My Son Left Crying

TheRealDawn

@dawnald (85137)

• Shingle Springs, California

11 Feb 13

I'm sorry to hear that. :(

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TheRealDawn

@dawnald (85137)

• Shingle Springs, California

11 Feb 13

That is a really long time for ALS. I'm glad she got to see her children grow up. And some people should keep their mouths shut.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

Her children were three and six when the disease started. She prayed to see them grow up. ne is not at University in Florida and the other has just begun college. Her husband was her carer and was brilliant the whole time. I have the utmost respect for him and love too. I got mad at Church today as someone told me not to cry. Spo I snapped back that she was worth crying over. She was so beautiful. Only ate raw food for years. Not a wrinkle on her face and in her mid fifties. A beautiful butterfly.

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jillhill

@jillhill (37353)

• United States

10 Feb 13

I miss them very much....thank God for skype though. I only get to see them about once a year....and that is too long to wait between visits. One daughter lives in CAlifornia....one in Georgia....a whole country apart. I am going to California soon though....and then they will be home for a summer visit. Next Christmas they will all be home and that will be the first time in about 15 years that they will all be here!

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

10 Feb 13

Oh , so you have it hard too? Horrible isn't it? Hard to have so miuch time bewtween visits to see them. Of course, I was with him in London last year so was pribileged to see a lot of him but I still miss him. This is just a fact. I am not a clingy ,me first, me first mother.

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HULYO

@julyteen (13252)

• Davao, Philippines

11 Feb 13

My son is a newly born but everyday I miss him. I leave my wife and son everyday to take care our family business. The reason I want to go home early it's because of my son. I want to see him everyday

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HULYO

@julyteen (13252)

• Davao, Philippines

12 Feb 13

I don't know why I prepare to see my son first rather than my wife

I think it's because my son is coming from my own blood and wife is not. I only meet her somewhere else

@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

I can understand that! My husband used to rush home and literally run to the crib to see our son before he greeted me.

Take care of your family and best wishes to you all

ANTIQUELADY

@ANTIQUELADY (36440)

• United States

11 Feb 13

Bless both your hearts, i wish he could come home & work for both your sakes. I am very blessed to have both my sons here but when the oldest was in the Navy it broke my heart every time he had to leave so i can relate to what u are feeling. don't want to disillusion u but your son may never learn to trust again. Been there done that. When u are hurt as deeply as he was it would be hard to do. Hope he can someone of these days to love & trust..

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ANTIQUELADY

@ANTIQUELADY (36440)

• United States

12 Feb 13

I truly hope so to.

@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

As usual, you hit the nail on the head - this is what I am scare of - that he may never trust again. But he would make a wonderful Dad - so much patience with my three grands that are here. Now when he comes home, he says all has changed because his friends are married and have children. I do hope that it turns out well for him.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (189927)

• Boise, Idaho

10 Feb 13

That is sad. Ya, they are adults and we can't tell them what they should do anymore. Maybe he will get discusted with not being with his family and will move back. Maybe this visit was just what he needed.

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adults

move back

celticeagle

@celticeagle (189927)

• Boise, Idaho

10 Feb 13

But you can't push him. Have to see what he feels when he gets home. Give it some time.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

You are so right. Professionally he os a tough busines man but really is a big teddy bear - soft inside. So very nice a man.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

10 Feb 13

I hope so, He has gone far from being brought up on a banana farm to General Manager of a big hotel in the heart of London. But sometimes that is not enough for happiness. I honestly feel that he should come home and then he would meet a lovely lady from this Island and marry her.

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Jkct02

@jkct02 (2874)

• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia

11 Feb 13

My son is working in another city where he graduated. He could earn more there than in my home city and the prospect of career advancement is greater there for him. He comes back to visit us two or three times a year. I have asked him to come back more often from now on as his grandmother is getting older. Being my mother's favorite grand son, his visit always made my mother happy. Yes, we do miss our son when he is not with us.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

13 Feb 13

He loves and works in the U.K. and I am in Jamaica. The fare is so expensive

@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

I jus usually see this son once a year or twice at the most. It is awful when they are not around. I can understand how your mother misses him.

