but the rest of the time I am pretty talkative both online and offline
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Hi Porco. Well, you're rare.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
27 Dec 12
It all depends whether I'm around people that I know or not. Like when I'm working I'm talkative to the people that I work with a lot but I'm not really that good at meeting new people or starting up conversations. Here on mylot it is a lot easier because I don't know anyone on here but there are already topics started for me so I can just add in whatever I have to say. I'm really not that good at overall online conversation though. I rarely post anything on facebook or talk to anyone on there and I don't use instant messenger either.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I'm sort of like that also Jambi. I am quite noisy when the people around me are familiar to me.
@gmkk1986 (471)
• India
27 Dec 12
I would prefer to talk face to face than online. Where I feel more comfortable and able to analyze the person. Talking to face to face even via cam will be fine where we can have much eye contact.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
HI GM! Yes, I think it is more preferable to see the person's face.
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I do have a dual personality or character. At facebook for instance, I am painted or looked upon by many as an elderly energetic macho man when in fact I am that crooked, lame-walking senior citizen lol. My low-profile reality dos not depict me online... hehehe. Cheers!!!
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
In fact, because of my articles on http://www.triond.com/users/Wilfred+C.+Basquial, I have received private messages from not quite a few lonely individuals out there asking what I do, my status, and asked permission to befriend me... hehe just some careless comments to cheer you up.
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Dec 12
I am not very talkative offline because I don't like my teeth and I don't want people to see them so here I am more talkative. I am an open person, people tell me I wear my heart on my sleeve, that is no different online or off. I find it much easier to talk here though since no one can see my teeth here and I don't have to open my mouth to talk here. Lol.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
That's a very funny reason for not talking Loving. I do not usually analyze the teeth of the person I am talking to. So I would probably not notice your teeth.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
27 Dec 12
I think I am more open here in mylot more than in any other site and in real life. I find comfort talking about myslef and opinions to strangers because I'm sure they'd careless. They might accept my opinion or not but the'd be not easily feel offended like people who are closer to me.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Vernac, you are so right.
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
wonderful discussion for me you got here, after all the weeks i have been here i find this one very interesting, because it concerns me and keeps me wondering too, now here i go, i cannot express myself well when i talk than when i write, i do not know why. and another thing is, i am Filipino living in the Philippines, but i wonder why i feel comfortable expressing myself in English. even in other networking sites i express myself using the English language. i am more of a listener, but i am not shy, i can talk if i have to talk and express my views and i am a friendly person and very easy to get along with. i love to write my views better than voicing it out if given the choice. if i am allowed to ask here, do you have any idea why i am what i am when it comes to that? any psychological terms you knew of?
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
Hi Pen, thanks for the interesting response. I am also a Filipino and English is only my second language. However, we need to use English online or people won't understand us, most especially here on Mylot. You are perfectly normal and if you read the responses to this discussion, you will notice that many members are like you. Mylot provides us this great avenue to express ourselves on different issues.
@jiiiiin (586)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
I think I talk more online than offline coz I'm a listener offline. I rather listen to the people around me than to talk.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
Hi Ji! So in here you can vent everything.
@jiiiiin (586)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Yes, i think so. It is required here to be talkative to earn money but in offline i talk whenever i just want. :D
@peavey (16936)
• United States
27 Dec 12
I talk a lot more online than off. I'm pretty quiet most of the time when I'm offline, but I can get pretty wordy when I'm communicating online! Part of it depends on how much energy I have because it takes energy to think about what to say. (At least for me.)
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
Hey there, Pea. I think most of us feel the same way. We need energy to communicate with others.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 12
I am totally the opposite, you wouldn't recognize me if you saw me in person, I am more confident, comfortable and open about me online, but in person you couldn't meet a more shy, untrusting, and aloof person! The only person that I confide in is my mum and my therapist, I don't talk to strangers, and when I am out I have my headphones on so no one can talk to me, I have actually been called 'stuck up' and 'intimidating' So kinda like Jekyll and Hyde, I am Jekyll online and Hyde in real life. I can be my true self on line, and I can be myself at Mylot.
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
27 Dec 12
I think I am pretty close to being the same. Online I do try to guard some things about myself because I am very wary of identity theft and such. But I am open enough that if, for instance, someone who knows me from the real world were to be here and read some of my discussions and responses, they most likely would recognize me. In the real world and online, here for instance, I can be most of the time what I like to describe as being almost compulsively honest about most things. This is not always a good thing.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
I know, Stealthy. Too much honesty can often be our source of problems.
@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
The personality depends on the situations, I can be a talkative off and online. But it varies on the my mood too. Some people don't have the gift to be conversant either in writing and speaking in the outside world.
@Otanetix (508)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I think overall I am the same online and offline in terms of my personality. The only difference is I am less prone to embarrassment online because I am not directly speaking to people in front of their faces. With this, I feel more secure about what I say. All the things I speak about online and offline are the same, but the audience is different. When I am offline, I speak to a limited amount of people. On the Internet, I speak to a vast number of people also online. So basically, when I am offline, what I talk about reaches only a few people not only because of the limitations of being in the real world but also because I am more concerned about who I talk to offline.
• China
28 Dec 12
I am almost the same online or offline, too talkative. But luckily, i have so many friends online or offline who are willing to talk with me.