Move to another country for Love??

You mentioned in your response that you lived in the US for 12 years? Why did you move back to Mexico if you don't mind me asking. And, did you move back while you knew this person? I'm just asking because your question is a hard one to answer not knowing all the facts. When was the last time you saw him and spent time together?

Hi maria. Well this is the first time I came to know about this love of yours. Well it is a very difficult choice to make in your case. It would be very risky to leave everything because if things do not turn out as you expect them too, then what would you do? What I suggest you is that, do have a back up in case you decide to go to USA and always consider the worst case scenario. Anyways have a nice day .... -=SuperShames=-

Fact is: women mostly do, men seldom. Men find their life, family, etc way more important and are not that easily give up on it. If I would do so, I would only do it if I am able to manage over there alone. Which means I need a job/money to be on my own. I will never give up my life, house, work, income, securities for a man anymore (yes I did). I don't want to depent on someone who can kick me out any minute. I would also not do this for a man who is not willing to do the same for me.

You have met him before and you know him? You would not be going there to meet him for the first time? What about your son, Miguel? Would he go with you? Stay with his Dad? Questions, questions? If I didn't know him that well, maybe I would go to his home country and get to know him before making a decision to be with him. But sure, it's definitely a possibility. My daughter met her husband over the internet and they (in my opinion) have a great relationship. He is from Egypt (Cairo) and of course she left the USA to go meet him in Cairo. Anything is possible Maria. We just have to look for those possibilities when the opportunities present themselves.

Can you not do like a trial period in the US? If you can afford it, why not try staying one or two weeks/months (depending on how life is for you) and try it out with that guy?

I live in the UK, my partner was from Boston, MA. We quite accidentally met online (it wasn't a dating site - nor were we looking for anything, both of us fresh out of disastrous relationships) and hit it off straight away. We felt an incredible pull towards one another and would skype every day for 6-10 hours, time allowing, even with the time difference involved. We both felt like we were walking on clouds. This continued for a little over a month. Then, she quit her job, packed up and came to the UK. She stayed with me for 3 months and it was like a dream. Then, as she couldn't apply for her visa from the UK, she went back to the States for a little over a week to sort it out. Now she's studying to get her Masters in a city 2 hours away from mine, we spend most of the week together and we just had our 7 months celebration yesterday. She's the best thing that ever happened to me and I find it so incredible that she jumped on a plane and gave us a shot despite the distance and difficulty involved. On that note, moving to another country is not easy - practically as well as emotionally. We have had an abundance of experience with that now. I think one needs a strong relationship in order to face those difficulties, and you will have to face them together. Also, you will have to be prepared for the consequences if it doesn't work out. Jenn had a back up plan - to travel in Europe, which she wanted to do for awhile now - but it very quickly became clear that we are working out more than fine and so she stayed. And I agree, it's a decision that should be made together... me and my partner never formally discussed what was happening and we both just king of went along with it, but then we 're both pretty easy and spontaneous and we we're crazy about each other. I think the outcome will differ hugely depending on the couple. Whatever happens, good luck, and make sure you have a safety net to fall back into if you go through with it and it doesn't work out.

Would he consider moving to be near you? My husband moved a ways to be near me when we first met. It depends on who can make the move the easiest and what you would do with your property you own in Mexico City and what you would live on if you worked in the US. How about a long vacation either you going there or him coming to see you, or both, before either of you move.

It's such a hard decision. Ask yourself what you want from him. Ask yourself what you want from life. Ask yourself what you want from a relationship. Why is your son living with his Dad? Can he come and live with you in Mexico? You need to weigh everything up and then make the decision to do what's right. Such a difficult time for you.

I would do it, Marìs. I would give it a try. But you must move in such a way that you do not depend on him for your daily bread. It is important that you have an economic independence while you see if it works.

If you do a decent pie and chips, I might consider it. I am more interested in food than in love these days. I have realised that a hungry heart can survive longer than a hungry belly for sure.

It's up to you, I know a few people who have moved to another country, province you name it. They are there a few months, and movee back, or end up stuck there. Talking over the computer, and being with this person in real life is completely different, they can be completely different.

In reality,you need to think about your fortune.Is it easy for you to leave everything behind like career and family?If yes,then give it a try.To move to another city, you need to prepare lots of things,where you live,where are you going to work and most importantly,you need to rebuild a social network in a new place.Despite of moving to another city, you can communicate with him by other ways(internet and cellphone).So if you think you can overcome these problems,then go ahead and find you own love.

Well,I think you should come over to his city and get a better undetstanding of him ,maybe he is the right one that you wanted.Give both of you a chance to move one step closer.Wish you happy.

It depends on the situation. If you have a lot of problems in your current place then you have to settle it first before you go there. Think about what kind of life you will be having there... Will it be nice there? Will I benefit there? Will I have income there? You have to be absolute with your decisions and think about them clearly.

Hi! I will not move to another country for love. I will try to find out (if I need to) my love in my own country. My country has vast population and if need be, I will find out a suitable match here. (Having said that in reality I do not need to find love because am already married)

No problem at all. Follow your heart not only your mind. It's a practical move if you move to another country because of the person you love. Of course, you want him to be your husband. How it happen if you will stay at your place. Besides, husband make a decision rather than you his wife. I think his work place is in the STATES

hi maria ouch thats a toughie as how do you feel right now about him? And in making a movie you are giving up your livihood in Mexcico too and what would you d o in the USA but have to look for another job or buy a cafe ant run it. Right now would you love him enough to get engaged and move there?I live in the USA and of course I love my own country but have you family in Mexico and how do you yourself feel about moving to our country? I hope we can help you decide but ultimately it has to be your own choice of course. You are young yet and it would be wonderful for you to find a really great guy who loved you and cared for you and was good to you too.If I was in one country and my hubby to be had been in another the way I loved him I wo ld have moved to be where he was y es..

Hello my friend! moving to another place or country for love is okay!.... that is..if what you really feel for him is love and that you are considering him as your lifetime partner.... you have mentioned that marriage is still out if the picture as of now, maybe in the future? or are considering that thought with him? you can discuss things like where to stay after you get married (if you really are), whether it will be in his country or yours? you know this things are very important to consider.... back to your first question, YES moving to other place for love is okay as long as you really want it...no regrets in the end... just like me, i moved to my husband's place after we get married. am happy now, i have no regrets... am settled with my work, so does my husband... ;-) good luck to you my friend.

Thanks a ton for sharing your discussion. Well that is great to hear about your long distance love and i know how it feels like when your loved ones are very far away from u. To be very honest, i have always felt that the decision to move abroad for love should be a mutual decision otherwise the other person might not be comfortable with the other one's decision to move. If u marry him then may be the decision would be apt. What say?

One man come in the name of love One man come and go One come he to justify One man to overthrow . In the name of love....What more in the name of love.... Remember this song from U2? I will, why not specially if I don't have to sacrifice other people like leaving my children and all. Of course I don't have children so i will not be sacrificing anyone here. I will...if I love a guy and there will be no problem for me in leaving the country. I think I can. If I have no more responsibility except for myself.