Jkct02

@jkct02 (2874)

• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia

12 Feb 13

Being parents, don't we all want to be together with our children forever? Of course it is not always possible but that is surely the wish of the most parents if not all. remembering our own parents, we must visit them more when we still have the chance.

cutepenguin

@cutepenguin (6430)

• Canada

11 Feb 13

My son is still a toddler and fortunately I live in the same city as my parents so I see them every week. It's hard in this society where everyone moves around so much but at least your children know they always have you to come home to.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

You are right as they come home very often. My daughter and her husband come most weekends

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Amber

@AmbiePam (120999)

• United States

12 Feb 13

Um, I volunteer to marry your son! I'm sure he's great, but I just want you as a mother-in-law.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

13 Feb 13

lol I'll have to send you his photo. @ Hollyn - trust ne - I am ancient

sid556

@sid556 (30953)

• United States

11 Feb 13

Hi Cynthiann, I have 4 grown daughters. Three of them are in the area. Two of them I see almost daily. The oldest lives about 35 mins away but our work schedules and all are such that I don't see her as often as I would like. My youngest moved to Vegas when she graduated. She is working and earning good money there as a manager in a bagel place. She came home for the holidays and it was wonderful but I miss her so so so much. She is talking of moving home in a few months but we'll see. I'm sorry that your son is so disillusioned with love at such a young age. It's true that there are a lot of people both male and female that are not good relationship material. But there are also many who are. I hope that he at least gives it a chance. I've had some nightmare relationships too but I still date. I don't feel it is fair to judge the entire species on the handful that I've experienced. One thing that I have learned is to move slower into the relationship. It helps. He sounds like a great guy who deserves love in his life.

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Patsie Hatley is Deceased

@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

He is a great guy and was there for me all the months that I was sick in the U.K. I have heard from him today and just hope that he will mke the decision to actively look for work out here and come home. But of course, it is his decision.

@Hatley (163772)

• Garden Grove, California

10 Feb 13

hi cynthiann well he still has time as I was 31 and my hubby 37when we met and married six weeks later. It was a good marriage although I am a widow now for a long time. I know how much you must miss both sons as mine is just three miles away and I miss him too We did share an apartment together but all that had to change when he was laid off but now thank God he has finally got a full time job not high wages only 15 an hour but its a job he was making 30 but now no opening in his field of computer programming at this time. He is just glad to be working full time. I hope your son wanting to find a girl meets the right one as it will be heavenly then fo

r him.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

10 Feb 13

I think that what I have always found strange is people who do not miss their adult children. I have known a few like this who said that they like to see them but they are just not close.I find this odd. Have you met anyone like this? I always pray that one day you and your son will live together again

Many blessings Hatley

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bonnie

@bunnybon7 (50970)

• Holiday, Florida

11 Feb 13

out of 5 theres only 3 i miss when they are not here and 2 of those are here with me.

sorry to say i prefer one that lives here be living else where because hes such a trial. i love him but dont like him much if that makes sense

thats my youngest and i hope some day he will straighten up soon so i can like him also.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

Yes, I do know of other mother's who have said the same as you about a child. They do love them but don't like them or rather dislike what they are doing with their lives. It does make sense to me.I do hope that he will straighten up

wilsongoddard

@wilsongoddard (7291)

• United States

10 Feb 13

It's good that you got to see him for a bit. I don't have any children yet. Even if I did have children, they would still be pre-teen or younger most likely. I do hope to adopt children within the next few years. However, I very much want for us to own our own house first. Then, we will be so much more settled than we are now--important for raising children.

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Jenny1015

@jenny1015 (13359)

• Philippines

11 Feb 13

My eldest son is 19 years old but he is still.studying and still stays with us. I would often think how it would be if all my sons have gone to have their own lives. I'd surely miss the riot in the house. Hust thinking about it now mskes me teary-eyed. I know how kids could be a handful at times, but our children will remain our babies no matter how old they get.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

I have three sons and a daughter to me - they will always be my sons and I will never stop loving them despite 3 of them married but one is getting divorced. They will never stop being our children

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Aminul Islam

@aminul842700 (861)

• Dhaka, Bangladesh

11 Feb 13

Sweet time passes very rapidly but bad time goes very slowly. I am sorry for your son. Have a very nice day.

