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@indahfth (11164)
Indonesia
December 29, 2012 9:56am CST
A wife, whose husband married again, saying: I have no problem with affection from humans. So, husband is only a complement in live. And eternal love only God love. What do you think, about that statement?
10 responses
@ifa225 (11090)
• Indonesia
1 Jan 13
Hi Indah, maybe she had gained the top of the love by loving God but me, I still need human affection and I can not bear to see if my husband has another wife
@ifa225 (11090)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 13
As you know that it is painfull so don't expect it just enjoy when you get it try to maintain it but let it go when you lose it
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 13
If I could go. I can not go now, because there are some things, which makes me not able to go.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 13
Yes. I also still need, affection from humans. But affection from human, is only temporary, and very painful. Affection from human, can not be expected.
• India
29 Dec 12
actually i couldnt understood your question.? can you explain it with somemore word. so that we can respond you very nicely
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 12
Sorry, if you do not understand what I mean. I'll try to explain. A wife whose husband has married again, make a statement, does not care about human love. Husband used as a complement in life. And the love of God, which is ignored. So, the wife considers her husband, just as a complement in life.
@bellis716 (4800)
• United States
30 Dec 12
Do you mean that there was a divorce and the husband remarried, or that he took a second wife wile still married to the first one?
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 12
They are not divorced. Her husband is married to nother woman, but she still be his wife. So having two wives.
@zandi458 (28107)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 12
olish for women to allow husband to take another. I think women who say such words when husband marry again is only self pacifying and
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 12
But every woman has their own reasons, to accept her husband married again.
@julyteen (13253)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Jan 13
If your costume allowed husband to married again, they should put on their mind that they have responsibilities from up above to sustain the need on their wives not only on their financial aspects but also their love.
@julyteen (13253)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Jan 13
But some husband never think their responsibilities after they got married again.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 13
Responsibility, of course, be done. It's just that, problems will arise, where they have one, feel less fair.
@UmiNoor (4369)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 13
If the husband has no problem with affection from humans, as you put it, why does he have to remarry? Why not just stay with the first person he marries. The truth is he wants love and affection from another human being and that is why he's not satisfied with only one wife. If he claims that his life is only to seek eternal love from God, then he shouldn't even be married and stay celibate all his life. In Islam, it's not a must (wajib) for a man to marry more than once. It's his choice. If he can afford it physically and emotionally to support more than one wife then by all means marry up to four wives. But if he can't then it's best to remain with only one wife. Most men cannot be fair to all his wives and cannot afford to have more than one wife but they still want to because they say it's what the prophet Mohammed (pbuh) also did (sunah). I can only say that when it comes to this matter, they always quote the prophet but when it comes to other more serious matters, they don't follow the prophet.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 13
Yes. You are right. I do not know, what else should I say, on this issue. I'm so confused.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
hi, polygamist usually in Islam religion,which they allowed a man to marry many woman as long as they can sustain the needs of that woman and family, but to other religion they only allow one partner for their life like catholic.but even a polygamist had many partner he still have one God.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 13
Yes. Despite having more than one spouse, but God is only one. However, there are many women who can not accept polygamy.
@jaiho2009 (39174)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
From what I understand, there are beliefs that observe polygamy. It's hard to understand such situation- but this is happening in reality. I can't tell directly my comment on this matter because I don't have enough knowledge regarding beliefs/congregation/people who observed and accept polygamous relationship.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 12
Yes. It is very difficult to be understood and accepted. I'm trying to understand, and accept, but I never could understand, or accept. There was only disappointment. And finally, everything has to be accepted with sincerity.
@Yheart (496)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 13
I believe such thing. In my opinion, a person like that is truly exist (although it's very rare nowadays). It means she married in the name of God, she married because of God, and she loves God more than her husband. So, if I met a wife saying that statement I'd believe her. I wouldn't say stupid things to her, and I think it's good that she could think that way.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
29 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i have always felt that when we are married then it should be our sole responsibility to take care of our partner and should never involve anyone in our love life. God is always there with us and we should understand the meaning of love and should not encourage polygamy. What say?
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 12
Love is very difficult to understand, and be understood. Even smart people, will never be able to understand love. Polygamy, it should not happened, if the love is there, and loyal. But, in fact, som women have to give up her husband to marry another woman. That is the reality.
@misjoseph (162)
29 Dec 12
I really don't understand everything you stated but to my knowledge this is totally wrong and should not be said a tall... this man probable have his reason for saying such things... but i strongly believe he is wrong.... and also a bad influence... Happy New Year
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 12
For those who disagree, polygamy is wrong. But, for those who agree with polygamy, they feel right, and they have their own justification.