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@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

Thank you for your wise words

pergammano

@pergammano (7682)

• Canada

10 Feb 13

Ahumoungous resounding...YES..YES! I actually got goose-bumps and a tear reading about your son! I am blessed..I have a son, only one (and that was not by choice)BUT he, even tho' now 32 is still my life! I believe when you have a child, your heart forever walks around outside your body! I truly can imagine the emptiness..the ol' house just seems to lose it's glow, when they leave. Even tho' my son only lives 14 miles away, as the crow flies, I see him about once every 3 to 4 months. That's because, like you, Ocean's seperate us and the Ferries are complicated and expensive to get here..and he does have a lady in his life. I am so sorry your son's confidence is broken, and we can only pray that time will be the healer, and the next relationship will be forever.

JO and I could not believe each other, we both have a son named T.J...LOL! I am at most angst when he travels to foreign countries for work..like China, India and South America! He loves South America, but even though a strapping 6 foot 4, he does not travel in China without bodyguards! So when he goes to China, I think I stop breathing (it feels like it) until he is back on good ol' Canadian terra firma! Thank you for accepting my friendship, and JO speaks so highly of you always! Take care, Shirley

my son

@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

10 Feb 13

I have been reading your posts and am so proud to be your friend. Than k yhoufor asking me. The love incrases doesn't it? It never diminishes. My eldest son is a politician so I klnow all aboout bodyguards and security. They do what they are called to do and we must always be there for them. I told my son that whilst he is unmarried then wherever I am is his home

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katsmeow1213

@katsmeow1213 (28716)

• United States

11 Feb 13

I don't have adult children yet, but I'm sure someday I will have to go through this. Hope you get to see all your kids again soon!

katsmeow1213

@katsmeow1213 (28716)

• United States

11 Feb 13

That sounds like a good idea. It's probably a great place to visit!

@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

Remember my daughter was in N.C. for three years and I loved it. Especially the shopping! The people are very nice and friendly to visitors. I sent a fourth of July in Sc one year and is was a wonderful occasion. Actually, I have just thought of something. I have never claimed by money from Mylot and it is nearly US$200 so I could use this money twards the ticket! Yay! I have a plan

I have never been one of those mylotters who have earned a dollar a day

But it will be a great help towards my ticket

@cynthiann (18612)

• Jamaica

11 Feb 13

Regretfully, Kat - it comes so soon

I will wait until the weather is warmer then maybe can get a cheap flight to South Carolina

dorannmwin

@dorannmwin (36392)

• United States

14 Feb 13

It is going to be a long time before I will have adult children. However, I know that my mother is a person that is truly blessed when it comes to her adult children because my little brother and sister still live with her and I live just a few miles away from all of them so she gets to see all of us on a very regular basis. In fact, just today I had my mother give my children and myself a ride to the grocery store because I didn't have a car here today so I was stuck at home until I was able to get a ride. I love getting to spend time with my mommy.

bounce58

@bounce58 (17380)

• Canada

13 Feb 13

My kids are still young, 12 and 6. But I'm sure that when they do get to be adults, and living their lives, visits would be far in between. I would terribly miss them. I know this for a fact because I rear them to be just like me, and I myself don't get to visit my parents too often. I did visit them last Christmas, but it was 3 or 4 years before the last one. I should hug them more while I still can!

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WakeUpKitty

@WakeUpKitty (8691)

• Netherlands

12 Feb 13

I have 3 adult daughters. The eldest did live elsewhere but after her relationship was broke she lived with us again for abou 4 months. Now she has a new bf and lives in the same city. We do have contact but she is busy with work, modelling, traveling way more just like me. We Always know how to reach eachtoher (texting or e-mail) and it's fine with me. We try to be there during birthdays or like last year we did celebrate 4 birthdays at the same day. The only other day we do celebrate togehter is St. Nicolaas (dec. 5th). One other adult daughter I don't see anymore, can't say I miss her. The 3rd adult daughter is still living with us (no bf). Although she is spending most time of her life in her bedroom, drawing behind her computer (she is animator). I think everybody should live his/her life him/herself. There will be a reason why your son has no gf or is not married. Sooner or later he will meet someone, but only if he keeps his eyes open. It's a pity your children do not live closer but leaving the nest is how it should be. The fact your children do manage elsewhere is a sign you did raise them well. Might be not the most positive situation but they have confidence enough to manage and make it work. I hope you will be able to visit your children as well.